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30 March 2008: Slashdot is a geek site focussing mostly on tech. Relationship advice is not something you will find there, but this story just has to be mentioned. http://entertainment.slashdot.org/article.pl?sid=08/03/30/0028211 http://www.livescience.co...
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I'm so behind with my sexual knowledge I fear he'll think I'm weird! Help!
Q. Four years ago when I was 16 I decided, together with my bf at the time, that I was ready to lose my virginity with him, basically neither of us knew what we were doing, I felt uncomfortable and immediately told him to stop. However he didn't, he ...
A. 15 November 2009: And what exactly do you think sexual experience would teach you? How to do everything just right? A hooker would know that, does he want to date a hooker?
You are still young, it is alright for you NOT to know everything yet. You can learn it... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't do anything for himself!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 6 years, I am now 21. He doesn't do anything for himself or me. He had a crazy past, being homeless etc. What should I do? Should I stick by him or leave? I'm really confused. I haven't been with anyone else....
A. 15 November 2009: Scared of being alone?
Since it has been six years, he is unlikely to change. So, is this what you want out of a relationship for the future? It is your life, so you got to make that choice.... (read in full...)
My husband hates my cooking!!! Help!
Q. Hi, i need some idea or any advice. my husband is very difficult or complicated man most of the time in anything but specially with food. im his second wife. he was separated to his 1st wife of course i dont know the reason. but i do know his ex ...
A. 15 November 2009: Well, I guess you just found out why he is divorced from his first wife.
Sorry girl, but this is a western forum, so you are not going to get any cooking tips here.
He don't like your cooking, then he can cook or pay to go out.
You on t... (read in full...)
Vaginal dryness is causing me problems...
Q. I am only 38 but I am going through menopause early. I am not going to have to take hormone replacements, because things seem to be going fairly well for me (meaning, my periods stopped about 2 years ago and I am otherwise healthy and fine. But the ...
A. 15 November 2009: There are edible lubes, it might take a bit of searching to find one that is to your tastes. Don't expect a taste treat. Try durex's version. It should be available globally unlike some others.
A google for natural lubes might also bring up some ... (read in full...)
How do guys like a girl to behave???
Q. I dont know What guys like i mean i really dont get it, do boys like it when you're tough? Do they like it when we're girly or wot cos I've tried everything, it would really help if someone wrote back and told me what the best way to get boys to ...
A. 15 November 2009: Have sex with them, they won't actually really like you, but they will pretend. Well some of them.
The old "be yourself" might not be what you want to hear, but it is true.
Do you want boys to like you for what you are not?
Now, there is a... (read in full...)
Walked in on my boyfriend with a guy in his bed. Is he gay or did he think it was me?
Q. My boyfreind went out with friends last night and probably got a bit drunk. Anyway when i called to his house this morning he was in the bed with his friend (a man) but thats normal as sometimes they just crash in the same bed if theres no free ...
A. 14 November 2009: Not unless you are very butch. There are physical differences between boys and girls. ... (read in full...)
Why don't men spend money on me?
Q. Hello, I have always dated men who do not spend money on me. They would have splashed out on their previous gf's but not on me. Usually I am the one to get them great gifts but I rarely get anything cool in return, just cards and some random gene...
A. 13 November 2009: Because you date men who don't spend any money on you.
Don't like the type of guy you date, date another type. It ain't rocket science.... (read in full...)
Is it normal for a girl to watch porn videos online?
Q. Is it normal for a girl to watch porn videos online? My friends commented that it is disgusting for girls to do so but I have to confess that I always watch them and masturbate after that. Is it normal or am i a weirdo?...
A. 12 November 2009: 50% of girls masturbate, the other 50% lie about it.... (read in full...)
Husband filed for divorce, but I don't think either of us wants one. What are some ideas for putting my marriage back on track?
Q. Okay. My husband has told me he has filed for divorce. We have been separated for 8 months now. The first 4 months he did have interest in us going to marital counseling and working on our marriage. We had been married for 11 months when we ...
A. 11 November 2009: "All marriages have troubles"
Not to the point of suicide my dear.
"So when we got in arguments I was not the best wife to him."
Why does that bit read to me as "a good wife never argues with her husband and accepts his will and command". ... (read in full...)
What do men find most attractive about women?
Q. what are men really attracted to? now as a young woman i am curious do men like skinny women or do they like a woman with some meat? what is the most attractive aspect of a womans body? do men like curvy or a stick? ...
A. 11 November 2009: One with a beer in her hand and who keeps her mouth shut and doesn't walk in front of the set to bring said beer.
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Why do guys say I'm not attractive?
