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writes:My boyfriend, well hes a good guy over all but he has said and done some stupid s***, first of all he does say Im pretty and he loves me and he takes me out but then... he has this friend that he told me with these exact words "I want to f*** her, god knows I want to f*** her" - the exact words that came out of his mouth, and he has had strippers at his house and that wouldnt have bothered me if he didnt say "well even if I did anything you would never find out about it" which hes right about because it was his friends that were there and I highly doubt any of them would out their friend and he is constantly talking about how other girls are hot.I am a very beautiful girl, and I have a lot going for me but after a while of hearing how all the other girls are hotter than I am and how he wants them more than me, my confidence has started to slip a bit, and Im not liking it at all.How do I tell him to shut up and show me some respect without sounding like I am a total jealous freak? Every time I try to say something he instantly says that Im overreacting and that Im insecure and jealous, that he loves only me bla bla blaPlease help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2011): Hello,Thank you ALL for your answers, I have decided that I am too good for this kind of relationship and have ended it, I just cant believe I wasted so much time involved with him. The second we broke up I actually saw what all my friends were saying.I really appreciate all of your opinions THANK YOU for your insight.XOXO
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reader, heartache112  +, writes (6 April 2011):
Your boyfriend needs to learn to respect you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2011): Sound like a jealous freak?! Standing up for yourself to this creep would not make you appear jealous, on the contrary, would make you appear like you have self worth and dignity. This guy is a total douche. He treats you like crap. Sounds like a cheater. No doubt he probably has cheated and will continue to do so. He hasn't the faintest idea what love is. Complete loser.Yeah you should stand up for yourself. Best way to do that is to peace him out. Tell him to go F himself and then hang up on him. Let him talk and talk and say whatever he wants. Who cares? He sux!
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reader, Lexie88 +, writes (6 April 2011):
 Wow, I cannot believe how some women are allowing men to treat them. It's really sad.This guy has shown you nothing but disrespect. You're worth so much more than this and there is a guy out there who will really love you. This one doesn't and it's not hard to see that.Everytime you try to tell him how you feel he cuts you off and turns things around to blame you. Don't you think this is wrong?If I was you I'd end this as soon as possible because you do not deserve such treatment. He's not going to change no matter what you say or do. The problem is him so let him go.
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reader, angelDlite  +, writes (6 April 2011):
 hi is this the best man you really think you can get?? even though you know you're beautiful and have a lot going for you? if you think it is bad now, just wait and see what its like a few years down the line when you are older and have had kids with him and are less attractive than you are now (this is if he doesn't run off with a stripper first!)seriously, get rid of him and give yourself the opportunity to meet someone who is capable of respecting you!xx
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reader, Partyboy123  +, writes (5 April 2011):
 your boyfriend is a pig and you need to get rid of him... He is just bound to cheat if he says that.... YOU HAVE THE RIGHT TO BE JEALOUS AND NEEDY/CLINGY ABOUT THIS HES BEING VERY UN-LOYAL AND YOU CANNOT TRUST SOMEONE LIKE THAT... it sounds to me like he is just using you to be honest, if he really cared about you and wanted an emotional relationship, he would be 100% yours and never say shit like that.. he wouldn't even want to talk to other girls (thats how i am, i feel as thought its a bad thing). YOU DESERVE SOMEONE BETTER, and SOMEONE WHO TREATS YOU LIKE YOU TREAT THEM.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (5 April 2011):
 Wow. That's ridiculous. This guy does not respect you at all. No guy who actually cared about you would say he wants to f*ck someone right in front of you (or at all). He also wouldn't have strippers to his house (most women would find strippers at all to be pretty bad), and he most definitely wouldn't insinuate that he has or plans to sleep with one. Find a new guy. This one will never show you the respect you deserve no matter how much you try to get him to.
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reader, Mjfbla +, writes (5 April 2011):
 I personally like your whole " shut up and show me some respect". it seems like he could be cheating on you, and his fall back is oh i only love you. i dont think you should be with him because it seems likely that he would cheat. if you tell him he will only belittle you. maybe you should try playing the same game he is. if he doesnt care then that should say it all. if he tells you to stop tell him he is overreacting snd that he is isecure and jealous, you only love him blah blah blah. fight fire with fire. it seems like the only way to approach him
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