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Anal sex question...any advice?
Q. This is pretty embarassing for me, but..., I want to have anal sex with my bf but I have hemhroids--is it possible to still have a good time? I've been waiting for them to go away but they've been around on and off for about 7 mo. I know, I should c...
A. 2 May 2008: Go to the docs and get it sorted - personally I think anal sex will hurt like hell with this condition and make it worse x... (read in full...)
Do you think he'll cheat? He has his cell phone off! I don't even know if it counts as cheating!
Q. Me and my BF are kind of on a break... He went out of town and is returning on Saturday. Just before going away yesterday, we fought and he dumped me. I had seen him a few days before. he almost criend when he said he'd miss me. I gave him my...
A. 2 May 2008: Maybe his phones off so he can have to time to think about your relationship and if you text him etc he's not going to get the chance to miss you. You can cheat with your phone switched on too so dont assume it means anything. Give yourselves some ... (read in full...)
Is honesty really the best thing?
Q. First things first, I'm not gay nor do I have anything against them. I have very a feminine outlook on things and I am sexist to my own gender. When I tell girls this, I get the feeling that they think I'm saying it just to make them attracted to me ...
A. 2 May 2008: Dont make a big issue of it and you dont need to tell them this straight out just let them meet the real you and make up their own minds about what kind of guy you are x... (read in full...)
I'm dating her but I don't understand her!! How can I figure her out?
Q. Hello. I've been seeing a girl for about 8 months now, and to be honest, I just don't feel like I know her very well at all. Maybe I'm just being obtuse but, there are things about her I don't understand/know how to deal with, and I'd REALLY a...
A. 2 May 2008: Dont even try to understand us because as soon as you do we move the goal posts!! Seriously though it sounds as though there is something very painful going on that she just cannot share with you. i think you have to respect that and if you love ... (read in full...)
Why was he masturbating over a steak and kidney pudding?
Q. I found my boyfriend masturbating over a steak and kidney pudding. As anyone else come across this odd behaviour....
A. 2 May 2008: Ummmm no!!! Im sure its ok though bit weird but everyones different x... (read in full...)
When do breasts stop growing?
Q. When your breasts start growing, do they keep growing till you're, say, 21? Or is it possible that they stop growing before that age?...
A. 1 May 2008: They change through out your life so dont think that what you have now is what you will always be stuck with. I was a 34C at 16 and a saggy 32a at 32 lost them after having kids and was quite skinny at the time, when I stopped smoking they just ... (read in full...)
Weight problems, period delay and suspect urine smell - what could be the root of my problems? Any advice?
Q. Okay girls, if anyone can help me i could really do with some advice. I’ve lost in the past few months a bit of weight, 54kg to 48kg so now i’m considered as underweight. my period came last month okay, but this month it hasn’t shown up. urine ...
A. 1 May 2008: If you've lost that much weight the urine smell could be down to ketones being released as your body compensates for the lack of nutrition - it often smells like pear drops as can your breath. Low weight affects periods too. You need to see a doctor ... (read in full...)
I found out my boyfriend joined a sex dating site. I don't know what to do.
Q. Hey all, where do i start, well im new to this but just so confused ,feel like i could talk to someone better, if they dont know me, than friends who give advice, not saying that we wont become friends on this site but you'll understand when i say ...
A. 1 May 2008: It could be that he has looked at this site once and now gets unwanted emails. Face him head on and ask him about it and let him know it is unacceptable behaviour to even look. He might just have looked because someone told him about this site and ... (read in full...)
He's gone grey and I'm embarrassed. How do I talk to him about it?
Q. this may seem a bit like a dumb question but my boyfriend is gray/white at 30 and i'm finding it really a turn off and a bit embarrassing- how can i talk to him about it? because i think he needs to do something. I don't think i'm being unreasonab...
A. 1 May 2008: If he's happy with it then you shouldnt let it bother you and sod what your friends think. My hubby had a bald patch when I met him its got a little bigger but as Im really short I dont see it very often so it doesnt bother me. The only thing I say ... (read in full...)
She's only doing because I want it?