Q. Hi SO what to do! I have been told in my ols school i am really pretty and was popular and had many bf but know if we play spin the bottle no guy wants to kiss me. Ok not true they do but WHY do guys say I am not attractive? When I used to get ...
A. 11 November 2009: Yos has the most likely answer.
If you are the only teen girl able to learn a single thing, then learn this.
Boys will say ANYTHING that they think can get them sex.
This doesn't have to make sense or even be likely to work, they just have ... (read in full...)
My wife cheated and I suggested she give herself space to think. Am I doing the right thing?
Q. My wife has been having major stress at work and endinced working closely with a guy on a particular project for several weeks and during this time ive been working away for most of it, She has now told me she theyve slept together and thinks she ...
A. 11 November 2009: Why are you asking?
You are the injured party here, yet you seem to be doing everything to make it easy for her.
Perhaps that is part of the problem? If you can accept what happened, then you are a more noble person then me but I would at l... (read in full...)
Does a man NEED sex to be healthy?
Q. Want to know if a man can do without sex and be healthy?...
A. 11 November 2009: What do you think men did in the navy? Even today there are only a few women on say a carrier.... (read in full...)
I'm scared I'm pregnant again!
Q. I'm going to try to make this as short as possible. We were dating for ten months. But then he moved away and I was healing and I was in good process, but he moved back unexpectingly and I ran into him at a party and my heart just dropped. I got ...
A. 9 November 2009: Scared to be pregnant again, yet not on birth control.
What more need be said.... (read in full...)
I want my husband back and for us to be a family again...
Q. Here's my story I will try to make cut it short. My husband left us (me and our 2 kids) 8 weeks ago. He said he didn't know how he felt about me any more; he felt that I was controlling and he felt tied. The second week into our seperation I...
A. 9 November 2009: Together for 16 years, married for 7. NINE years of dating before the marriage?
It might make sense if you two got married once out of school and dated for most of your teen life but if that is not the reason, why did it take SO long to commit? ... (read in full...)
Hubby watches women live on their web cams and chats with them - is this cheating?
Q. Hi everyone, I was hoping for a bit of advice on the subject of the boundries between porn, and cheating. I would especially appreciate a male perspective, although all answers are welcome. The problem is this. My husband, as like a lot o...
A. 9 November 2009: We all rationalize things to make them acceptable.
With regular porn, the woman ain't real. She is not a person but an image. She has no mind, can't talk, does not breath and is probably air-brushed to hell and back.
With live-chat, that ... (read in full...)
Guys, what is your favourite position?
Q. What do guys like best sex wise? Any special posistion? ...
A. 9 November 2009: Well, you don't have to smile in doggy style :)
But for us married guys, the position is like this, the woman bends over the kitchen counter. She then takes out the salami and slices it for the pizza, while we bang the babysitter in the next roo... (read in full...)
Is my wife is cheating on me.... again?
Q. recently my wife went back to school and the first couple weeks she called me and wanted me to bring her lunch if I could, but the last couple weeks she ignores me all day and says she is too busy and tells me not to come up with lunch. She has also...
A. 9 November 2009: Seems like it. Things seem strained between the two of you again, and you know what happened last time. So does she, and she knows she got away with it.
That is the problem with cheating, it is often impossible to repair a relationship fully. I... (read in full...)
Do guys like it when women moan during sex?
Q. Do guys like it when girls moan during sex?...
A. 9 November 2009: If you mean it, yes.
If you don't, then act it out well :P... (read in full...)
She cheated on me with two men and now wants me to give her time before we break up!
Q. 5 months ago me (32) and my girlfriend (23) moved in together. Previously we had been having a long distance relationship for 2.5 years. Things were going very well and then she went on a 2 month medical elective on a pacific island. A month into ...
A. 9 November 2009: Think you did right. As you said, her excuses for her behavior are just not realistic.
To be specific, in extreme circumstances people can act extreme but these are short term things. She wrote she fancied one guy for days. And she did it with ... (read in full...)
Have I ruined everything with the man I love?
Q. I've been with my bf for 6 months. He's a complicated creature, very sports orientated from a young age so his appearance has always been important to him so he regularly goes to the gym. He has also never been on holiday with anyone and canno...
A. 4 November 2009: Here is a little tip for the future when it comes to selecting a man.
The list of issues a man can has is NOT a checklist where more is better.
When you buy a car do you look for one with a soggy suspension, cracked radiator, leaky brakes but... (read in full...)
If you lose weight can it make your penis bigger?
Q. So, my penis isn't really that big. I'd say maybe 4 inches when erect. I know that 4 inches is long enough to satisfy a girl, but I would rather be average of maybe 5.5 inches. That would make me feel more confident with myself. I'm also a bit on ...
