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How often is too often seeing each other while dating?
Q. So how often is too often seeing each other while dating? Or how much is not enough? We work together so we see each other every day. Although this probably shouldn't count as seeing each other, it's hard to guage. Right now we see each other ...
A. 3 November 2009: It really depends on what you both want out of this...are you just dating and are free to see other people or are you both interested in forging a proper relationship?
If you're looking for a relationship I'd want to see someone on the weekends... (read in full...)
Is this sophomore with a girlfriend being too friendly?
Q. Hello, i am a freshman in high school, and i am involved with theatre. not if have have ever been involved with theatre you know how close you get to the whole cast. well there is this senior who is always hugging me, around me, will touch me, hold ...
A. 3 November 2009: He might be attracted to you and probably likes to flirt by doing those things. What I would say to you is to leave him alone...a guy who does this while he is with someone else is not a guy you want in your life. Let him touch someone else. Guys ... (read in full...)
Why are men so reluctant to commit?
Q. Guys, please help me out here. Since, my divorce I have had two relationships with commitment phobic men. Why are men afraid to commit. Is it that there are so many pretty , smart,successful girls to choose from? What makes a guy chose one girl over ...
A. 2 November 2009: Back to the original question...a man won't committ for the same reason you wouldn't committ...because you're not IT for him, you're not the one. See what human_male and rhythmandblues2 said below.... (read in full...)
I'm flirting with someone's boyfriend. Does he like me?
Q. I finally told this boy I liked him, even though he has a girlfriend. He always flirts with me and the other night he was sending me some extremly flirty texts about if he didn't have a girlfriend he would get with me and do stuff. I really like...
A. 2 November 2009: In a situation like this you are the only one who will get hurt. Don't go there. He's enjoying the attention you're giving him and he's not going to be your boyfriend.... (read in full...)
She likes me, she likes me not. Should I pursue her?
Q. Hey so there's this girl that I like and have only known her for around 6 months, she was a friend of a friend but has now become quite close to me. Every time we meet up on a night out with friends etc we really hit it off. The only problem is ...
A. 2 November 2009: If she's genuine in her feelings for you and she wants to pursue something, you will not push her away if you ask her out. If she does back off it will just mean that she isn't that into you, even though she enjoys your company and flirting with ... (read in full...)
Help! Is he leading me on, or does he want to date me?
Q. Hey guys, I have been talking to this guy for a week or so through the internet, we met through a social event so its not an online thing. The other day he asked me for my number because he was asking me about going to the movies together. I gav...
A. 29 October 2009: How much do you know about him? Is it possible he has a girlfriend?
I think if he really wanted to see you it would have happened by now. He's either not that interested or he has someone else and he's realized that he can't actually take you out.... (read in full...)
She adores me but isn't ready for a relationship. What does this mean?
Q. I to a girl whom I have been seeing for a while now that I love her and want to be with her. She paused and told me that she can't say the "l" word back because she has been through so many bad relationships and said she needs some time before she ...
A. 29 October 2009: I'm so glad you declined her 'offer,' it shows you have respect for yourself and don't need her crumbs. Anyway, I'm sure that you'll find someone who really appreciates and values you...that's what you need to look for. Good luck!
q1605, both wom... (read in full...)
Will I ever get closure?
Q. I met a guy two 1/2 years ago. We dated for 3 month on our last date we said bye like normal but he never came back. I need closure. I want to understand what happen. we speak alot through emails but i'm afraid to tell him how I feel. He ...
A. 27 October 2009: He's not interested anymore for whatever reason and you need to stop replying to his emails. Why is he emailing you? Who knows but he knwos that he can as you seem to be replying.
He's not going to come and see you. If he wanted to he would al... (read in full...)
She adores me but isn't ready for a relationship. What does this mean?
Q. I to a girl whom I have been seeing for a while now that I love her and want to be with her. She paused and told me that she can't say the "l" word back because she has been through so many bad relationships and said she needs some time before she ...
