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Why can’t I just think YES - for better or worse – if the man I love starts talking about marriage?
Q. My boyfriend is divorced with one child. When I met him I didn’t want to date him (he approached me first) because I prefer men who have not been married before, as I have not been married before. I had never dated a divorced guy before him so the ...
A. 12 August 2011: Sorry I meant to say 'daughter' not son. Oops... (read in full...)
Why can’t I just think YES - for better or worse – if the man I love starts talking about marriage?
Q. My boyfriend is divorced with one child. When I met him I didn’t want to date him (he approached me first) because I prefer men who have not been married before, as I have not been married before. I had never dated a divorced guy before him so the ...
A. 12 August 2011: I think you're being smart. You've got a clear head and are looking at all this realistically.
You're at a point where you have to make a tough decision. Stay with him and possibly get married, which comes with all the baggage. Or leave and see ... (read in full...)
Why would a guy go back to a girl who dumped him when he had someone who wanted him?
Q. Why would a guy go back to a girl who dumped him and leave someone who's interested in him? My BF's best friend dated this girl for only two weeks when she decided she wasn't that interested in him. He was quite upset and we never heard the end of...
A. 12 August 2011: Thanks guys, this gives me something to work with when I speak with her tonight. I told her as well that she shouldn't have hopped into bed that soon with him. Perhaps she wouldn't be as badly hurt if she hadn't done in.
You all said that he's got... (read in full...)
Tomorrow is my last chance with him, I need a plan fast!
Q. This week, I met a really gorgeous guy at a Radio Course. First moment we saw each other, we were definately examining the other's potential. Within just the first few hours, there was a connection, and we got along really well. We have lots in ...
A. 11 August 2011: Ah, just do it, go. Let's say it's 20 years from now and you're thinking back to this. What would you regret more? Staying at home so you don't get embarrassed by going back or going there, getting embarrassed and having a shot with this guy?
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Is he playing a game?
Q. I met this guy a month or so ago, and I really like him. We've gone on a few dates to the cinema and just spent days together, and we told each other one night that we both liked each other. But recently, his texts have become less and less each ...
A. 11 August 2011: I'm 28 and I've had my fair share of dates, guys who stopped calling, guys who called too often and so on.
This guy doesn't seem that interested anymore and there isn't much you can do about it unfortunately. His spiel about commitment issues i... (read in full...)
Should I just let it go or give him a hint?
Q. Hello! So, I’ve been interested in this guy for a couple of months now pretty much since we’ve been working together and we became pretty good friends. I got a new job about a month ago, and as soon as I ended my first job he asked me out. A few ...
A. 9 August 2011: Agree with Aunty Susie, if a guy really wants to spend time with you he will. No questions about it.... (read in full...)
Since we started getting close physically (no sex!) she seems distant and everything has been off!
Q. I am in dire need of some help! So, a little background on everything: To explain myself, I am an extremely timid and shy guy at first, but once I get to know somebody, I let my true personality and colors shine. I am an only child and I ...
A. 9 August 2011: Lots of issues going on here and I honestly don't think any of us can give you proper answers but here are a few thoughts.
She seems confused about something. Reading your post it's as if she wants you but then she doesn't. There could be a millio... (read in full...)
Should I move on or try to get him back?
Q. I been out with this guy loads of times over the last month and I really like him. But on our last one he seemed a bit off and like he didn't want to be there. We haven't spoken in about a week but I was busy anyway so thought nothing of it. I got a ...
A. 9 August 2011: I agree with Rescuer. This guy has lost interest for whatever reason and there's nothing much you can do about that. It's not your fault, it's just that he doesn't feel it.
If I was in your position I'd like to talk to him although he's made it ... (read in full...)
Would you move in with someone you didn't love?
Q. IF you are a man and you didn't love or want to spend the rest of your life with you gf, would you move in with her? ...