Q. My girlfriend and I've been having sex a few times. The problem we're facing here that though I give her every sexual satisfaction(and she herself says she's really happy by that), she doesn't feels likely of giving her head, a blowjob that is. I ...
A. 1 May 2008: Lots of women dont like and forcing the issue will make it worse. Would you want one in your mouth!! Keep it as a treat once in a while and dont ask for it every time. Find other ways she can pleasure you maybe with her hands. It may be that she ... (read in full...)
A three year relationship and no sex. How long can it go on?
Q. Im Not sure what to do about my reationship. I have been going out with my girlfriend for 3 years now and living with her for the last 2 yrs. We have never had intercourse yet because she is scared of getting pregnant and probably would like...
A. 1 May 2008: It sounds to me she has a real problem with sex for some reason, you can stop getting pregnant easily so there must be something else preventing her. You need to sit and talk to her and maybe even suggest counselling for any previous trauma or sex ... (read in full...)
10 years older than me and I'm in love. Is it a problem?
Q. Have a nice month to everyone!! Well what will you prefer most?: a nice relationship with a man or a woman at the same age with you..or with a man or a woman older than you? I like a guy which is older than me 10 years! I'm just wondering if ...
A. 1 May 2008: It depends on your age, 16 to 26 seems like a huge age gap but 26 to 36 or 36 to 46 doesnt sound as bad. Age has nothing to do with love and everyone is different. I thought hubbie was early 40's when we met (i was 35) and I normally go for older ... (read in full...)
My husband wanting me to act like a whore during sex disturbs me.
Q. While we are having sex, my husband wants me to help him imagine that he is fucking a really hot whore. I try to do it at times, but it becomes very difficult to digest it and live with it. As a result i am very disturbed about it. Please advise....
A. 1 May 2008: Tell him you are okay with it as a fantasy occasionally but dont let it became a regular habit or you will find he cant enjoy sex without this roleplay. Dress up a bit and suggest a sexy waitress or something instead as an alternative. My hubbie ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend comes from an abusive background. Should I be worried if he abuses our cat?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating over a year now and I couldn't be happier with him. But, he comes from an abusive background and that worries me. We have a cat that we bought together. He likes to put her inside the bath tub or shower because he ...
A. 1 May 2008: My ex kicked cats and beat me up. I could never hurt another person or an animal. Is the cat suffering or enjoying it?? Ask him to stop and see how he reacts x... (read in full...)
How can I avoid having an affair with this woman at work?
Q. I'm married and have a baby but I've been attracted to this woman at work for a few years, and I believe she is attracted to me as well. I don't plan on breaking my marriage vows, but I can't get her off my mind. Any suggestions on how to stop ...
A. 1 May 2008: You made your vows to be with your wife and it will hurt so many people if you do anything. I dont think you can stop these feelings but you dont have to act on them. If you really love your wife then it will be a mistake, just think of all the ... (read in full...)
I was shocked when my friend told me she was no longer a virgin.
Q. Yesterday my best friend told me a secret. She told me that she wasn't a virgin anymore. I was in total shock. I thought she knew better than to do something like that. I don't know how to explain it, but ever since she told me that she wasn't a ...
A. 1 May 2008: If she was ready to start having sex then that is fine. Just be supportive and make sure she knows about safe sex etc and be there for her if it does fail. Dont judge her just because you are not ready yet - your time will come and you will need ... (read in full...)
He has lots of casual sex buddies, will I be different?
Q. Dear cupid Am stuck in a rut and really confused as to what is going on and what do i do now. I have this male pal whom we've been chatting and talking via phone for the last 6 months, at first we started out just being pals, talking about an...
A. 1 May 2008: He is a player. Of course he got angry he wanted to add you to his collection and now sex is out of the question he's no longer interested. If he talks to you about what he's doing to other women he is not interested in a loving monogamous ... (read in full...)
Why would a man who loves his wife and family keep me around? I want us to be together!
Q. I have known a wonderful guy for over 20 years -we have been having an affair for 15 years. I have loved him all this time. He has been married with kids all this time - I've been married and divorced twice. Although we have never discussed this, ...