A. 27 October 2009: So are you still with her? To me it sounds like you're just not 'it' for her and not 'the one.' I don't think it's so much about past relationships and needing time, if she felt the same way about you none of this would matter.
I think you two ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my boyfriend that I am attracted to another guy?
Q. i have been dating the same guy for almost a year now. i can say i truly love him and i have never met anyone like him. he cares about me and i care about him too. i love him with all my heart, but lately i met this guy i am attracted to, i cant ...
A. 27 October 2009: quiet-echo is right...don't tell him if you don't plan on leaving him, it'll just create drama. Being attracted to someone else while you're with another person is not unusual...we often get a little too comfortable with someone and a new person ... (read in full...)
I still love my ex but we have different backgrounds. Can it work?
Q. Well it's simple, I'm still in love with my ex and she says she still has feelings for me. I'm just not sure if I should take her back. When I was with her I tried to be the best boyfriend I could. I always did what she wanted me to, I bought her ...
A. 26 October 2009: By the sounds of it, this girl doesn't deserve you. I know you say you love her but it seems like she took you for granted. Leaving you for another guy tells me that her feelings for you were not genuine.
Although I can't tell you what will hap... (read in full...)
Is my curiosity going to hurt my girlfriend?
Q. Ok, here we go. First off, me and my girlfriend have been going out for about six months. My friend, which is a girl, broke up with her boyfriend just recently. Me and him use to play in a band together. And thats how i meet the other girl. I...
A. 26 October 2009: You wanted to kiss her, curiousity has nothing to do with it. You have feelings for this other girl. Perhaps it wasn't planned and you don't consider it cheating but if I was your girlfriend I'd see this as cheating. You have to first decide wha... (read in full...)
How do I let him know I need something more serious?
Q. Hi there, I've been seeing this guy for nearly 2months now, and its all very casual, soon after we started texting each other he told me he'd just gotten out of a 4year relationship and wasn't really looking to get into anything too serious righ...
A. 26 October 2009: Your fear of losing him is stopping you from getting what you really want. The first mistake I think you made is telling him in the beginning that you didn't expect anything serious. I bet that you were at least hoping for something seriou... (read in full...)
Why won't he respond?
Q. my first question is so me and this guy have been talking for awhile on facebook and texting and at school he always sayings hi to me and he smiles but when i asked him to hang out he stops talking but when i said happy birthday he replied but h...
A. 26 October 2009: It means he's not interested in hanging out with you but he's too nice to ignore a birthday message. Talking on facebook and texting doesn't take much effort and I'm sure he thinks you like him which he feels good about. Once you asked to hang out ... (read in full...)
Is it supposed to be this hard to hang out with her?
Q. I met this girl a while back on a movie set we were both production assistants. Well we chatted during the downtime for about 2 hours. she was really cute and cool. Well, after hitting it off with her i felt bad cuz she was leaving for Tanzania for ...
A. 23 October 2009: She's not interested. If I was interested I would have accepted your invitation immediately. Does she have a boyfriend perhaps? She could have given you her number to be polite as I'm sure you're a nice guy.
You don't need to write her off comp... (read in full...)
Why is he ignoring me?
Q. This is ridiculous but I've been ocassionally sending txts to my ex - wishing him well.Last time we spoke we had a huge arguement and he said he was going M.I.A. for awhile. (he went from adoring/infatuation w/ me to in a flip of a switch,want...
A. 23 October 2009: Does it matter? he's your ex, he's in the past. Even though you say you're not asking to get back together, you still want something.
I hope you don't take this the wrong way but he's ignoring you because he doesn't want you anymore, you don't ma... (read in full...)
She's 100% mediocre and I just want to get rid of her. How do I do this painlessly?
Q. Ok so I met this girl a couple months ago, and we're dating now. This is the first girl I have ever had real feelings for. When I'm with her I turn to mush, I smother her and make myself sick to my stomache with how nice I am to her. She isn't ...