A. 4 November 2009: The penis extends through the layer of fat, the tinner the layer, the more stands out.
So, no the penis itself won't be longer, but there will be more out there.
Also, fat is bad for the heart and the penis is powered by the heart. The healt... (read in full...)
My good friend wants to see my penis. Should I show her?
Q. i have a realy good friend and she ask me to show her my penis i dont know if should show her but at the same time i dont know why she want to see it can someone help me with this...
A. 4 November 2009: Only if she also shows hers... (read in full...)
My boyfriend took advantage of me while I suffered alcohol poisoning!
Q. Alright well, i'll try to explain this the best way i can. On halloween, last saturday, i went to a party with about.. 6 people. one of which included my boyfriend. We obviously were drinking since it was halloween and just for fun, you ...
A. 4 November 2009: "Obviously were drinking, since it was halloween."
A kid of 13-15.
I don't even know were to begin.
Oh, and you don't have a boyfriend, just a rapist. On the whole I would recommend against keeping one of them around.
That you even... (read in full...)
I have a full life, but worry that I may not find love. Are there others out there like me?
Q. Hello all, I am an attractive, and very young looking 41 year old woman.I never meet men around my own age, as they always think I am too young for them, and do not approach me, and the guys I do meet are never really settled, or they are unsuita...
A. 4 November 2009: Guys of 41 think a woman of 41 is to young? I thought the rule was half your age + 7. You must REALLY look young.
So, you go out but don't look... just leave it to fate.
What message could that send in your posture. The message you send to men ... (read in full...)
She cheated on me with two men and now wants me to give her time before we break up!
Q. 5 months ago me (32) and my girlfriend (23) moved in together. Previously we had been having a long distance relationship for 2.5 years. Things were going very well and then she went on a 2 month medical elective on a pacific island. A month into ...
A. 4 November 2009: Her version of events... eheh. You ain't ready for it, or she hasn't time yet to come up with a story she thinks you might swallow.
Come on, what she wrote in her diary is NOT what happened?
Yes, I would give her some more time, but then I... (read in full...)
Family: Where does your priorities lie?
Q. Wife Question to husband Who do you see as our family? Husband Answer to wife You and the two kids of course Wife to husband No one else? Husband to wife No. No one else Husband to wife Who do you see as our family? Wife to ...
A. 4 November 2009: You probably see "family" as the one you created.
She means something else.
Frankly, I find her list odd as well. Mother first above chosen partnet AND kids?
Listing kids first would be more normal. Odd that she ranks them so clearly as... (read in full...)
She cheated on me and I forgive her, but now she does not know what she wants.
Q. Well here it goes, I was went on vacation and I kept in contact with my girlfriend that I love very much, and i suspected something was going on and I was right She was cheating on me and she admitted it and asked me to forgive her I was raged but I ...
A. 1 November 2009: MissKin says it shows strength that you forgave each other... that is one interpretation. It isn't mine.
I think that the both of you are no longer in love, but in convenience. You been together for a long time especially considering your age and ... (read in full...)
My mum made me have an abortion but now I can't stop thinking about the baby I gave up.
Q. Im 14 years old, 15 in march. This February i had an abortion, my mom made me have an a abortion as i was too young to keep the baby, but i was too scared to tell my mom that i wanted to keep the baby. All i do now is think about what if i kept i...
A. 1 November 2009: Let me get this straight.
You were old enough to have sex.
You were old enough to think you could raise a child.
You were not old enough to tell mommy no.
Do you see the conflict? You agreed with your mother, because you didn't want ... (read in full...)
He has two kids with two other baby mommas but he's not interested in his baby with me...
Q. I just had a baby girl, whose absolutely beautiful, for my ex boyfriend. He knew I was pregnant but wasnt sure if he was the father. Well he has 2 other kids with 2 baby mothers but is taking care both of them. He had doubts about being the father ...
A. 1 November 2009: http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=baby's+momma
You use the term yourself, I wonder if you know what it truly means.
He is not a father and she is not his daughter. YOUR daughter is just a piece of bragging rights: "Look I could kn... (read in full...)
Advice needed. I think I'm in love with my best guy friend but he does not love me back
Q. I know this is a repeated question and it is quite long, but please bear with me. I have the most wonderful guy friend you could ever ask for. He is my best guy friend, and I love him dearly. He is always there for me when I am down, he tells me ...
A. 31 October 2009: I am probably way to paranoid but what does "I'd be willing to do lots of things for him" mean?
Are we talking FWB here or what?
Anyway, you think he does not love you so you don't show him you love him... he thinks you do not love him, so he ... (read in full...)
We have just become 2 people sharing a house not a home.
Q. As I can tell by many of the responses to my early question about private email, does my wife have the right to view my email. Let me go a step further and explain and ask my question in a a clearer and more understanding way. My spouse had an ...