A. 1 May 2008: Why should he leave his wife when for 15 years he's had the best of both world's. If he hasnt left her yet he is never going to be with you full time. You are stopping yourself from creating a normal loving relationship with someone who can commit ... (read in full...)
Trust me I love pain and pleasure, but with him it hurts so much, I cry!!
Q. My boyfriend and I are having sex, and I've had sex plenty of times with my ex's with no problems, but with him it hurts, like so badly I've cried. Trust me I love pain and pleasure, the two were made for each other, but I can't take that, it's so p...
A. 1 May 2008: I have had all shapes and sizes from really well endowed to miniscule but I had to end a relationship with one guy as it just would not fit. It looked like a leg of lamb with the thick end at the top - gross!!!!! The first time I saw it I nearly ... (read in full...)
It's really bothered me that he didn't send me even a card on my birthday.
Q. I have been in a long distance relationship for about 4 years now. My question is: Should I expect a B-day gift or something from my b/f? My b-day was on sunday and I was hoping my b/f will send me flowers or a b-day card, but he didn't. This is my ...
A. 1 May 2008: Mu husband took me to paris for our first valentines together and didnt buy me a card. Can you imagine it. I'm all upset over a piece of paper and he's saying 'But i brought you to PARIS for god's sake!!!!' I have now trained him and have had some ... (read in full...)
Do I have a butt fetish here? Anyone else? Does it make me a pervet?
Q. Ladies, do you like it when a guy kisses and licks your butt cheeks? Does it make you sexually aroused? The reason I ask is I love doing this for a woman. I think a woman's butt is the sexiest part of her body, so when I see a woman's bare butt, I ...
A. 1 May 2008: I love lying on my front and letting hubbie lick and nibble me from neck all the way down to the ankles,including inner leg, outer leg area and yes the buttocks, just as long as he doesnt get too close the 'no go' area or I clam up!! I prefer this ... (read in full...)
Me and my best friend like the same guy. What can I do?
Q. well me and my bestfriend like the same guy, and its kind of hard to tell her that i like him, cuz in the last few days she has been really depressed, and i dont really want to be another reason for her to be sad. i really like this guy, and i think ...
A. 1 May 2008: I think you should let the guy decide!! That way its not your fault if he chooses you and your friend has to realise that she you cant force this boy to be with her if he's eyeing you up - whether she likes him or not. good luck x... (read in full...)
I've been dating him but discovered I like his friend more, what to do?
Q. hi, there is this guy that ive have been on date with and he is really nice. but as ive got to know his friends i have started to like his best friend more. we get on a lot better and people have said that we go better together. what should i do? ...
A. 1 May 2008: First of all forget what other people think and decide if you really want a relationship with the first guy as it sounds as though he's not really pushing the right buttons. Dont start dating his mate immediately but leave some time before you make ... (read in full...)
I want more sex. Is it his age and will it get worse?
Q. I am in a bit of a bind and don't know what to do. I have been in a committed loving relationship with a man almost 20 years older than me (I am 24). The problem is sex. He would be happy with once a week or fortnight while I start to not cope after ...
A. 1 May 2008: It's always hard when one partner wants more sex than the other and you end up feeling rejected. There always seems to be more sex at the beginning of the relationship when you go through that cant keep your hands of each other phase. It may be ... (read in full...)
Do you have to be swept off your feet by a person right off the bat for them to be a great match?
Q. Do you have to be swept off your feet by a person right off the bat for them to be a great match? I've been dating a guy for a few weeks now. I'm looking to start a serious relationship, so I don't want to waste any time with someone I don't ...
A. 1 May 2008: Hard one to answer - I think love can grow when you spend enough time with someone. The only drawback I have found in relationships like that is that when eveything's not quite so rosy you might look at them and wonder what you are doing with them ... (read in full...)
She still swears nothing more than kissing ever happened what do YOU think?
Q. About 2 years ago my girlfriend started a relationship with her ex for about 2 months behind my back (we had been together for 3 years at the time). They had been in an online relationship for years before we were together and talked frequently on ...
