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writes:Ok, here we go. First off, me and my girlfriend have been going out for about six months. My friend, which is a girl, broke up with her boyfriend just recently. Me and him use to play in a band together. And thats how i meet the other girl. I did not have a girl friend at the time, so I will admit i was kinda jealous. Anyways, I just meet my present girlfriend why they were also dating. So, here just recently me and the girl that has been dumped has been talking more than just recently. Last night I went to hang with her after I hanged with my girlfriend at here friends families birthday party. So here is where it gets a little trickier. I asked her if i could kiss just for pure curiosity. Mind you not that I never believe in cheating, but I was just so curious. Now I am worried that I going to hurt my present girlfriends feelings, but I still would want to be friends. Still, I have not done anything to severe yet, just the kiss. Now I believe, I got feelings for her now. I feel like the bad guy here. Home come being good is so hard to do, why can I just end the relationship and just jump into another one and hope for the best and still hope that the previous girlfriend is still your friend
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2009): You are clearly trying to justify your actions by saying "I did not cheat". You did. First its a kiss then ..... It always starts that way. You are using you girlfriend as back up, if you feel that you just want to e friends with her then break up with her or take some time apart before exploring you filings for this other girl if hurt her like this she will never ever forgive you you will lose not just a girlfriend but more importantly a good friend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2009): Firstly break up with your gf, you dont want her anymore.
And just be casual with the other girl. A relationship with her will be a loose, loose situation and you know it.
You are still pertty young, so maybe casual relationships would be better for now. You can have serous ones later
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2009): Hmm if things are ok with your current gf I don't see why you should ruin it over some lust. But you'll learn one way or another that karma is a bitch and to never bite off more than you can chew.
And well you are the bad guy because you did cheat. there no riddle there XD
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (26 October 2009):
This is called being selfish. You don't believe in cheating but you did it, but you still want to be friends with your girlfriend that you cheated on (which would make her stupid if she stayed friends with you) AND you want to date your friends ex girlfriend. Do as you please and remember that what goes around comes around. Have a nice day.
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reader, Lexie88  +, writes (26 October 2009):
 You wanted to kiss her, curiousity has nothing to do with it. You have feelings for this other girl. Perhaps it wasn't planned and you don't consider it cheating but if I was your girlfriend I'd see this as cheating.You have to first decide what you want. Do you want your girlfriend or this other girl...you can't have both because you will lose both girls if you try to have them both.If you want to break up with your girlfriend then do it sooner than later. Don't lead her on anymore if you think you want to be with this other girl.Also, be warned that this other girl might just be using you as her rebound. You might break up with your girlfriend for this girl who might leave you in the end. You might then regret your decision.You should just sit down and quietly think about what you really want. If it's the other girl then you'll have to let your girlfriend know. She will be hurt, there is no other way around it, but it's better you be honest with her and let her move on before it's too late and you've done more with this other girl.
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