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writes:My boyfriend and i live together,yesterday i had the day off from work,i worked overtime yesterday so i got home around 8pm. I usually leave pajamas in the bathroom so when im ready for them i know exactly where they are. To my surprise when i came home my things were not where i left them,i found them thrown in the corner behind the closet door,so when i asked my boyfriend why were my thing thrown back there,he stated his friends were over earlier in the day and one of his friend started playing with my stuff. I immediately remove my bed sheets and ask him to sleep on the couch because i felt like he a female company and felt violated. My question is did i over react? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2009): you know him best, but why would other friend touch your things. fishy story. it seems like he was hiding some evidence of your existence. i don't think you over reacted but your 6th sense kicked in.
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reader, bellaaddison +, writes (14 May 2009):
My initial response, based soley on what you have told us, is hell yeah! Why would you have any reason to believe that there was a female there, and if there were, what's the big deal? He's either given you serious reason to doubt his fidelity or has violated your trust in the past??? OR, you don't trust yourself. It's no secret that if we can't trust ourselves, we certainly can't trust others...
Some more information would probably be helpful.
Bella
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reader, StudentOfLife  +, writes (14 May 2009):
 Over react? Is that the correct question to this story? What if he's telling the truth?
If things aren't at the same place = cheating ?
Why is it the first thing that came up in your mind?
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reader, Ms.Helper  +, writes (14 May 2009):
 I think you did over-react, but I understand why you did...
I would have done the same thing!
I think you basically put 2 and 2 together without thinking outside the box.
You should talk to him about it and if he did have his friends over, maybe ask him why he let them play with your things?
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reader, amrympwife +, writes (14 May 2009):
i would have done the same....did he ever tell you the truth about who was over at your house? and weather it was a girl or guy?...i usually act before i think...and it gets my hubby and i into alot of fights...
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