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writes:I get jealous of anything my boyfriend does with out me! If he texts his friends more than me. Or goes out without me. Etc Things like this. I feel that if he does stuff without me he will want to do it all the time. And i come last! Its like nothing he does is could enough. If he dont text by a certain time i think hes gone off me. Or if he dont reply by a certain time i think he cant be bothered. And then i think but i bet hes texted his friends bout stuff. Its like i need constant attention to believe he loves me! He does i know it. And when we are together its wonderful. But the moment hes gone its like i need him to reasure me that he still cares! And i think he will meet someone inbetween and that will be it. Even though when we r together. He kisses. Cuddles me. Tells me that i nag him and he wouldnt put up with it from any girl but me. They would be out the door! And he says why do u think im here cos i love u and your the best thing ever to happen to me! I know it .but dont believe it! Help. X
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2011): i have the same problem i get so jealous abot my boyfriend with any littlw thing that he does. you just have to realize that he obviosly loves you if he is with you and rthat he is not going to hurt you in any way. if he wanted someone else then he would just break up with you instead of going after another girl. you have to know where you stand in the relationship: does he treat you like your everything to hi and if he does then he loves you and isn't going to hurt you. so just think about this: if he wanted someone else he would have them and not you so just cheerish what you have with him and dont worry about anyone else but ya'll!!
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reader, curlysue83  +, writes (12 May 2009):
I can understand where you may feel insecure if u have been cheated on or done wrong in the past, but its called the PAST for a reason. Its behind you. Your boyfriend now has nothing to do with those other assholes that may have done anything to you, thats why hes your boyfriend and not your ex. Soundslike you have some insecurity issues u need to iron out within yourself, because if you keep going at the rate that you are, you may do nothing but push your boyfriend further away from you. If you know he loves you, trust in him and let him have his own life, go out with his friends, do what he wants to do. He will still be your boyfriend when he comes home, i promise.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2009): I know exactly how you feel, ive been cheated on so many times that i just find it impossible to trust my current partner, he has never hurt me but i always feel paranoid or jelous when he is textingg other people or going out without me or not texting etc. He is going to university soon and its going to turn into a long distance relationship wich makes it even worse.
I hope it helps to know your not the only one with this issue
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2009): Yeah I felt the same here too. I wouldnt worry too much about it. You just like the attention and want feel loved. However try and not be too clingy as you may put him off but youre not alone and he loves you!
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reader, kellyO +, writes (11 May 2009):
 Hi,
Is understandable you want to spend all the time with him becos you love him but try not to be too clingy. Find other ways to occupy your time when he is not with you. I am sure you have friends as well you could go out with them on a ladies outings or spend time with family. what about hobbies am sure u can fill in your time and this will distracts you.
That is what i do in my own relationship.
Goodluck
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reader, Ms.Helper +, writes (11 May 2009):
 Y'no, that's so weird, because I'm EXACTLY the same. I could have wrote that, that's how bad it is! Haha.I feel the same with the friends thing, like this weekend we've both agreed to go out with our friends, which we don't do very often! But then if we see each other too much we bicker. This isn't advice as I don't know what to do myself, but just to let you know that you're not on your own!x
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