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*rycerbabe007
writes:My boyfriend and I are having sex, and I've had sex plenty of times with my ex's with no problems, but with him it hurts, like so badly I've cried. Trust me I love pain and pleasure, the two were made for each other, but I can't take that, it's so painful and it wasn't just the first time. I really love him so what do I do to fix it?
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reader, Misti Hdz +, writes (4 May 2008):
 You should let him know that it hurts, sex is supposed to be pleasurable, and unless it is a rape situation, or he is just an absolute ass he would do whatever to make it not hurt. My husband used to not want to have sex with me when I was around 8 months pregnant because one time it hurt and I told him, and it totally upset him. He said that he was afraid to do it because he didn't want to hurt me, and that he realy couldn't enjoy itif he thought that it was hurting me. So basically I don't think your boyfriend wants to hurt you, and you all need to figure out why it is hurting and try to do it differently so that you both enjoy it.
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reader, BigSis  +, writes (1 May 2008):
 Hah!!! Lexilou, you should have tried smothering some mint sauce on it, that would have at least made it look more appetising.
Babe007, I agree with Lexi, do and try to relax and use loads of lubricant, I'm sure you will eventually be able to take it.
My ex~husband on the other hand had such a skinny willy, that the first time we ever did it, I'd asked him if it was in yet!! {and I'm quite tight down there} My comment did wonders for his ego.....................Not.
Best of luck hon, I'm sure everything will be ok soon, I hope.
BigSis
xXx
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reader, lexilou +, writes (1 May 2008):
 I have had all shapes and sizes from really well endowed to miniscule but I had to end a relationship with one guy as it just would not fit. It looked like a leg of lamb with the thick end at the top - gross!!!!! The first time I saw it I nearly died Ive had some whoppers but this was unbelievable and it really really really hurt me. He got quite nasty with me as his ex wife had no problems he said (maybe she couldnt take anymore!) but I knew it would cause serious problems with us. Obviously I cant see how big your guys is but could it be that you are a bit frightened of it and dont relax enough which makes it more difficult?? Try lube and as somone else suggested take it really slow and make sure you are full aroused first. x
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2008): It is possible that he is just too big for you and you will not be sexually compatible, it does happen, women are different sizes too, and there is a chance that you two just don't fit.....but of course try other options first....maybe even consult your ob/gyn doc.
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (1 May 2008):
 Hi,
my wife advises plenty of lube and tons of foreplay and to tell him to go very slowly at first! Her ex was very well endowed and she said she managed fine , it hurt for the first few times but then she was able to accomodate him easily.
But then again, she is a darn sight roomier than my previous partner so it makes you wonder whether some girls just arent suited for larger packages.
Perhaps suggest that he doesnt try and fit it all in. Is it the thickness or the length that causes the pain?
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reader, brycerbabe007 +, writes (1 May 2008):
brycerbabe007 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionits the size, it hurts so much! Its just too big to fit, and sex always hurts at first but would get better but that's not the case with him.
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reader, Collaroy +, writes (1 May 2008):
Hi,
is it his size? If not go see a doctor straight away, you could have a medical condition.
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reader, Devilish Angel +, writes (1 May 2008):
 If he's really big, you can take steps to prepare yourself. For example, use a toy to stretch yourself a bit. Have him do more foreplay and use lubricant.
Please elaborate on the pain.
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