A. 9 August 2011: Sounds to me that you and your boyfriend are about to take the big step of moving in together or you've recently done it and you're wondering about his long-term plans.
As the others said, some men would and some wouldn't. You can't generali... (read in full...)
Why would he prefer for me to hold his arms rather his hand?
Q. my partner and i of 3 years occasionally hold hands when we are out and about but not for very long periods of time. he will grab my hand when we are crossing the road and will let it go after a while or if hes in the mood he will hold my hand if ...
A. 9 August 2011: I don't think you have anything to worry about. My partner and I never hold hands while walking. Neither of us likes it. The hands get sweaty and it makes it hard to walk sometimes. I'll hold on to his arm, sometimes he'll put his arm around my ... (read in full...)
Am I making a fool of myself if I respond, if he contacts me again?
Q. Well I posted a few weeks ago about a guy I met and got close to and then never heard from. He did send a very ambiguous text, saying we are still the same, and for me not to be confused!!! He took me off his Facebook, because I put a comment about ...
A. 8 August 2011: If you want to be at his beck and call then go right ahead...respond to him.
If you want a guy who truly wants you and appreciates you, look elsewhere.... (read in full...)
After 2 dates he left his dating profile up, how can I tell if he likes me?
Q. Hey there i have been on 2 dates with this guy i met on a online dating site ,they went well ,had a laugh ,got lots in common .But he is still goes on the website ,how can i tell this guy fancies me ,he kissed me on my cheeck ,but he is a shy guy . ...
A. 8 August 2011: Sorry meant to say '2 dates' :)... (read in full...)
After 2 dates he left his dating profile up, how can I tell if he likes me?
Q. Hey there i have been on 2 dates with this guy i met on a online dating site ,they went well ,had a laugh ,got lots in common .But he is still goes on the website ,how can i tell this guy fancies me ,he kissed me on my cheeck ,but he is a shy guy . ...
A. 8 August 2011: It'll take longer than 2 days before he takes his profile off the website. You shouldn't be too quick to take off yours either. You need to get to know him better, see what sort of person he is. I think he's doing the same thing.
If you're w... (read in full...)
We seem so good together, why hasn't he asked me to be his g/f?
Q. I've been talking to this guy for a while now. We act like a total couple. We've hugged, kissed, made out, everything except sex. When he's away he tells me how much he misses me and how he wished he was with me instead of away. He calls me his baby ...
A. 8 August 2011: He obviously likes you but not enough to give you the committment you're after. If he's your age as well he's probably not interested in a serious girlfriend. He's most likely just enjoying himself and not taking himself off the market in case ... (read in full...)
Why can't I forget about the one who treated me badly?
Q. It's 2 in the morning and I'm wide awake thinking about a guy I shouldn't be thinking about. The logical/rational part of me knows this is ridiculous so i can't figure out why I can't stop thinking of him. I met him online almost a year ago. We t...
A. 5 August 2011: Nothing is wrong with you!
I was you about a year ago. I met Dan online and he seemed so great. We clicked. He made me feel awesome. We met up a week after first getting in contact and to me, it was 'magic.' I for some reason thought I'd met the ... (read in full...)
I always wonder if I am doing something wrong in the relationship, or am I with the wrong man?
Q. My boyfriend had mentioned that he is bothered because I seem analytical and cold. I am very affectionate. I give him hugs. I tell him I love him. I asked him why he is bothered by me being analytical. He said he couldn't tell me. Do men just expect ...
A. 14 July 2011: Now that you really explain the situation, I see things in a new light. He's obviously unsure about you and I don't see why you keep taking him back. If someone dumped me once, that would really be it. He's done it three times and you've taken him ... (read in full...)
I always wonder if I am doing something wrong in the relationship, or am I with the wrong man?
Q. My boyfriend had mentioned that he is bothered because I seem analytical and cold. I am very affectionate. I give him hugs. I tell him I love him. I asked him why he is bothered by me being analytical. He said he couldn't tell me. Do men just expect ...
