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*uli
writes:I really need help its been one year in a half that ive been broked up with my ex I am suffering for him still I cry alot over him its just hard to forget about him why?what can I do?is it love?omg im confused I cant be happy with other guys because of my ex that I cant forget please help I need someone to talk to me with honesty please and thank you.
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reader, yuli +, writes (3 June 2011):
yuli is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you jac2b55 I wanted to get pregnant beacause both of us were in love with eachother so much he wanted a babie too.
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reader, Jac2b55  +, writes (3 June 2011):
 Hey there,i think you should listen to your mum and be grateful that you are not in a situation now as a teenage mother.Why did you want to get pregnant? Its understandable that when you are in love with someone that you would want to take the next step in your relationship. But that should not include pregnancy. You have you along time left to have children, now is the time for you.I am really concerned about your low self esteem and neediness for love. PLEASE look into seeing a counselor.The only person you should be losing weight for is yourself, the only person right now that you should be concentrating on loving is yourself.Please, please, please surround yourself with people that care for you and want the best for you and know that you can have an amazing future. Long term serious relationships are for adults.. Enjoy your teenage years as a free and independant person, not as a tied down teenage mum. Life has so much to give you, focusing on this guy is taking away from other experiences that you could be enjoying.All the best, i hope you come to realise how worthwhile you are x
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reader, yuli +, writes (3 June 2011):
yuli is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAnd wWe splited up because of my mom because I was goana get pregnant andShe didnt like the idea but it did hurt me for what she did,im still mad for what she did because I hadnt been happy since then she destroyed my happyness any help with that please?and also when I was together with my ex I was really skinney,radiant because I was deeply in love with him but when we broke up I guess I got depressed because I started eating alot which I was embarrased to go see him because he saw me when I was skinney and then fatt hes goana be like whatt! Yes it did harm me which now im trying to loose all my weight just to go see him:)? Hope you can help
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reader, natmarie  +, writes (2 June 2011):
 That's a good sign that he siad he misses you and wants to see you.Maybe the sooner you see him the better, as sometimes when we see that person again after a long time, we dont; feel the way we thought we would, and it can 'lay the ghost' so to speak. I know it;s easier said than done, but try and date other guys too, as this wil take your mind off him. Whwy did you both split up? Have you put the weight on since you last saw him? does that worry you? if he loves you , it won;t matter anyway. I think you should meet him asap. Alos, try and speka to him on the phone fisrt, so you can gauge what's going on with him., ans what his intention is, so you don;t wind up getting hurt if and when you do meet him. Can you call him?
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reader, yuli +, writes (2 June 2011):
yuli is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you every one your answers were kinda helpful I thank jac2b55. Also I want to thank natmarie and no I hadnt seen him for a year Im goana go see him soon once I loose all my weight we do text eachother and he does tell me that he misses me and he want me to see him which I am soon.we bareley had contacted eachother 3 days ago and he is my 2 second bf but hes my first in sex.can u help please natmarie ?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (1 June 2011):
 it's so hard when you love someone and they don't love you.
can you see a counselor?
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reader, natmarie +, writes (1 June 2011):
HI. I;m sorry ou feel like this, I think male anon is right. Sned him an email or text and tell him exactly how you feel. Even if he does not respond.. you will feel better for having said it. Do you ever see him anywhere? when was the last time you both had contact? was he your first BF? if so, do you think that's why you still feel like this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2011): Send him text/email that you still love him. Poor baby, this is love.. and if it's not, who cares... you are in pain and you need to communicate. Don't expect anything back.. just feel it and communicate. Without any grudges..
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reader, Jac2b55 +, writes (1 June 2011):
Honey you are only very young, consider yourself lucky that at your age you have found some qualities in a male that you would like in the future. Now is the time to have fun with your friends, share a few kisses and set the foundations for your future.The fact that you are still holding onto your ex shows me that you are not focusing on the things you should be. You are to young to live in the past, you have your whole future ahead of you.Look after youself, and move forward x
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