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writes:My boyfrend wanted to take a flite back to his hometown to meet up a group of ex collegues who were flying in from another country for work, in particular a girl he used to have strong feelings for when they were working together. they actually dated for a while, but she dumped him. he was hurt by this woman. He did not tell me about meeting up with this group, however explained that he was going to meet up with his family. He finally told me about it the morning before the flite. Curious and a little upset, i asked him what was going on, and asked him whether it had to do with the email i saw him read from that girl the nite before. i checked his emails and found out that he had corresponded with this girl several times and the girl had informed him of this trip, which was postponed twice (and all the times he bought a new ticket to coincide with the new arrival date), meaning that he purchased 3 return tickets, of all he didnt use because that group postponed their trip. he hid all her emails and all the coincided purchased tickets from me. i later found out that he promised this girl before that he wanted to take her around town and show her his hometown. i didnt let him go and threatened to breakup if he went. he didnt. is he in love with this woman? was he planning to cheat on me? Reply to this Question
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reader, lexilou  +, writes (30 April 2008):
 The fact that he hid it from you does speak volumes. If it was innocent why go to all that trouble. Having said that he might just be being stupid by thinking that you wouldnt want him to meet up with her so he's got himself into a right mess. Its probably curiosity too. Dont dwell on it and try and move on from this - at the end of the day he didnt go and didnt cheat so you have to decide if you can still trust him and carry on as before. Good luck
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reader, oldfool  +, writes (30 April 2008):
 I would say yes. But even if he wasn't planning on actually going to bed with her (which I doubt), the fact is that:
* He cared enough about going to see her that he rebooked his ticket twice.
* Regardless of his intentions, he has extremely strong lingering feelings for her.
* He hid it from you, which is the action of a guilty person.
I would take this very seriously.
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