A. 14 July 2011: This is either an issue of incompatibility or you being insecure in the relationship. Also I don't think the word here is 'analytical.'
If you're an analytical person, then you like to question the world around you, you like to have thought ... (read in full...)
After our 3rd date I gave her a kiss goodnight... Did I come on too strongly?
Q. I've just got back from my 3rd date with a girl I like. We've had 2 highly successful dates and this 3rd one appeared to be no acception. We talked, laughed and had a nice evening, just like the previous two dates. But tonight I wanted to slip in ...
A. 14 July 2011: Awww, that's so sweet. You sound just like my boyfriend when we started dating :)
You may be overanalysing here. How long has it been since the date? Have you heard from her by now? It's a little strange she hasn't messaged but maybe it's a girl t... (read in full...)
I was unhappy about what I found on his phone and then he asked me to marry him!
Q. To be honest, I have been trying to stop my obsession with looking at my boyfriends text messages. I have problems trusting people and I explained that to him. Also I went about a year and a half to two years practically living on computer/text ...
A. 24 May 2011: 1. Don't marry him
2. Don't buy any property tc with him
3. Take more time getting to know him, just dating
It's only been 4 months and already there are trust issues. You're defending him by saying that he didn't have sex with this girl. Does ... (read in full...)
How do you know when you're ready to move in with your girl/boyfriend?
Q. How long do couples date usually before moving in together?...
A. 24 May 2011: I don't think there's a set time or time period. It's when you guys have openly discussed what moving in together means to you both, and when you have agreed what you want from each other and the relationship in the future.
For example, no point... (read in full...)
How do I know he is serious about me?
Q. I have been having an emotional affair with a married man. I have fallen in love with him. I have been in an unhappy marriage for the past few years and I have finally told my husband the truth about the way I am feeling. I am prepared to leave my ...
A. 16 May 2011: I don't know you or this man or your situation. What I do know, from your post only, is that you're putting life decisions on the line based on only a feeling you have.
You say that you know that he has deep feelings for you but then you say that... (read in full...)
Should I move in with a guy who cheated on me?
Q. I have been in a long distance relationship for 4 years. Recently I found out that he was having sex with other women about every month. I was not happy about that at all. Left but he is trying to keep it together. He said that he always saw me as ...
A. 16 May 2011: Moving to a new country to be with a man who has shown you disrespect would be nothing but total stupidity.
Don't listen to a word he says. You've already said that you don't trust him so that should be enough reason for you to stay put where yo... (read in full...)
Am I making him wait too long?
Q. Ok so here's the deal, i just started dating this guy officially on March 26. He's 22 and I'm 19. He's had sex five times while i am still a virgin. As of late he's been bringing up sex more and more often. I'm not waiting until marriage, but i am ...
A. 18 April 2011: "I just want to be sure that things are going to last and I'm not going to have any regrets."
This sentence here is exactly the reason that you should not have sex with this guy right now. You're not ready and it shows from your post.
You als... (read in full...)
Why don't guys ask me out?
Q. hi, I get told by many people that im beautiful looking and they seem shocked when I say I'm single. The problem is guys never seem to approach or ask me out, even at bars. I feel really self conscious about it because I always have my hair , ...
A. 18 April 2011: The reason they don't approach you is because you probably put out a vibe that you're either not interested or that if they were to approach you they'd get turned away.
You probably don't know it, but the vibe you're putting out says 'I'm not inte... (read in full...)
Does the 3 day rule still apply?
Q. Does the 3 day rule still apply? I know it is kind of old fashioned but i'm just wondering if men in particular still go by the 3 day rule? Does it still apply with texting, chatting online, phoning and everything? I have a wonderful guy and i don't ...
A. 7 April 2011: There are no rules. I seriously believe that when a man is tryly genuine, he will ask you out within 2 days of the last date, or at least he'll make some form of contact. All the guys I've dated before with whom it didn't work out played games... (read in full...)
