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writes:My boyfreind went out with friends last night and probably got a bit drunk. Anyway when i called to his house this morning he was in the bed with his friend (a man) but thats normal as sometimes they just crash in the same bed if theres no free beds. Anyway, his friend was clothed but my boyf was naked and was touching his friend up in his sleep(they were both asleep) and i walked in on this, and woke him up immediaely of course! he seemed kind of angry or maybe it was embarassment(i stormed out then), im really angry, is he gay or did he think it was me in the bed with him and in his sleep roll over and and carry on as though it was me??? please help! i dont know whether to talk to him or not and i know he would flat out deny it if i asked him was he gay.
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reader, bi73  +, writes (15 November 2009):
Sorry But I think he is gay..I'm gay and my friends have no clue and I would never be naked with them.Good Luck!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2009): Hang on, both the previous answers are ridiculous! His friend was fully clothed! Ok so he was naked but if they were drunk then anything could have happened. Maybe his friend crashed first and then he went up in a drunken stupor, stripped off n fell asleep! What do you mean when you say he was touching him up? Was he jerking the guy off or what? Also how did his friend react with you? Granted you may have a closet homosexual for a boyfriend.. but this sounds more likely to be completely innocent. Talk to him calmly and sensitively, if he's not gay then he's gonna be feeling really embarassed and may get angry as a display of masculinity...
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reader, GrimmReality +, writes (14 November 2009):
 Well I think your BF is Bisexual or BiCurious at best. I don't care how drunk you are the hardware is different and unless he was like an insect that had antennae or has all his limbs cut off and eyes poked out he'd know the difference.
I think he is angry because he is embarrassed and maybe planned on keeping this a secret.
You didn't notice any Broadway posters in his home did you? Does he belt out show tunes in the shower? lol...I'm kidding. There is nothing wrong at all with being bisexual, I am trying to give you some comedic relief for a second as I know this must have been a shock.
So at this point I guess the choice is yours. He will most likely deny it out of embarrasment, but you saw what you saw. If you can handle his sexuality, fine. If you cant, fine.
But keep in mind that uif you are not approving of this, chances are that he will sneak about if he is at least Bicurious. and that is not fair to you.
Just go with your gut instinct here. It never lies.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (14 November 2009):
Well he didn't think it was you, that's for sure. He is either gay or bi. The point is you walked in and he was cheating.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (14 November 2009):
 Not unless you are very butch. There are physical differences between boys and girls.
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