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*kelligon
writes:First things first, I'm not gay nor do I have anything against them. I have very a feminine outlook on things and I am sexist to my own gender. When I tell girls this, I get the feeling that they think I'm saying it just to make them attracted to me or I'm just gay. This hasn't effected me much yet but I think it will in the future. Should I be honest or act more masculine about things? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 May 2008): It's important to be true to yourself, and not act like something you're not. Honesty is always the best policy, but keep masculine too if you can. Otherwise girls may like you, but be put off if they don't know you very well, and wonder if you could be gay. I'm not saying you act gay! Far from, I'm sure. I'm just trying to say that there is a happy balance of the two, and it's just finding it :]
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 May 2008): There is nothing wrong with being the way you are, but it is true what you say....girls are going to think you are giving them a pick up line and are generally attracted to the more masculine type. So don't offer this information. If she asks you a question pertaining to these issues or a situation happens to come up, tell your honest opinion and don't be afraid of what she will think. As she gets to know you, she will see that you are a man with a feminine side and she will love it!! Let her learn your ways instead of offering it to her. In the end, you want someone who is going to love you for you, and not for the dishonest man you are portraying.
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reader, lexilou +, writes (2 May 2008):
 Dont make a big issue of it and you dont need to tell them this straight out just let them meet the real you and make up their own minds about what kind of guy you are x
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 May 2008): It sounds like your a submissive male. Thats why your resent your own gender, because your bottom of the pile. You probably lack assertiveness. You will find women will only be attracted to you in a friendship capacity. Like a gay friend that gets to hear all their relationship problems. I think its important for you to work on your assertiveness if you want viable relationships in the future. Few woman wants a shrinking violet.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 May 2008): Everyone will tell you to just be yourself. And that's good advice in the long run.
Your type has its fans, it's just usually gonna be a much smaller group than the masculine type though.
Hey, what is so wrong with masculinity anyway?
I hope you realize that most of the female gender is only TELLING guys to be more modernized & feminine. That doesn't mean the girls will actually want the guys like you when they come across one.
A lot of girls will thank you from the bottom of their hearts for being so much "better" than most guys. But they will go right on sleeping with the masculine guys instead of you anyway.
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