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writes:I just had a baby girl, whose absolutely beautiful, for my ex boyfriend. He knew I was pregnant but wasnt sure if he was the father. Well he has 2 other kids with 2 baby mothers but is taking care both of them. He had doubts about being the father because of my involvement with someone else. I knew he was the father all along. After my daughter Layla was born you could see she look just like her father, my ex. He even said to someone that my daughter looks just like him. Well I tried calling and he never seems to pick up though he doesnt know my number. I tried talking to his family memebers to try and talk to him about our daughter, but that doesnt work. We had a really bad break up that lead to embarrasment and lies. Which I was most to blame but he did his on the side also. I just believe that what every happen between us should be pushed aside because of Layla. We should only talk because of her. When he broke up with me he didnt want anything else to do with me and since he found out I had his child I stil think he wants nothing to do with me. What hurts the most is Layla needs her father. I see him with his other kids all the time but he cant man up to mind. Im really trying to avoid putting him on child support because I want him to be there for her. He shouldnt hold what happen agansit me because its taking affect of Layla. Can someone plz response to me. I cant really talk to anyone about it because they really know how bumbed out im feeling about it. Why doesnt he response to me? If someone is claiming that your father wouldnt you want to get it cleared up. I want nothing to do with him either but we have something more special that we have to handle. Help
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (1 November 2009):
 http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=baby's+momma
You use the term yourself, I wonder if you know what it truly means.
He is not a father and she is not his daughter. YOUR daughter is just a piece of bragging rights: "Look I could knock up three bitches, I am such a stud."
He will only be involved if he feels like it and that is not the kind of parenting a kid needs.
Get child support and get him the hell out of her life.
You think she needs him in her life? Why? Because it did such wonders in your life?
Have him in your life and your daughter will be raised with the idea that this behavior is what she has to expect and accept in a man.
And just in case you are not aware of it, that is wrong.
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