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writes:I know this is a repeated question and it is quite long, but please bear with me. I have the most wonderful guy friend you could ever ask for. He is my best guy friend, and I love him dearly. He is always there for me when I am down, he tells me everything, he trusts in me and I in him, etc. He has just begun to recover from a past relationship, and is looking for other girls. The thing is, I have been realizing that I feel jealous when he says he likes other girls, but I hide it, because even though I think I like him, I think he does not like me back (and I really believe that it has to do with me not being his type physically. Or partially at least). So I just hide the way I feel for him, and pretend he is just a dear friend to me and support him with other girls. So, q.1 How can I get over him??? he is the first person I feel this way for, but I know it is not meant to be...Secondly, he is a smoker, but he says he will stop smoking when he has a girlfriend, and sometimes I feel sad when he says can't stop smoking for me (since I am not his girlfriend), and I feel like unimportant for him. It is not so much beacuse of the smoking, but because of the fact that I'd be willing to do lots of things for him just because he is my best friend, but he is not because he feels that these sacrifices only are done for girlfriends. That is why I feel that when he has a girlfriend, he will leave me out, for his girlfriend. How can I prepare for that moment??? I really dont want to feel heartbroken or like I need him. But i think I will really miss him, once he stops calling me and starts calling his girlfriend instead.Please Help!!!!
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (1 November 2009):
 You've got to tell him how you feel.
It's scary, I know. But if you hold back then eventually you'll regret it. If the worst happens, you'll be ok, I promise... at least you'll have your answer and won't have to deal with regrets.
Que te sea leve. :)
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (31 October 2009):
 I am probably way to paranoid but what does "I'd be willing to do lots of things for him" mean?
Are we talking FWB here or what?
Anyway, you think he does not love you so you don't show him you love him... he thinks you do not love him, so he doesn't you he loves you?
Sometimes you got to make the first move and risk getting hurt if you want a chance at love.
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