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writes:im not sure what to do every time i try to distance myself from this boy and get over him somehow we end up messing with each other again. i want 2 leave him alone but somehow i feel like i cant. i dont want to be in a messed up relationship but sometimes he is the only person that makes me happy but now he says he wants a relationship with someone else and i still cant let him go help me plz!!! Reply to this Question
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reader, adamskidude  +, writes (14 October 2009):
 Lexie is right :)He's messing you around and you dont want that, try and find a replacement man and see how that goes. Remember, youre still young!kthxbai ^^
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reader, Lexie88  +, writes (14 October 2009):
 You say that you can't distance yourself from him and get over him. Guess what? You definitely can but you don't want to. By messing around do you mean you end up having sex with him? And how does he make you happy exactly? He gets to 'mess around' with you without a committment and now he says he wants a relationship with someone else...how does that make you happy?I think it's not exactly him you don't want to let go of. I think that you can't let go of the feeling of being wanted (even if it's just to mess around). I think you are on the right track in realizing that this would lead nowhere, as you correctly foreshadow that this could be a messed up relationship, and you're on the right track by coming here and wanting out of this. What you need to do is tell yourself that he will not do you any good in the long run. He will not be a loving and committed boyfriend. He will continue to mess around with you until this other person he wants reciprocates his moves. He will then let you go, or continue to string you along. You need to tell yourself that you are worth much, much more than that and that you deserve respect and a real relationship. You need to love yourself enough, respect yourself enough and have enough self-esteem to walk away from this guy. I know that you are worth more than he is giving you and I want you to turn your back on him. It's hard, I know that, and you feel like no one else will make you feel like he does...but you need to realize that he will only hurt you and make you miserable.You need to know that he is not good for you, thay you deserve better and that you are worth more than he's giving you. Once you believe this it will be easy to turn your back on him. You need to make yourself a priority here.
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