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writes:Please help me. I am totally obsessed with this guy. I met him a few months back, we hooked up and a great time but he works far away so we couldnt have a relationship or anything. We have kept in touch on facebook and by phone a few times and hes coming to see me for the weekend in a couple of weeks. I havnt heard from him since saturday. I know he was going out that night, and we chatted online and everything was fine. But I havent heard from him since. He has not been on his facebook since saturday either. I left him a message on saturday night to tell him I was really looking forward to seeing him and he hasnt replied. I dont want to phone him as I dont want to look depserate. But I cant stop thinking about him, wondering why he is ignoring me, wondering what Ive done, or if hes met someone else. Its really getting me down. Not only that but I like him so much that if any of those things were the reason why, I would be heartbroken. I want him so so bad. Im scared cos Ive never wanted anyone like this before.
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reader, Lexie88  +, writes (6 April 2011):
 I'm afraid you're not really going to get what you want. What do you want anyway? You've already hooked up with him, there's no possibility of a relationship and he's been a bit flakey when it comes to answering your texts. He's not that interested. I also think he's coming to spend the weekend with you so he can hook up with you again. So, you're going to be his hook-up buddy when he has the time to see you, he's going to ignore your texts and only reply when he wants or needs something and one day he'll stop all contact when he's met anothe hook-up buddy or when he's found himself a girlfriend.So basically, you should let it go. You made a mistake sleeping with someone who wasn't your boyfriend and immediately became the girl who isn't worthy of girlfriend material. Sadly, that's all you'll ever be to him.You're probably obsessed not because he's such a great catch but because you have a need for attention and affection. There's nothing wrong with that because we all need those things. It's just that you fulfilled this need the wrong way and now you're craving him to make you feel good again.The sooner you realise that nothing will happen with this guy the sooner you can move on. Next time, date someone and get to know them and their intentions towards you before sleeping with them. Be more cautious and you won't end up wanting someone so badly.
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