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writes:Hi I'm 24 years old..And I'v been working for a year now but it has completely taken a toll on my social life!When I was a student I was very active,hang out with friends,go to a lounge..BUT now after work all I want to do is come back and sleep or rest and watch a DVD or netflix!I can't really call my friends home,because my mom has been staying home because of her health issues and I take care of her,although she's doing a lot better now she still lives at my place which I'm absolutely ok with!But what I don't understand is how do I get myself to have that social life again?I think my friends are getting irritated since I don't hang out with them that often!but I just get too tired after work that all I want is my bed!what do I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, Intrigued3000  +, writes (14 April 2013):
 I agree with NORA B. Taking care of your mom is a noble responsibility and deserves high praise. Have you ever thought about getting someone to help part time with your mom? For example another family member or a part time nurse who could sit with your mom two evenings a week for a few hours. You can use this time to meet with a friend for something low in activity like meeting for a coffee or a drink, or you could attend some event that you are invited to. Keep in touch with your friends via phone or text to maintain a friendship. I also think you should get yourself checked out by a doctor just to make sure that your fatigue is not due to any health issues like anaemia or diabetes. Make sure you take your vitamin Bs to give you extra energy. Also incorporate some sort of energizing activity like yoga into your routine. Yoga gives you so much energy and inner grounding.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2013): You've become a slave to routine. You feel guilty about leaving your mother alone, except to go to work. You don't mention much about your mother other than she is recovering from illness. Does she seem upset when you try to go out?Does she have a place of her own?You've grown a little depressed and don't seek much stimulation. You should join a gym to build stamina, get your juices flowing, and revitalize your young body and mind. You need to push yourself to socialize with your friends, even when you feel the TV and the couch beckoning to you. Rearrange your diet to include foods that will energize you. Get a physical exam, to make sure you have no underlying or undiagnosed illnesses.The easiest way to get yourself back out there, is to simply jump feet-first back into society. Stop for a bite, drinks, or coffee with a co-worker (or two) after work. Meet your friends out for lunch. Take walks in the park, or get a bicycle and just tour the town. Get your hair and nails done, buy a pretty outfit and go dancing. Start circulating; so eligible men become aware of your existence.You're sulking for some reason. Nothing is really holding you back. You really want your mother out of your apartment, and don't have the heart to admit it.I'm sure your mother would want you to enjoy being young and getting out to be with your friends and finding some companionship. Once she has fully regained health, you may need to help her find an efficiency apartment close by. Your place may be too small, and you don't have a sense of privacy with your mother always at home. When can you entertain your guests?You're all grown up now. Your mother shouldn't be around viewing every little aspect of your life. You're trying to behave; so she doesn't take judgement on you. You're trying to be a good little girl, and suffocating yourself in the process.
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reader, NORA B  +, writes (14 April 2013):
Well done you and take great credit on the care of your mum she is THE BEST FRIEND YOU WILL EVER HAVE.However i can understand that your friends might get irritated if you keep refusing to go out with them.As you are so tired after work would you consider going to a doctor and getting a tonic.Because working and taken care of your mum is not easy.Dont worry about your friends they will come around Right now the most important items are your health your mum your job.Kind Wishes Nora B.
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