A
female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:I know I am to young to have sex and I should wait till I am ready and in love but lately I have been very self-conscious about my body.All my friends have almost perfect bodies…but I don’t….when I get undressed its obvious I have baggy breast that are anything but small, a large vagina, I am very plump, and many other things but I can deal with what isn’t mentioned (with clothes on I look fine [other than I sweat under my arms but I am going to the doctors to get that fixed] and I don’t look completely disgusting with just a bra and panties on).Because of all this I have developed these fears that my first time having sex will be horrible because of the way I look….I am afraid that he will get grossed out or ill be so caught up in what I look like that I wont even be paying attention to him….etc. etc.How can I fix all these things about me? Or at least boost my ego a little so I will be more confident when it happens?thank you very much for any help X
View related questions:
bra , vagina Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, anoms  +, writes (31 May 2009):
 i know a handfull of women that have what i would call "perfect bodies", but do you know what i hear when ever i compliment them? "no i dont im fat, i have a big ass, i have small boobs blabla" and this is coming from women i would consider worthy of a professional modeling career with perfectly toned figures without an Oz of fat. what im saying is nobody considers themselves perfect, nobody is ever truly happy with every aspect of their image, it doesnt matter who they are, even those who show the utmost confidence in there bodies. if you ask your friends honestly and individualy "what would you change about your body?" if they are honest you will get a shopping list of problems and aswell as that im sure half of them would be happier with what you personaly see as an irregular body image as appose to what they have. so in the end it only comes down to you and your choice of partner and most guys dont like to admit how self-conscious they are, so when you do get around to your first relasionship you'l probably relise how important it is to love them for what they also perceive as personal flaws, well gudluk
A
female
reader, Ms.Helper +, writes (30 May 2009):
 Well, the first time you have sex - hopefully - you'll be in a stable relationship. The boy you loose your virginity to will love you on the inside, aswell as the outside; but he'll love you, not your hair or your perfect make-up. What kind of person has sex and at the end their make-up is still perfect and their hair hasn't moved?! Nobody!!! A boy would surely be insulted if you still looked perfect (in his eyes) after sex! No matter what your body looks like when your naked, he'll love it! He'll love it because he'll accept it as a part of you. It wouldn't change how much he loved you if you had a 'perfect' body or wether you didn't have the 'perfect' body most women and girls worry about nowadays.
Don't worry so much! But make sure you don't just throw your virginity away either!
Good luck x
...............................
A
female
reader, aphexinfinite +, writes (30 May 2009):
 you are fine the way you are but since its you with the problem then you need to changes the problem ie either your out look or i think you mentioned your plump how about trying to loose a little weight im not saying go get consmetics done far from it but you have to change the way you feel not someone else. if someone loves you then they love you for who you are and not what. as for the sex your under age and your body is not formed yet to be able to deal with this that is why their is a age limit its not for the fun of it. good luck aphex
...............................
|
