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writes:There is a girl who I think I am in love with that has a boyfriend. She is the nicest person in the world and she is really caring, so much that myself and others call her mom as a joke. she is so nice to me and everyone else that I cannot tell if she likes me secretly or is just being herself. How can I find this out without telling her I like her? We sometimes sneak out late at night in small groups of friends to hang out but I find it strange that she never invites her boyfriend. I think it might be a sign, but I feel that I am not capable of thinking clearly about this sort of thing because I am blinded by my love for her. Also if I cannot find out if she likes me without letting her know I like her, should I just tell her? I am really good friends with her and that is why I don't want to make a mistake. If you are the person in this question contact me please. You have my number already.
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reader, 584 +, writes (21 June 2009):
584 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOk to the last post... thank you, you pointed out some key points. What I got out of it was that you think I'm shy. Well I am, that's my problem and I have known its been my problem for a long time. One of the reasons I like this girl so much is that she is bringing me out of my shell. Over the year that I've known her I have been more and more willing to go out and do things to get her, and not be emberassed by them like I used to. Maybe I won't end up with this girl. Its not the end of the world I know, but so far I've gained a lot personally from being close to her. I like her because I feel like she can help me. I also feel like I just answered my own question by thinking about this. Thank you for being so critical q1605. At first when I read your comment I didn't like it because you hit the nail on the head when you said people like me only like the responses they want to hear. Now I see. Also I asked about her boyfriend and she said she doesn't talk about his around me because she thinks it would be annoying. We talked about being on the friends list and how she likes being friends before a relationship. Basically it sounded like she knew I liked her and she was telling me what to do because in the meantime she has a boyfriend. I've decided to move on and like other girls until she's ready. But ill never forget her even if nothing happens, because she is just such a great person.
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reader, 584 +, writes (18 June 2009):
584 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the help. Ms. Helper I will definantly investigate the reason why her boyfriend never comes before I say anything about liking her. I usually never do anything unless I'm 100% sure. That's the problem with love, I'm never 100% sure unless its just some slutty chick and I don't like those girls. Also its not that the boyfriend is not there when we sneak out, its that I have NEVER hear her talk about him at all. I happen to know that they are more on a friend type relationship because I managed to ask her about them once. I don't know if that is a good or bad thing for me. Any other suggestions?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2009): i dont think you should tell her if you 2 r good friends unless u r sure she feels the same way, if this girl has a boyfriend you should respect that. if it was meant to be then it will b, just bind ur time and you will know when the time is right to tell her
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reader, betty_black  +, writes (17 June 2009):
 I dont wanna sound too cynical but maybe she just doesnt wana always hang out with her bf and wants friend time?? I know me and my boyfriend dont ALWAYS wanna be with each other, you end up driving each other insane! Its important to have something for yourself as well. If you all call her mom and shes generally just a helpful person then maybe that is just simply her being herself. I dont know, maybe being optimistic she does want you. If you want to risk the friendship ask her, but be warned, it could ruin everything. Good luck!
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reader, Ms.Helper +, writes (17 June 2009):
 This is so cute :) if she never invites her boyfriend out you could be in there! But there are many many other possibilities too unfortunately.
Try talking to her one to one, find out why she doesn't invite her boyfriend out. 'Where's your boyfriend then eh?!' And just joke about it to soften it up a bit maybe?
Or you could just tell her you like her and risk it. If she's so lovely she isn't going to hit you and cuss you away now is she? :) i doubt it would ruin your relationship, but if your scared it will then just get to know her more, and not the group of friends. Maybe just go out with her, and see if she mentions her boyfriend?
Good luck whatever you choose to do :)
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