A. 22 October 2009: It's not about being able to do better. What the hell is that about? If you find someone you gel with that's what it's all about. If you're looking for someone who looks better, is better in bed and whatever else...you're being really shallow, and I ... (read in full...)
Is it ever ok to give an ultimatum?
Q. Ok everyone I need your advice. Is it ever ok to give an ultimatum? I have been with my boyfriend for five years and I have had it. We have been in the same holding pattern for the last three to four years not moving forward not moving backward only ...
A. 22 October 2009: You don't need to give ultimatums. You need to tell him how you feel and that you're not happy with the situation. You need to tell him what you want and expect and if he can't give you that then it might be for the best to part. Let him think about ... (read in full...)
Nothing I do is good enough!
Q. Okay, so.. I have been living with my boyfriend for about 8 months. I am currently 7 months pregnant (obviously, with his child.) and I'm having major issues with him. I do everything I can to make him happy, but it seems like it is never enough. ...
A. 22 October 2009: "Tonight, he actually made me walk the 8 blocks to the gas station in the dark by myself to go get him cigarettes because he was mad that I didn't get them for him earlier today!" - THAT right there would have made me show him the door...no ... (read in full...)
I want another chance with him!
Q. I used to date this guy and he was super nice and everything was good but things kinda just fell off after we had sex, I left him. I was hearing a lot from friends and I took their side even though he had done me nothing. I still like him. I want ...
A. 22 October 2009: Do you want him back because you have no one now or because you genuinely think you made a mistake.
If you're genuine about it, the only way is to get back in touch with him and just go slow. See if he wants to meet up over a drink or lunch...... (read in full...)
Why does he get pissy and make comments when he doesn't get his way?
Q. my boyfriend and i have been together for almost two years now. he is living with family and is unemployed still. he make comments in reference to us in the future. for instance, like us having home together, kids, etc.. but what puzzles me is ...
A. 22 October 2009: What this means is that he's a bit immature. Him saying he'll just go home or he should have stayed home means that he's not willing or able to deal with things head on and looks for an easy way out. It shows he's not ready to be in a serious, adult ... (read in full...)
Is this guy playing me?
Q. A boy I like have a girlfriend. He does not know I know he have a girlfriend. But I know he likes me and he said heis interested in me some times. We were dating four three times. When we are together I see clearly how much he likes me and there ar...
A. 22 October 2009: This is a mess and you better get out of this situation as it will never turn into anything good.
He's playing you but you were also playing a game with him. There is no trust here and I don't see how there can be any in the future either. ... (read in full...)
Guys: did you give it another go if you thought she was worth it?
Q. Hey Guys, I was involved with someone 3 months ago. We were only seeing each other for about 6 weeks, it was a long distance thing. However, we talked on the phone daily for hours and text'd message in between, etc. We clicked extremely...
A. 22 October 2009: Ask oldersister puts it well.
Let's forget for a moment that you've never met the guy, that you didn't have a real relationship and all that other stuff. You're stuck on him now and you need to deal with this one way or another.
It is absolut... (read in full...)
I know I can't have him so what do I do?
Q. Yesterday I got word from a friend that that this guy in my school asked out this girl two years younger than him. I suddenly felt really uncomfortable, and sick, and, well, jealous. I realized that I probably liked that guy as more than a frie...
A. 21 October 2009: Let me ask you, did you want him before he asked her out, or are you just jealous now that he has someone? I doubt that your feelings for him are real...you probably want him now that you can't have him.
Ask yourself...if he did not like this oth... (read in full...)
Guys: did you give it another go if you thought she was worth it?
Q. Hey Guys, I was involved with someone 3 months ago. We were only seeing each other for about 6 weeks, it was a long distance thing. However, we talked on the phone daily for hours and text'd message in between, etc. We clicked extremely...
