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writes: I feel very sad, demoralized and like I should just give up on relationships. I was with my ex for six years. It was a troubled relationship. He was the jealous, controlling type, he was obsessed with my past and thought that I would cheat on him. I started isolating myself and had almost no friends. Now that we broke up I've heard rumors from numerous people who say he cheated on me multiple times. He denies it, of course. Now he's trying to make me miserable by constantly breaking no contact, and being really childish and manipulativeif I don't respond. I live in a small town, so it's easy to run into each other or his friends. He also stalks my Facebook, I don't know how if I blocked him.Anyway, I feel like he never loved me. Then there's the fact that other guys always seem to be interested just for sex. I don't dress provocatively or anything to make them think I would just be into casual flings. I guess what bothers me is that guys never take the time to see me as more than a vagina. I feel they don't see me or appreciate me as a person and they never have a ROMANTIC interest in me. Like I said I don't dress provocatively or think that I'm hot, maybe since I'm shy they think I have low self esteem or that they can easily have their way with me or maybe they see me as ugly and desperate, or all that, who knows. But what saddens me now is that I feel maybe I'll never be loved or respected. I feel like guys just see me as someone to be used, like my ex used me. I feel ashamed and hopeless, I feel lonely and scared. I'm losing hope and need words of wisdom and encouragement, please :(
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reader, NORA B  +, writes (6 May 2013):
First and foremost please remember that you hae no Need to feel ashamed the problem is Not with YOU but with the guys that yu hae met Believe you me we have all being there.You come to me as a very nice person with a good fashion sense.Would you consider joining a club with mixed company.Try a new course or some sport of your choice.That way you can get to know the guy pretty much before you go out with them One day you will meet some man that will love and respect you for you.Be gentle with youself enjoy life for every day is a gift.Look forward not back. Kind Wishes Nora B.
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