A. 30 April 2008: You wont be satisfied until you are told - yes it happened. It will eat away at you as she has changed her story so many times so you need to sit her down one last time and ask for the full story. If you cant handle the truth and dont want to lose ... (read in full...)
I need an outsiders perspective of family problems disrupting our wedding plans?
Q. Hi, Me and my fiance are due to get married in July. It's now almost May and she wants to call it off. The problem started when we got engaged. My parents started treating my GF different in a big way. It became a big problem and I became dep...
A. 30 April 2008: Rebook the wedding and go off on your own if you need to and do it privately. You cant start married life off like this. At the end of the day its your wedding not the family's. If you allow them to interfere they will always do it. I had a ... (read in full...)
I can't imagine leaving my family and mainly my son, but I desperately want to be with this other woman-Can I have advice please?
Q. I have been married for the past 9 years and, like many others I'm sure, the past few years have been rocky ones. I have always done everything in my power to make my wife happy. We have moved 3 times to different homes because she wanted bigger ...
A. 30 April 2008: For your son's sake it would seem better to work it out but dont stay just for him as an unhappy household is not necessarily any better for him than a single parent one. Kids money issues and moving house are the main reasons for arguments and ... (read in full...)
My ex broke up with me when I revealed my secret, I'm not handling it very well, help!
Q. i dont want to stop loving my ex. we broke up a month ago i really believed we were perfect together, best friends but i kept a secret from him for a year. last year his friend tried it on with me but i said no. i knew this would hurt my bf so i ...
A. 30 April 2008: It is hard to know what to do and I can understand where you are both coming from as Ive experienced both sides of secrets personally. Give him time to think things through. It could have gone either way if you had told him originally he could ... (read in full...)
I do not want to see him until my skin looks amazing - how to hide my blemishes?
Q. Hi.I need help with something.I like this guy but i don't want to see him unless my skin looks absolutely perfect.I just would like to know which is good make up to use to hide anything like blemishes. I have porcelain skin which is why i'm find...
A. 30 April 2008: He will accept you as you are. I have one or two scars on my cheeks from acne years ago but my husband still tells me i'm beautiful and thinks the little holes are cute. From experience trying to cover blemishes makes them worse and more ... (read in full...)
Why can't my ex-boyfriend be my friend at least?
Q. I am 31 years old and many of you may be wondering what is she doing here? But believe me it gets worse with age....I fell in love with someone who dumped me 2 months ago. I didnt see him for long, only 4 months but found him to be just the kind of ...
A. 30 April 2008: Let it go, sounds like mummy didnt want her precious son bringing up someones else's child. Yes its hard bringing up step kids but if he has listened to her he is not the man you thought he was. Its very hard to stay friends with someone unless its ... (read in full...)
I constantly want sex! Is there something wrong with me?
Q. Help! I think im addicted to sex. Me and my bf have a great sex life but i think about sex all the time. Even at work. I suddenly get really horny without anything even triggering it! I masturbate every day (sometimes more than once) and even s...
A. 30 April 2008: Enjoy it!! You will go through lots of different phases with your sex drive mine seemed to peak again in my 30's and its still going strong at nearly 40. You will also go though phases where you go off sex. All perfectly normal x... (read in full...)
I am conflicted and seeking guidance, preferably from other Christians
Q. I have a serious problem I'm not sure how to explain it fully... I come from a very Christian background and I believe the bible very strongly. I married my husband almost a year ago, and lost my virginity to him on our wedding night. I am a very ...
A. 30 April 2008: Religion makes life very complicated and you will face many conflicts but surely in your heart you know you cant give the baby up. Im a catholic but I am not anti this or that rather I am pro choice. I think that you would find it very hard to ... (read in full...)
Is it fair my married lover wants me 100% yet he is still committed to his other life?
Q. My married boyfriend seems to really love me and forsakes his family for me quite often.I feel guilty at times and when i tell him so he really gets angry at me.I know i can never have him 100% so i also keep abit of a distance from him but he ...