A. 21 October 2009: q1605, I couldn't have said it any better :)
Wow, you haven't even met this guy? Honey, please don't take this the wrong way but you were never in a relationship with this guy. You never met him, never saw him in the flesh, never touched the guy.... (read in full...)
Guys: did you give it another go if you thought she was worth it?
Q. Hey Guys, I was involved with someone 3 months ago. We were only seeing each other for about 6 weeks, it was a long distance thing. However, we talked on the phone daily for hours and text'd message in between, etc. We clicked extremely...
A. 21 October 2009: The way I see this is that the break-up came about because of the circumstances you were in, not him...he didn't dump you. Who knows if he still thinks about you or if he's got someone else.
I can tell that you can't forget him so if I was you ... (read in full...)
I'm 15, he is 26. Is this bad?
Q. right well im 15 .. and ive been going out with this lad who is 26 ... but ive been with him for nearly a year .. and where so happy .. he treats me like a princess and buys me what i want and loves me loads ... and evryone says im a very mature 15 ...
A. 21 October 2009: Age difference is not a big deal later on in life but at your age it could be a problem. He's a man and you're a girl. I don't know if you're sexually active with him but if you are he could be committing a crime depending on the age of consent in ... (read in full...)
Is he interested or just keeping me hanging?
Q. My ex split up with me 2 months ago. I didnt want it to end but he felt we were fighting too much and needed to not live together anymore. I wanted to work on things and he agreed to date but us live apart for a while and work on our problems, but ...
A. 20 October 2009: When I read your question, and especially the line 'do I stand a chance with this guy' I felt like asking you why are you so 'desperate' for someone who has clearly pushed you away? He seems like he doesn't know what he wants and is keeping you ... (read in full...)
What do teenage girls whisper with each other about?
Q. Hi, can only teenage girls answer this please. I'm just wondering what you talk about when your go into circles and whisper.... It intemidates my friends and I lol so just wondering. ...
A. 19 October 2009: I'm not a teenage girl anymore but once upon a time I was. When my friends and I got into those 'circles' at school we mostly talked about boys and our crushes. Sometimes it would be other things like life in general, other problems but it was ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend cheated with her best male friend
Q. My girlfriend of 2 years cheated on me the other night. She was out with her best mate of 10 years (a bloke) and they went to a club, got drunk and snogged. Prior to this they have sexually flirted via text, nothing that explicit just that they f...
A. 19 October 2009: If I was you I would leave her. What she did was show that she has no respect for you and you don't need someone like that. If she's done it once she will do it again, no doubt. You are worth more than that and you deserve better. After 2 years ... (read in full...)
So in love, must we part?
Q. I love my guy very much. He loves me very much. After three years he is not even ready to live with me and I am ready to get married. Today I am crying at my house and he is crying at his. because how can two people break up who are so right for...
A. 18 October 2009: As the previous poster said, you have different aims. You two seem to be on different wavelenghts, timelines, etc and that's why a relationship is not sustainable. Perhaps if you'd met at a different point in your life it would have worked out, but ... (read in full...)
Will he become disinterested because I'm too interested?
Q. I have a roommate and recently she and her brother planned a trip for some friends. I was invited. On the trip her brother and i went for a hike and talked. We connected on every level. We shared the same views, opinions, and experiences. The ...
A. 18 October 2009: No worries, happy to help :)
So, as far as I understand this, you guys met during a trip and it's been three weeks since then. You've just now texted him…is this the first contact you guys have had since the trip? If it was, does that mean tha... (read in full...)
I've loved her for over 40yrs. How can I change her mind?
Q. I am embarrassed to ask this as I am 62 years old male. 40years ago I fell head over heels in love with a girl. Our mothers worked together and that is how I met her. She was still in High School. This will sound very odd, but we never dated at ...
A. 16 October 2009: Like the other posters said, I was also really touched by your post. I have unfortunately had to deal with bad men in the past and to read this makes me feels so much better, so thank you for sharing.
