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writes:I used to date this guy and he was super nice and everything was good but things kinda just fell off after we had sex, I left him. I was hearing a lot from friends and I took their side even though he had done me nothing. I still like him. I want him back but I dont if I can get him back and what im asking is how do I prove I changed and Im not gonna bail out? Reply to this Question
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reader, Pixiegirl123  +, writes (22 October 2009):
it won't be easy but he'll have to trust you. And if your not willing to commite then don't try. Try again with him but if you bail again then don;t hurt him anymore until your sure.
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reader, Lexie88  +, writes (22 October 2009):
 Do you want him back because you have no one now or because you genuinely think you made a mistake.
If you're genuine about it, the only way is to get back in touch with him and just go slow. See if he wants to meet up over a drink or lunch...a friends only thing. If he's still interested he'll take the chance and if after you meet he wants to pursue things he'll let you know.
There is no need to prove that you've changed and that you're not going to bail out. That is all shown through time and actions. If you absolutely have to say something, all you need to say is that you made a mistake and that it was not his fault and that you'd like to give it another go. Leave it at that. Don't beg or make promises you can't keep. It'll be up to him whether he takes you back but don't overdo it...you need to keep some power as well.
So get in touch with him, see if he wants to meet up, be yourself and take it one step at a time. If he's still interested he'll welcome you back.
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