A. 30 April 2008: He is having his cake and eating it. Most married men dont want to actually leave their wives but enjoy the excitment of having the secret and no real attachment to their mistresses. You have to ask what you want from this relationship - are you ... (read in full...)
Check this out for me aunties.. is he in love with this other woman? Was he planning to cheat on me?
Q. My boyfrend wanted to take a flite back to his hometown to meet up a group of ex collegues who were flying in from another country for work, in particular a girl he used to have strong feelings for when they were working together. they actually ...
A. 30 April 2008: The fact that he hid it from you does speak volumes. If it was innocent why go to all that trouble. Having said that he might just be being stupid by thinking that you wouldnt want him to meet up with her so he's got himself into a right mess. Its ... (read in full...)
He won't go down on me anymore, he says we are too old, what gives?
Q. My husband wont go down on me anymore. We have been together for 14 yrs. He says we are not kids any more, he is 32 i am 35. I would be willing to give him a bj but he has never liked them. I dont orgasm from intercourse only clitoral stimulation. ...
A. 30 April 2008: That would explain why he doesnt want it - I know where hes coming from. That could explain why he doesnt want to give you oral sex too as its the same thing to him really just with a woman but it must still bring back those memories. Try a small ... (read in full...)
Does he like me too, since he blushes when I am near and laughes at my jokes?
Q. Dear Who ever answers this, I like this boy. I'm not going to say any names but I love him!! He's smart, intellegent, funny, athletic, and handsome!! He is in 3 of my classes but if you count gym, he is in there to. I to...
A. 30 April 2008: Go for it he likes you!!!... (read in full...)
My brother abused me, now I've pressed charges and it's tearing me and my family apart. Please help me deal with this misery!
Q. ok i really need some help here, so i need as many opinions as possable, whatever your veiw. ok, i was sexually, physically and mentally abused by my brother when i was about 9 years old and he was 15. my parents worked all the hours they could for ...
A. 30 April 2008: I am so sorry you have suffered this way. If you dont report it and he abuses anyone else you will never forgive yourself. How many times do we see a newspaper story where people abused 10 or 20 years ago come forward after a paedophile has been ... (read in full...)
How can I give hubbie a great blowjob, he's too big for my mouth!
Q. I want to give my husband amazing blow jobs, however, I have a very small mouth (and TMJ on top of that) and my husband has a big cock, so you see my dilemma here! Aside from that I have a shy husband (he's too shy to cum in my mouth, he's afraid I ...
A. 30 April 2008: All blokes are different my previous partner was enormous and I could give him a bj easily in minutes as he liked stimulation at the tip. I was with my ex hubbie 17 years and never successfully completed a bj - he was quite small. Hubbie number 2 ... (read in full...)
How can I get my husband to understand that I find anal sex painful?
Q. My husband likes anal sex but i find it painful. We have tried lube to no avail. How do i make him understand how i feel? ...
A. 30 April 2008: Try going on top and lowering yourself onto him, that way you control the depth and rate of penetration. Once you have done it a few times it becomes easier and you can try him behind you. Lubrication is essential as you can damage yourself which ... (read in full...)
Is it weird to want children at 17?
Q. I find myself really wanting to be a mother, but I'm seventeen. I have names picked out, even. Is it weird to want kids so badly at my age?...
A. 30 April 2008: It's not weird and many women want babies throughout their lives at odd times. My mother craved a baby in her 40's. The reality though is that it is real hard work, children are rewarding at times but it's not an easy ride. I have a 3 year old ... (read in full...)
He won't go down on me anymore, he says we are too old, what gives?
Q. My husband wont go down on me anymore. We have been together for 14 yrs. He says we are not kids any more, he is 32 i am 35. I would be willing to give him a bj but he has never liked them. I dont orgasm from intercourse only clitoral stimulation. ...
A. 30 April 2008: My husband loves giving and receiving, I only like giving but let him every now and again to keep him happy. Sex is about give and take and shouldnt be one sided. In my case its due to a very unpleasant personal situation in the past but he knows if ... (read in full...)
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