I don't think I can add anything useful h... (read in full...)
How can I be more trusting that his feelings won't change?
Q. Dear Agony aunt, Basically I have been going out with a guy for 5 months and it's going really well, but I only ever get to to see him at weekends. This has not been such a problem as we are constantly in contact over the phone or sykpe messaging...
A. 16 October 2009: This all comes from being insecure. You're reacting that way because you're scared he'll change his mind and things won't work out. Because you're so scared that something will go wrong you pay attention to the smallest details and you overanalyze ... (read in full...)
Will he become disinterested because I'm too interested?
Q. I have a roommate and recently she and her brother planned a trip for some friends. I was invited. On the trip her brother and i went for a hike and talked. We connected on every level. We shared the same views, opinions, and experiences. The ...
A. 16 October 2009: Of course you think about it often, you like the guy, you're excited and you want things to happen. You can certainly visit him and pursue him...and if he's that genuine it shouldn't really matter. What I was saying before is that you taking a ... (read in full...)
Should I be the first to tell him how I feel?
Q. I am a 29-year-old woman who is intensely attracted to a guy at work. He is 23. We enjoy chatting with each other and flirt quite a bit intellectually. He does little things for me like buying catnip for my cats and insisting I try food from his...
A. 15 October 2009: How much about him do you know? He could be attached and be flirting with you at work to pass the time. People often do this without realizing it. What might seem like attraction and flirting to you might only be friendliness to someone else. I have ... (read in full...)
Broken Heart, Broken Brain
Q. I am 27. My husband and I started dating when I was 20. I loved him very much and he was my very best friend. He passed away a little over a month ago at age 28. He was very sick. I waited on him hand and foot and did everything to try to make him ...
A. 15 October 2009: Sorry to hear about your husband. I think you're still mourning the loss and these 'feelings' you have for the other men are not genuine. You've just experienced a huge loss and you're subsconsciously trying to make yourself feel better. You seem to ... (read in full...)
Will he become disinterested because I'm too interested?
Q. I have a roommate and recently she and her brother planned a trip for some friends. I was invited. On the trip her brother and i went for a hike and talked. We connected on every level. We shared the same views, opinions, and experiences. The ...
A. 15 October 2009: I think you'd be best off getting him to come and visit you to start off with. If he is truly interested (and you should expect no less from a guy) he will make the effort to come and see you, no matter how busy he is.
By going to see him I don't ... (read in full...)
Guys: Is this a sign he's going to break up with me?
Q. Okay so I really need a guys advice, I have been with the same guy for about 4 months! I seriously love him so much! We have had a pretty good relationship so far, not many fights, we did have one break up but got back together cause we were crazy ...
A. 15 October 2009: Sorry, not a guy but I'll offer my two cents.
If you think something's wrong then there's a high possibility there is. I've learned to trust my gut feeling when it comes to men because it's usually right. If you feel they've suddenly changed,... (read in full...)
How do I prove to her I'll never cheat again?
Q. I cheated on my girl friend that I have been with for a year and 8 months. I was more drunk then any man ever should be when I cheated on her and barely remember doing it. I wouldnt ever cheat on her normally because I love her with all my heart. I ...
A. 15 October 2009: I think hijacked is right. Once the trust is broken it's almost impossible to get it back, especially when it's broken by a person we trust and care for a lot. It does not matter that you were drunk, you allowed yourself to be drunk to the point of ... (read in full...)
How can I get out of this messed up relationship?
Q. im not sure what to do every time i try to distance myself from this boy and get over him somehow we end up messing with each other again. i want 2 leave him alone but somehow i feel like i cant. i dont want to be in a messed up relationship but ...
A. 14 October 2009: You say that you can't distance yourself from him and get over him. Guess what? You definitely can but you don't want to. By messing around do you mean you end up having sex with him? And how does he make you happy exactly? He gets to 'mess around' ... (read in full...)
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