A. 31 October 2009: Do me a favor, go rent "war of the roses" for the two of you and then both a lawyer and end this marriage.
It is over, you two are just trying to hurt each other. It now seems both of you have "forgotten" to mention important parts of the story.
... (read in full...)
He asks me to split the check - is he really interested in me?
Q. I'm a little old fashioned and always had the idea that when a man is truly interested in you he pays for dinner. I've been on four dates with this guy and each time he ask to split the check. Is this guy really into me?...
A. 31 October 2009: Maybe, I am kinda old fashioned that way myself and if you ask someone out, you pay for it. Even friends.
How do you know the other person can afford to pay halfs anyway? You might be putting a lot of pressure on them to pay for somethin... (read in full...)
Are these signs that my coworker likes me??
Q. Does my coworker like me or is attracted to me?? here are the signs: - He chats with me - He makes eye contact when we're talking and smiles but its an honest smile like he's happy and not just polite. I dont know if its just because he's hap...
A. 31 October 2009: Wow, you certainly seem to be aware of every little thing he does.
Do you like HIM? If so, then why not make the first move yourself? It is the easiest way to find out for sure. ... (read in full...)
If you can afford me 2
Q. This is for women to answer, since men can't know the answer, unless they got it from a woman already. A woman who used to be a prostitute (so I figure she was low self esteem), told me all men who pay for dates are paying for sex/relations...
A. 31 October 2009: The man pays for the date, the women pays for the clothes and make-up. The price difference might surprise you. A high quality suit IS expensive, but it LASTS for YEARS and can be worn for more then just a date. How many men get a haircut that costs ... (read in full...)
Should privacy still be allowed even although you're married?
Q. My spouse and I are at odd ends! I want to know if it is wrong of me to not give my spouse my email password. I have been told time and again that when you are married your not allowed to have personal email's or anything that is not disclosed. My ...
A. 31 October 2009: Interesting that your wifes question which is posted right above this one paints a different picture.
You "forget" to mention that you cheated on her.
And you "accidentally" put the wrong age when you posted this.
The first especially ... (read in full...)
Am I unreasonable to ask to see his email.
Q. My spouse has in the recent past had an affair. He hides his income He tells me that it is none of my business. i have no access to, or knowledge of his income. He tells me that it is not my business who he knows or what he does, and that i just ...
A. 31 October 2009: Privacy is a private something between two people, it is up to you two to define it.
However, he said he would rather be divorced. That means he drawn a line in the sand and basically, the relationship is over.
A relationship is two people wo... (read in full...)
Will I ever meet someone I'm truly attracted to?
Q. Have you ever saw the movie Becoming Jane with Anne Hathaway, who plays the role of Jane Austen, the English writer who never got married because she couldn't marry the one she truly loved. Well, I feel just like her. I'm 32 years old and never be...
A. 31 October 2009: There is a fine line between settling and having impossible standards.
On the other, if there are some people who fall in love all the time, then perhaps there are also people simply do not fall in love.
It might be time to ask yourself, what i... (read in full...)
My man masturbates on a regular basis but won't do it in front of me...
Q. Dear Cupid, my man masturbates on a regular basis but he won't do in front of me. He claims its something he has to do in private. And when he does it he has to watch porn to perform it usually oral sex clips. My question is I wouldn't mind him ...
A. 31 October 2009: Perhaps give him a show yourself? See what happens?
But as for the reason for masturbation, you might be surprised. Sometimes we just do it, to get it out of the way.
Think of it as eating, sometimes you enjoy a fine meal and sometimes you ju... (read in full...)
What do you class as cheating?
Q. OK, I wanted the aunts views on this.... What would you class as cheating?.... naughty phonecalls, texts, emails, pictures, thinking about someone else, a kiss, or full sexual contact?... My reason for asking is that I checked my bf's emails o...
A. 31 October 2009: Challenge to the reader... can YOU spot the red flag?
"My reason for asking is that I checked my bf's emails on facebook and he had some messages to and from another girl.. they were flirting and he'd said she was sexy then at one point he said ... (read in full...)
At 16 I'm Pregnant with my teacher's child
Q. MOD NOTE: Poster is in a vulnerable situation, aunts DO NOT give nasty or negative advice PLEASE!!! Oh my God!Even me myself don't know what to do. I'm 16 years old.For the past year,since I started high school(it's the way in Macedonia-from 15...
A. 30 October 2009: Alright, you are thinking of keeping the baby.
That is going to be hard. It would be a brave choice... if it is a choice and you are not just running away from making a hard decision.
You see. In my mind your post fails at the end. You cry "do... (read in full...)
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