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writes:Hello,Im hoping to get some advice on the following situation. Thanks in advance.I moved to Europe and met a guy that i really liked and was in a relationship with for 3.5 months. (We are both 28 years old). I got attached very quickly. I was meant to go to a wedding with him but he didnt end up taking me and didnt answer his phone all weekend. On the sunday night he sent me a sms and said he wasnt ready for a relationship. He went on to say how much he liked me and this was hard on him blah blah. I was devastated (as i said i got attached quickly). Around the same time i had problems with my flat mate and i had lost my job. I decided to come home for a few months to save more money and recover emotionally. The same night he broke up with me I told him of my plan to leave and asked if we could see each other before i flew out. He said "no its not a good idea, it will just make it impossible". What ever that means?! Over a period of 4 days before i left his country I sent him numerous sms after the night he broke it off. I also tried to call him but he wouldnt answer. I wanted to know if we could still catch up as friends when i returned to his country (pathetic i know!). He completely ignored my attempts at contact and cut me off completely. I even messaged him on facebook to tell him i had arrived home safely but he still didnt reply. I sent him one last msg on facebook a couple of days later because I was hurt/angry and said he was a coward for ending things via sms and that he shouldnt go around hurting people. (Another silly move). He still didnt reply. That last msg was sent 2.5 weeks ago and since then i stopped contacting him and thought i would never hear from him again. Anyway, it was my birthday yesterday and he messaged me on facebook. I was shocked! He said "Hello, happy birthday... I hope you are well xo". So my question is to do i ignore it or say a simple thanks? I just keep remembering how he ignored me and how it hurt like hell! Also, does it "mean" anything or am I looking into it too much? Thanks again
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2011): Hi, im the original poster
Thanks again for your advice!
I deleted him off my friends list altogether and feel better now :)
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reader, natmarie  +, writes (16 April 2011):
 Did you respond? what happend? he is being mean x
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reader, macdubh712  +, writes (16 April 2011):
This guy is stringing you along because he is a player. If he didn't answer his phone all weekend I would put my money down that he was cheating on you with another woman. Then to TEXT you to say that he isn't ready for a relationship?? Excuse me for saying this but he is as worthless as boobies on a wild boar. Also, if you keep sending him messages when he doesn't respond, that is for nothing other than his ego. This is the type of person you cut from your life and when he tries to come back in you IGNORE him. If he doesn't get the message I say be rude to him. Tell him to piss off and never attempt to contact you again.
You sound like a nice person that doesn't deserve this type of treatment so DO NOT stand for it. Make sure this guy and every other guy from now on KNOWS you won't tolerate disrespect. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2011): Im the original poster..
I deleted him off my friends list altogether!! Thanks so much guys... you gave me the strength I needed x
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2011): Don't read anything into it but if I was you I would just say "thanks". If you ignore him then he will think you are still hurting or you still want him, and he will feel like he has power over you. But if all you say is thanks you are being the bigger person. Don't say anything more than thanks though or you will come off as needy.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (16 April 2011):
It means nothing. Sorry to tell you this, but this is just some guy with a big ego looking to get it stroked. I'll bet that if you respond, nothing will happen and you'll just get hurt or used.
The guy was crap before, and he's crap now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2011): It means he wished you happy birthday as a mate would, especially on Facebook where you get b'day alerts.
I wouldn't read too much into it he probably thinks your over him now you've gone quiet,moved away and its safe to send greetings without getting comeback
If you had a few messages just post a general 'thanks to all' message up. I don't think he dislikes you but was being honest when he said he was'nt ready - so if he ever is make him work damn hard and play it ice cool
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reader, welsh +, writes (16 April 2011):
You are reading too much into it. He has not treated you reasonably in the first place. Ignore the message and move on. He is definitely not worth your time.
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