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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:A boy I like have a girlfriend. He does not know I know he have a girlfriend. But I know he likes me and he said heis interested in me some times. We were dating four three times.When we are together I see clearly how much he likes me and there are plenlty of such signs. With me hi is also shy. He is a very popular guy.I wanted to check how much he like me so I thought if I will tell him that I am a virgin and see how he react. If he still wants me then he like me and will stay with me and start a relationship. His girlfriend is a not nice person and evil one.. I have seen your girlfriend..." So I thought if he choose me then I will talk about her. ( In real I am not a virgin)In two weeks he did not tell me if he wanted me or not and when I texted him and asked him to tell me if he doesn't want me, he did not answer me. So I talked directly to him and the day after he told me to meet him the day after because he will go to work. so This second day I asked him when we can talk and he said when he will be able to(when he finish) he will text me. He did not text me so I texted him "this is your answer.it is over.." He answered Yes unfortunately, you are fine and such things but we are so diffrent.When I finished my work I texted to him" It's time to confess. I knew you had a girlfriend that's why I told you I am a virgin.In that way I will know if you wanted to play with me or you have feelings for me..."More than one hour later he wrote" If you have been honest from the beginning maybe it would work between us...I do not like games or lies and you can't have feelings after a date. Also I do not have a girlfriend and I do not know who do you mean or what you imagine". I wrote to him that I did not lie but only wanted to test him. If the girl was not your girlfriend who could it be, another date.". He wrote back " Game, lies, test are the same. And I have not been together with any girl and I do not know who do you mean". I wrote back that there is a diffrence between a test and lies/game".Honestly, I made me unsure, maybe this girl is not his girlfriend even though it seemed. I have only seen one phote he was with her at the time he wanted to date me. I saw it on internet. But then when he was dating me the phone was deleted. One year ago this guy was playing game with me. So we broke up after 2 in togehter 7 hours long dating. In the summer he contacted me again asking if I have a boyfriend and when I answered no he did not anser back. So after one week I wrote to him you are playing. After 2 months I saw him again and after three weeks we talked. Afterwards we started dating.This guy also made me jealous some times. But he later told me it is only a joke with his friend and it does not mean anything...I have feelings for him. I am afraid that he is playing with me.I do not know if I can believe him. I have headache and can not think. What can I do? Is he mad at me? Does he want to have a relationship with me if I apologize? shall I apologize? Is he playing? Is the girl his girlfriend? Can I trust him?Will he forgive me? I do not know what to do?I only know that I have feelings for him. I am so confused...
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reader, Lexie88  +, writes (22 October 2009):
 This is a mess and you better get out of this situation as it will never turn into anything good.
He's playing you but you were also playing a game with him. There is no trust here and I don't see how there can be any in the future either. You did not start things right and I don't think there's much of a chance of you two making it work.
He's not interested in a proper relationship so you need to let this one go. There's too much drama, lying, playing games and just general mistrust. Let it go.
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