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writes: I find myself really wanting to be a mother, but I'm seventeen. I have names picked out, even. Is it weird to want kids so badly at my age?
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reader, blooddog28 +, writes (1 May 2008):
Of course not! You must be a great person to already want kids. I am 12 and thought about some of that kind of stuff. I want one boy! You just have to wait till your at least 25 (25 is a good age). I have some older friends, who have a little girl. They are 21 and 23 and they love her to death. It is very hard for them to pay their bills... I think you should wait till you have some money saved up.
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reader, TheNum13er +, writes (30 April 2008):
TheNum13er is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for those helpful words. I think I am going to wait until I'm at least twenty so I can have a job and can figure out my college situation because I would like to adopt first. I want to adopt mostly because I'm adopted as well, and plus, childbirth is apparently a painful process!Does that sound good, or is it still too soon at twenty?
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reader, lexilou +, writes (30 April 2008):
It's not weird and many women want babies throughout their lives at odd times. My mother craved a baby in her 40's. The reality though is that it is real hard work, children are rewarding at times but it's not an easy ride. I have a 3 year old and 2 teenagers and at 39 years old somedays its hard to cope! Live your life fully first as once a child comes along your life is partially on hold for a while. You're so young and have so much to look forward to x
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2008): it's natural to have feelings that you want to have the responsibilty of caring for another person. ive never wanted kids, im 20 and i still dont want them but since i was very young ive wanted to enter into the caring professions as i like to care for others so its perfectly normal to think about your future and what to call your children just remember you need to be financially stable because they are expensive and if you dont have the money to raise your kids you will put yourself down to not being a good mother cos u cant give them everything they want.so just concentrate on getting a job so that you'll be financially stable.and i wish you all the best for the future x
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2008): I'm sure loads of people want children at quite a young age. Not so long ago, there was a girl on here asking about having a child at 16, so it's obviously not that uncommon! Although I wouldn't recommend it just yet, because of financial situations, responsible father, home to grown up in etc.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2008): I use to do that too when i was ur age. It just a maternal instict built in women. natural. all women do that. Especially when they find a guy that will go out with them for a year. Its cool to think of names and have a bond, but do not go having kids til u can support them...
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2008): no it isn't everybody is different i say u should wait until at least 19 or 20 but Its how u feel nobody can change that
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