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writes:I had a huge crush on somebody that I met 3 years ago. He was so cute and from another state. From the first time we met, we knew exactly that we were attracted to each other. He stayed at the hotel and we exchanged our cell phone numbers. The sex was so wonderful, until one day when I had my period. I said to myself, "Just a light period, it will be finished soon." But I was wrong. When he gave me doggy style, he noticed that I had my period. He was freaking out to see the blood on the bed sheet, he took a shower and I cleaned my own mess :-(. Then he told me that it was over between us. I was hurt by his remarks and had a broken heart at the same time (really cuts me to the bone). I'm still hurt now although I forgive him already. Tried to call and emailed him, but he never replied. This made me feel worst more. What can I do now ??
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks to all of you guys who respond to me and I really did appreciate your time and thought/concern about this. I know that he was to shalow and too idiot for me. Although I still love him (physically and emotionally), but he didn't see it that way. I should have been off without him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2011): I don't understand men who are grossed put by a woman's period. Personally I find being with my g/f during "that time of the month" even more intimate and special, and certainly preferable to going a week without sex!!
Even if you are squeamish you absolutely shouldn't make her feel bad or guilty. It's only natural, and hardly like she has any choice in the matter.
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reader, RedAthena +, writes (30 June 2011):
 You should have told him (since you knew) that you were spotty and did not tell him before.
He was there for the sex and was grossed out.
Learn from it.
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reader, Adorskable  +, writes (30 June 2011):
 I honestly feel that the guy should have known before hand. He could have a Germ phobia, he could be Muslim where a female is not even allowed to pray or have sex when they are in thier menstrual cycle because they are considered to be unclean.
To be honest If I was having sex with a man and I was giving him oral and he came in my mouth I would probably walk out and never call him again. I think this all depends on the person and I wouldn't only blame him for walking out because you too played a part in this by not telling him or giving him a choice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionJonas, we've been together for almost one and half year. But he dumbed me almost 3 years ago. I believed that he was pretty selfish to do that against me. But I can't help it, can't against the mother nature, sadly :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe told me that he was single and showed me no ring on his fingers. And I did the same. If he got sick over my carpet, I will forgive him.. and don't wanna break-up with him....
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (30 June 2011):
 And lullabies put women to sleep... so they forget to keep their eyes open.... :)
I don't know exactly why he acted that way, maybe he was really THAT grossed out, maybe he was just looking for a pretext to break up. Either way, I still doubt that someone who really cared would have broken up over something like this...
Let's put it this way- if he had eaten something bad, and got sick over your carpet, would you have made a scene and broken immediately up with him...?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question
Natmarie,
Thanks... He shouldn't turn off against me that way... Next time, if I have my period, it will be best if I tell my partner first or take a shower together to avoid the mess in bed...
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2011): He could have dealt with it in a far more sensitive way. x
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question
What will I do if I have a chance to see him somebody ? Do I have to pretend not to know him ? This guy caused me lots of troubles, although I forgive him already...
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reader, natmarie  +, writes (30 June 2011):
 maybe, but I doubt it. he sounds a bit shalow!!these things happen.. it should not have been enough to turn him off for good;.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2011): Have to say, as a man, the idea of having sex during a woman's period isn't appealing. I'm sorry if that offends certain women, it's just the way it is for a lot of men. Just like some women don't like giving oral sex. That's just a preference for some people, regardless of whether they love someone or not. This is the case for a lot of men and it is ALWAYS best to check this out before the event.
My ex (of 9 years) knew and accepted this and in fact didn't herself like having sex while she was on her period.
However, most of us would have behaved FAR better than this jerk did about it.
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reader, iloveblue  +, writes (30 June 2011):
 I could relate to your post. It happened many times with me with my current bf and he really really hates it. He always triggers day 1 of my period and even if i know I am not supposed to bleed yet (like it should be next day or 2), the intercourse would make me start bleeding.Yes, this guy might be just after the sex. But also, he might have felt you tricked him and that was the deal breaker for him. Always let your partner know what's your status down there. Are you expecting tomorrow to be your first day or is this your Day 5..even if there's no single stain anywhere. Sex is a rigorous act and it can trigger any blood in your vagina to start coming out.Forget this guy, he's clearly not that into you. Find someone who really cares and in situations like this would just shrug his shoulders and say "next time, let me know honey, ok?"..And not one who will break up with you!Best of luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question
CindyCares,
He told me that he cares about me, flirts with me in front of my friends. He was sooo sizzling and I was lullabied by him completely. I'm trying hard to understand why he left me...
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question
Blonde30s,
My period always in the middle of the month and honestly, I had no idea why did I have my (light) period the late of the month that day. Thanks for your advice :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question
Serenity80, you're right... He used me for sex. But I was delighted to see his update from Mylife, Windows Live, stuff like that... I don't mind to pay by my Credit Card and want to see his update by it. I'm not mad with him, I'm mad and blame everything on me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI always have my period every early of the month. That happened in the middle of the month. Maybe he was freaking out and thought that I might be pregnant by him :(
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (30 June 2011):
 I had this happen once with a guy.. but it was because my period started during sex... he never called again..
You needed to tell him first... some guys freak out more than others.
but to be honest.. it sounds like all he was interested in was sex not a relationship with you.... because I agree with CindyCares.... if the guy really cared, while this might be an issue it should not be a deal breaker.
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reader, natmarie +, writes (30 June 2011):
What did you say in your emails to him?
When did you send them to him? Sounds like he gave up pretty quickly . He may have thought you tricked him and new you had your period. Some guys hate that. x let me kwno how you get on. x
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reader, CindyCares +, writes (30 June 2011):
Yes, always tell him beforehand .Some guys do not mind, but for some it's really taboo.
Supposed this guy is particularly squeamish, or even has religious interdiction re. sex durings periods... he may have felt "tricked " into having sex and that's why he reacted so strongly.
Then again, not that you have missed much probably. This kind of accidents would generally not be such a total dealbreaker for someone who cares about you.
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reader, serenity80 +, writes (30 June 2011):
This guy was only interested in you for sex, but you had feeling for him as well. I know it hurts but the best thing you can do is to stop trying to call and email him, and move on. He obviously doesn't want to speak to you.
It sounds like you need to be more mindful of whether or not someone has deeper feelings for you, or if it is just about sex. For example, if you with a boyfriend, or someone who cared about you, if the same incident occured with the period, they would not have freaked out and would have not wanted you to be uncomfortable.
Move on from this guy and see this as a lesson about sex and relationships.
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