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writes: So how often is too often seeing each other while dating? Or how much is not enough? We work together so we see each other every day. Although this probably shouldn't count as seeing each other, it's hard to guage. Right now we see each other every Saturday evening into Sunday morning around lunch time, unless we have something planned during the day on Saturday.He said a couple of months ago he wanted to get more into the dating mode and see each other once during the week, so we did that for awhile, but for the last couple of weeks, haven't done that. Any comments on how to guage how often to see each other? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionLexie88, we have only the last couple of weeks not seen each other during the week. We have been together 7 months btw. We just got back from a week long trip together a couple of weeks ago, so I assumed we were trying to get our work routines back to normal the one week, then the next week we ended up seeing each other Saturday night and Sunday night, so I guess it all evened out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2009): It seems like you have been dating for at least 3 or 4 months. I can only relate to what my wife and I did when we first started dating over 30 years ago. By that time, we were spending Friday and Saturday night and about one week night together. I would expect more than one night a week if you have been together for several months. We also worked at the same place and saw each other every day. We would normally go out with a group on Friday and just the 2 of us during the week and on Saturday.
The above assumes that you are exclusive to each other. If not, then it would depend on whether one of you is dating someone else at the time.
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reader, Lexie88  +, writes (3 November 2009):
 It really depends on what you both want out of this...are you just dating and are free to see other people or are you both interested in forging a proper relationship?
If you're looking for a relationship I'd want to see someone on the weekends and perhaps during the week once, or sometimes twice. I understand that you work together so that makes it a little difficult to work out what's right. Do you go out for coffees/lunches during the work day as well? Do you talk on the phone during the week?
There really isn't a right or wrong amount of 'dates' per week but if you're looking to make something of this, you should be seeing him more than just on a Sat night, if your schedule permits of course. I'd also think you'd want to be comfortable in getting together on a whim sometimes and not plan things each time.
Why have you stopped the mid-week dates? Is it just that yoy're both busy or have you grown apart a little?
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