Found womanly things under his sink, I stormed out and now he won't talk to me.
Q. Why is this guy ignoring me!??? Ok, I have this guy friend who I have been just seeing for 5 years. A couple of days ago, I found a lot of womenly things underneath his bathroom sink. I questioned him about it and asked if he had a girl living w...
A. 7 April 2011: He's obviously seeing someone else and it sounds like it's getting somewhat serious. He probably didn't like that fact that you found this other girl's things in his bathroom so he's ignoring you as he doesn't know how to handle it. Perhaps he's ... (read in full...)
My dream man still lives with his ex and it's destroying our relationship!
Q. Me and this guy have been dating for nine months now and he's a great catch. He ticks all the boxes and fullfills practically everything I ever wanted in my 'dream man,' but never really believed existed. And to top it off, when he came into my life ...
A. 7 April 2011: He's clinging on because you let him. If you tell him you don't want to see him anymore and you don't want to have any contact with him, and you follow through, he will soon get the idea and leave you alone. Maybe I'm making too many assumptions... (read in full...)
He has a girlfriend and treats me like his mistress
Q. Hi, I am 19 years old, and i haven't been in a relationship before, which means i haven't lost my first kiss either. I would say that i do not fall in love easily either. Last year, I met this guy, J in my college and I fell for him. I managed to ...
A. 7 April 2011: Thanks for updating us. The fact that you say he's moved on to hitting on some other girl is more proof he only wants to sleep around. Good on you for not getting involved. A genuine guy can now find you :)... (read in full...)
We aren't technically dating yet but I slept with someone else. Should I feel guilty?
Q. I have been seeing this guy for the past two months, but we are not dating yet. We talk every day and we hang out once or twice a week but we have talked about where the relationship is going and we both know that we will probably start dating in ...
A. 7 April 2011: I agree with person12345. If this guy wanted you to be his girlfriend and not date anyone else he would have made sure to let you know. He hasn't and it tells me that he's not too concerned. So you shouldn't feel guilty at all. How do you kno... (read in full...)
Help me with my obsession!
Q. Please help me. I am totally obsessed with this guy. I met him a few months back, we hooked up and a great time but he works far away so we couldnt have a relationship or anything. We have kept in touch on facebook and by phone a few times and hes ...
A. 6 April 2011: I'm afraid you're not really going to get what you want. What do you want anyway? You've already hooked up with him, there's no possibility of a relationship and he's been a bit flakey when it comes to answering your texts. He's not that interested. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriends wants to have sex with another girl!!!
Q. My boyfriend, well hes a good guy over all but he has said and done some stupid s***, first of all he does say Im pretty and he loves me and he takes me out but then... he has this friend that he told me with these exact words "I want to f*** her, ...
A. 6 April 2011: Wow, I cannot believe how some women are allowing men to treat them. It's really sad. This guy has shown you nothing but disrespect. You're worth so much more than this and there is a guy out there who will really love you. This one doesn'... (read in full...)
My dream man still lives with his ex and it's destroying our relationship!
Q. Me and this guy have been dating for nine months now and he's a great catch. He ticks all the boxes and fullfills practically everything I ever wanted in my 'dream man,' but never really believed existed. And to top it off, when he came into my life ...
A. 6 April 2011: I seriously cannot believe you've been with this guy for nine months! He's living with his ex!!! Run woman, run! What do you think happens when he goes home? He spends nights with her, doesn't he? I just can't believe how naive you're being. If... (read in full...)
Is it me or what's the deal with this guy???
Q. Hi, I met this guy online a couple of months back, first we just exchanged emails then we started texting and then we talked on the phone a couple of times. I think he seems nice but something inside me tells me to be cautious and wait and see( I'...
