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writes:Well it's simple, I'm still in love with my ex and she says she still has feelings for me. I'm just not sure if I should take her back. When I was with her I tried to be the best boyfriend I could. I always did what she wanted me to, I bought her flowers when I could, I always made sure she knew just how much I loved her and how much she meant to me, I never lied to her, and I never yelled at her, I pretty much let her win any arguments we had. We're not exactly the perfect match, we have completly different personalties, I'm a country boy, I like country music, I wear cowboy boots, and I have a southern accent, and well I'm not exactly well off, my family makes roughly $20,000 a year. She is a city girl, she always talked about going to Florida when she grows up, and she listens to Rap and boy bands and stuff like that, her mom probably makes close to $150,000 a year and she doesn't work much. So basicly I'm Country, She's city, I'm poor, She's rich. But I still love her. But she left me because she wanted to date another guy and I'm just affraid that she'll do it again. Thanks for any advice.
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reader, Trans Am Man +, writes (28 October 2009):
Trans Am Man is verified as being by the original poster of the question um, again everyone thanks for the advice. I've decided I was stupid for wanting her back. I never tried to talk to her to get her back and I'm not going to. I don't want her back.
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reader, Trans Am Man +, writes (27 October 2009):
Trans Am Man is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks Everyone for your advice I've decided that tomarrow which will be 10/27/09 I will try to get things back on track, I'm gonna ask her out and see where things go. If things aren't different then I'll leave her but if things seem well then I'll just keep on going.
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reader, Trans Am Man +, writes (26 October 2009):
Trans Am Man is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks Everyone for the advice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2009): I doubt she loves you. She wouldnt have left you otherwise.
Ofcourse she will do it again, shes trying to make you her safty blanket, this actually happenes alot to both men and women. If you take her back you will regret it.
I think its time for you to start looking for a new gf. forget this one or just keep her as a friend
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2009): My advice would be to follow your heart and gut. Some guys do take the 2nd chance and sometimes it works out, sometimes it doesn't.
I consider myself to be in your situation with a few different events. My ex and I would love to hook up but ever since she and I broke up, a lot has happened with her and long story short, she is in another country with her parents. I do miss her and want her in my life but the situation is harder. What stops me from falling head over heals again with her is the fact that she too, left me for another guy.
Exclude the background, the backgrounds are something which can be worked out if both are willing to adapt to each other.
The previous relationship sounds kinda one sided and she ended up taking you for granted.
The worst that could happen is indeed, she does the same thing again but your heart should be able to handle it a little better. So I would say go for it.
If you find yourself in a weaker state in your heart than b4 then it's not worth the risk.
Either way, just consider both sides, and make up your own mind. Good luck
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reader, Lexie88  +, writes (26 October 2009):
 By the sounds of it, this girl doesn't deserve you. I know you say you love her but it seems like she took you for granted. Leaving you for another guy tells me that her feelings for you were not genuine.
Although I can't tell you what will happen if you take her back, the fact that she left you once for someone else tells me that she doesn't feel strongly for you for it to last. Perhaps she's at a time in her life where she feels lonely and remembers just how good you were to her, and so she wants to make herself feel better.
Maybe you can work it out but you have to take care of yourself. Don't let a girl like this use you. I'm sure there's a girl out there who will really appreciate you and what you have to offer.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2009): Yes it can work but it sounds like the timing is off. Also sounds like your parents did a good job and your a nice guy. Do you really want it to work, or is it just an ego thing? sometimes people with money have no concept of money so it does get in the way. Hopefully you go to college so you can make some real money. Its not everything but its important and does change things, life can be better and easier with it..Mark my words on that . If your confident and good looking hard working nice funny etc. a well rounded person who knows a lot about many things you can get any girl. You have to fit in or gilrs walk all over you. You said you did everything for her - well dont. men and women like the hunt the things they cant get so play harder to get. Girls like the bad boys and a challange if your to nice and sweet they will run in the opposite direction. So be in the middle not to nice but confident and always act cool and mellow, never lose your cool. Act like its no big deal to hang out with her then she will want you more. Plus if she likes you, you can listen to rap and she can listen to country.
A good relationship in life is equal 50/50 and give and take . I think you can do better.... Now go to college and find some hot chicks there... Join a frat. Its the best thing in life....
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reader, Doenut  +, writes (26 October 2009):
I understand how you are feeling, it must be a difficult situation to be in.You deserve much better than someone who is going to leave you to date another guy. That must have been heartbreaking!Don't let anyone into your life who will treat you that way.You say you are still in love with her but please believe me when I say time is the greatest healer, in time your feelings for this girl will become less and less.Focus on yourself, surround youself with friends and do things you love to do, don't worry about her.You'll find a girl who is worthy of you and who will appreciate you and the lovely things you do for her.
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