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writes: Alright well, i'll try to explain this the best way i can.On halloween, last saturday, i went to a party with about.. 6 people.one of which included my boyfriend.We obviously were drinking since it was halloween and just for fun, you know:)?Then things started getting out of hand .. like REALLY out of hand. I drank way too much for my body to handle and i just went insanefrom the people there that night, they all told me it was as if i was posessed:S So anyway, i'm downstaires (from what i remember)with two other people and my boyfriend, but i was like.. completely out of it.i'd black out like every 5 seconds. Let me back up a bit though- before i went to the party my boyfriend doesn't have a car so i asked ( hah yeah- my mom) to pick him up and drive us to where the terminals are (where all the busses go)and the entire way there she was like" You BETTER watch out for her and stay with her no matter what, she's my only child and I don't want anything happening to her."he said " i promise Miss.(:"So as i was unconcious on the floor, i kept saying out every little thing that was in my head, like everything.And my boyfriend wasn't drunk at ALL so he was just like, on top of me making out with me while i was like unconcious.Then i appearantly said " let's have sex" but i'm not even kidding, my eyes were like glued shut the entire night and i was unconcious on the floorand what does my boyfriend do?He took advantage of me .. he KNOWS my biggest fear of life is if i get pregnant and at one point i remember asking him " did you come?"and as a joke he said he did,and i wentbalistic.Like you know when you're drunk you're supposed to be happy? Or you know when your boyfriend/ girlfriend does something to piss you off you don't tell them how mad that made you get?well this time since i was soo sick of the alcohol, i started screaming and crying and actually kicking. It was soo scary, it was like it was an exorcism.To top that off, my boyfriend kept on giving me more alcohol.he gave me so much that he said i chugged a 40 of bicardiand he kept giving me more.Long story short- my screaming and crying fase made me lose one of my good friends,I don't know what to do:( He told me never to talk to him again, and then he tells me he's not my friend anymore.After that stupid little thing; *my friend, not my boyfriendand did i mention, my boyfriend left me? He left me at my friends house and my friend's 17 year old sister and her friend came home and told me that he left, when he was supposed to stay with me..I ended up getting alcohol poisoning and throwing up all over my mom's house, that was after i had to get carried out of his house by my own MOM and my friend's sister.I'm just so sad.. what should i do about my boyfriend?1. he left me with alcohol poisoning and walked home2. he kept giving me more 3. he took advantage of me4. .. i don't even know.And when i asked him on msn two days laterhe was like" I didn't want to say no to you" I WAS sooooooooooooo DRUNK OH MY GOD! He seriously raped me, when i had alcohol poisoningi don't even remember having sex that's how sick i was.Everyone tells me that i should take a break with him.What do you think i should do?How do you think i can get over this, getting over the fact that people are ignoring me at school, and how i lost SOME of my friends?Should i break up with my boyfriend? i honestly don't know what i should do.This was really really complicated, i'll try to make another one that's not! Thank you so much for your help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2009): you both have your share of guilt to own up to. loosing your friend was your own fault. don't drink if you're unable to control yourself. your "boyfriend" was an ass. i would suggest breaking up with him, however i know how emotionally stupid girls your age can be. if you find it in your head to forgive him and stay with him, seek help. fast. he doesn't deserve a girlfriend at all since he treats them like a piece of meat. and you are too immature to take care of yourself, so avoid parties.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2009): Honey, you ahve two serious issues. One is being 13-15 you are NOT suppose to drink like that! Even adults should not drink like that! There is a limit a body can take and you have gone way beyind your limit. You have not acted responsible on that day. Second, you have a more irresponsible boyfrind than you are! Or, should you even call him a boyfriend, i'm not sure. A boyfriend is there to take care of you, to love you and to have a good time with you. NOT to RAPE you when you are unconcious!!! You must be joking when you are thinking of just giving him a break! Run from him, don't walk, and never look back. Don't worry about losing friends, when you gain respect slowly, you will find more friends. Act responsible! You have a long way to go...
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (4 November 2009):
 "Obviously were drinking, since it was halloween."
A kid of 13-15.
I don't even know were to begin.
Oh, and you don't have a boyfriend, just a rapist. On the whole I would recommend against keeping one of them around.
That you even still call him a boyfriend...
You made a really bad mistake and he did an evil thing. Reporting him is probably the right thing although a court case will be hell since his lawyer will tear you apart for your underage binge drinking and claim you wanted this to happen all along. Oh and you didn't have alcohol poisoning, that would have landed you in hospital. That is what his lawyer would say anyway.
Though case, no girl deserves to have this happen to her, but this is what happens when teens mess with things they can't handle. Why do you think adults tell you not to drink?
Best of luck, you are going to need it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2009): I think that you are an idiot. And btw when you remember blacking out , it does NOT mean your eyes were closed! It just means it's a gap in your memory, so i heavily doubt that you had your eyes 'glued shut' when you had sex. Plus if someone gives you drink, you don't have to drink it- self control!!!! As satindesire said , why did you keep on drinking when you were so drunk?! Know your limits . Break up with your boyfriend as obviously you resent him, and next time don't bloody drink so much.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (4 November 2009):
 You have to tell your parents. I read your question and there are just so many things wrong in there that I cannot advise you anything else right now. You are far too young to be drinking, you are with people who have access to alcohol and unbelievably poor judgement, you have had bad things happen to you because of this and you simply are in a very bad place as a result of all this.
Your parents deserve to know, so they can help you. They can also make sure that the people who engineered this situation are busted by THEIR parents. This entire scenario you describe is how people wind up pregnant, or dead (from alcohol poisoning), or injured. And you want to know what to do about your boyfriend? Get as far away from him as possible.
Talk to your parents, tell them what happened. It's time you started taking some responsibility for your choices--if you are going to drink like an adult, then you have to face the consequences of that choice. Sorry, but that's the truth. Otherwise, you're going to wind up in a very bad situation and you won't be competent enough to deal with it.
It's time to wise up before something worse happens. TALK TO YOUR PARENTS!
Take care of yourself.
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reader, Blod  +, writes (4 November 2009):
 Forget taking a break. Ditch your boyfriend and don't give him a second chance. He raped you so why are you even considering getting back with him? You could even go to the police with this. You were too drunk to know what you were doing and you're mum specifically told him to take care of you. He did the opposite. So chuck him without hesitation.
As for your friends, no offence, but they don't sound like good friends to me. If they know how your boyfriend treated you, how drunk you were and in what state you were in and still behave like this with you then they don't sound like friends. That's ridiculous.
I'm won't post this without mentioning the drinking though. I understand it was for fun because of a special occasion and everything, I've done the same. I don't want to sound like a nag but in future please be aware of your limits and don't depend on other people to look after you. Look after yourself and be in control, for your own safety! If this experience hasn't taught you something then God knows what will!
Good Luck. X
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2009): What he did was wrong. Flat out. You need to leave him. I would also report him. What he did was despicable.
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