A. 6 April 2011: I agree with Aunty BimBim, he's got someone else and is probably looking for some fun on the side. No guy who's genuine will say 'I will not set a date.' When I first met my BF he made plans with me a week in advance. If he's free to see you what's ... (read in full...)
Should I move out and give him his space as he wants??
Q. i have been dateing my bf for 4 years now i have been staying at his house for couple months bt now he says he doesnt know what to do hes asking for space so i sed is it that u want to break up n he says no that he loves me im so attached to him ...
A. 5 April 2011: If he wants his space give it to him. Don't make it dramatic and ask if he's breaking up with you. Tell him that you're going to leave his place and not contact or see him until he figures out what he wants. Then let him decide what his problem ... (read in full...)
He has a girlfriend and treats me like his mistress
Q. Hi, I am 19 years old, and i haven't been in a relationship before, which means i haven't lost my first kiss either. I would say that i do not fall in love easily either. Last year, I met this guy, J in my college and I fell for him. I managed to ...
A. 5 April 2011: If you're looking for a serious relationship then you need to leave S alone. He has a girlfriend and no matter what he tells you (breaking it off with her etc) it does not matter, he is involved with someone else and you will end up getting hurt.
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Is he interested or am I misinterpreting everything?
Q. Okay here goes, it will be long winded but I need to know once and for all, Im really losing my patience. About 5 months ago a new tenant moved into our house, hes very handsome and I was attracted to him instantly. Initially there was al...
A. 5 April 2011: Yes, you are looking into things too much. And if you're asking if he's interested in a proper relationship with you, my answer is no.
He started off being very sexual with you. You then let him share your bed and then retracted and said you don'... (read in full...)
Creepy or attractive?
Q. Do you think a person with black-brown hair, very pale skin and blue-green eyes would be attractive--or creepy? Be honest! ...
A. 18 March 2011: I've got dark brown hair, pale skin and green eyes...I think I'm pretty alright (lol)
But seriously, that description is not enough to say whether someone with those features is attractive or creepy. It depends on many things. It's like asking s... (read in full...)
Why does he want to keep all of these pictures of her and them together?
Q. I've been going out with my boyfriend for very nearly a year. We got together only about 2 weeks after his last long term girlfriend ended their relationship which is a fact that I only recently found out. That wouldn't really bother me (as I've ...
A. 7 February 2011: He's either not over her completely or he still hasn't dealt with the break up and the fact that she left him. Even though it's been a year with you it's clear that his wounds still haven't healed completely. This doesn't however mean that your ... (read in full...)
Why does he want to keep all of these pictures of her and them together?
Q. I've been going out with my boyfriend for very nearly a year. We got together only about 2 weeks after his last long term girlfriend ended their relationship which is a fact that I only recently found out. That wouldn't really bother me (as I've ...
A. 7 February 2011: He's either not over her completely or he still hasn't dealt with the break up and the fact that she left him. Even though it's been a year with you it's clear that his wounds still haven't healed completely. This doesn't however mean that your ... (read in full...)
Why did he stop running back to me?
Q. I broke up with my boyfriend and now he has a gilfriend. I'm fuming because she's prettier and nicer then me. All of our mutual friends adore her. She's nice to me to and that pisses me off. How could my boyfriend move on from me so fast?!!! He ...
A. 3 February 2011: He woke up and realised he could do better than someone who constantly dumped him and made him feel unloved. I don't think it's about her looks. She makes him feel good about himself, something you didn't do.
I don't that think that you want him... (read in full...)
I really like him, but I'm helping a friend to date him!
Q. I really am in like with this guy at work. He has so much in common with me in so many ways, I feel like we are perfect for each other. And I know he can see it... I can see it when he asks me certain questions, because he's trying to figure me ...
A. 3 February 2011: You like him, you think he likes you, but he's hanging out with some other girl and making out with her. Do you really think that he likes you that much?
Sure, she was there before you but if he really wanted you he'd have walked away from her... (read in full...)
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