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writes:IF you are a man and you didn't love or want to spend the rest of your life with you gf, would you move in with her? Reply to this Question
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reader, bridge89  +, writes (9 August 2011):
 To be honest, its not worth it. If your still together and were in love and could see a long future with each other yea go for it but things do change when you start living together. Its quite nice to have your own space to do your thinking etc, if your living with him then you dont really get that. Really think about it, could save you having to find somewhere new to live if things go pear shaped.
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reader, Lexie88 +, writes (9 August 2011):
 Sounds to me that you and your boyfriend are about to take the big step of moving in together or you've recently done it and you're wondering about his long-term plans.
As the others said, some men would and some wouldn't. You can't generalise with something like this.
Have you moved in together yet? If not and you're asking such a question, don't go anywhere before you know what he wants from your relationship. No point assuming he wants the same things as you...you need to talk.
This is serious stuff and warrants a serious conversation!!
If you want the moving in together to be a step before engagement, marriage and a life long committment you need to make this very clear to him. He nees to know what you expect and you need to know if he's on the same page as you.
I would not move in with a guy unless I knew we were on the same page about our future.
Ask and you shall know :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2011): YES. If I wanted to spend the rest of my life with a girl, I would propose. If I didn't want to marry her but could see a good few years out of it, help with cooking, and sex every night, I would ask her to move in. Many men can love someone but not ever see them as a wife but they won't tell you that.
Men can wait many years to get married and can marry later to someone of childbearing age. Women have biological clocks and a narrower window of time to have a family.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2011): Putting the whole moving-in together aside, if you are a man and you didn't love a girl nor saw any future with her chances are you wouldn't be dating her period, much less thinking about moving in together...But if a guy who doesn't love you nor sees a future with you is still dating you then he probably has some ulterior motive for being with you. Sex, financial support, something like that. So in that case ya perhaps he would move in with you so that you can pay the bills, relieve some sort of financial stress off of him, relieve him sexually, who knows. I have lived with two boyfriends and we didn't marry in either case. There is no doubt that they both loved me and at the time perhaps they felt like it would lead to marriage, it just didn't. But there was love.
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reader, Odds  +, writes (8 August 2011):
 I personally wouldn't, but lots of men would.
The reason I wouldn't is because I value my independence and privacy, and I enjoy that part of a relationship where each person goes to the others' apartment.
The reason most guys would is because it's much more convenient to live with the person you're seeing than to stay in that honeymoon phase - even if "convenient" just means "it will stop her from bothering me about commitment." It's also pleasant to live with someone you like, even if you don't intend to be with her forever. Besides, cohabiting couples tend to have much more sex than married or single people.
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