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And i am proud that i never cheated my relationships. I'm kinda person who respect the love. In my opinion, good conversation holds the key in the relationship.
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I dumped him but am having second thoughts -- should I contact him?
Q. I met a really nice guy and we 'dated' for about two weeks. He asked me out each time, paid for all dates, was a gentleman. In the two weeks I knew him all we ever did was kiss lightly, no make out, no nothing else, he didn't push my boundaries at ...
A. 31 August 2009: first of all..before you think you want to do something, you have to make sure whether you love the guy 1 as a person, OR..you LOVE the WAY HE TREATED YOU?
i mean, the way he treated you like BEING a gentleman. Yknow, you have to realize there wi... (read in full...)
Is she really that over me? I'm so hurt.
Q. Im in this bad situation and i feel like crap. I have been with this woman for 3 years and now it ended. I cant seem to get over her. She decided to cut me off and out of her life. She says she is doing much better and feels "wonderful" and "great", ...
A. 28 August 2009: i think you should move on. It happen to my ex-fiance. i cut him off due to some reasons.
He tried to texts me, calls me..they didnt change my mind. So , just move on your life
wish u all the best.... (read in full...)
I'm 38, she's 19 and she wants a relationship.
Q. I am 38 years old and have recently been getting quite close with a very very beautiful 19 year old work colleague ( I am not her boss ).She is very mature, and works part time as a fashion model. She has told me she wants a relationship. We haven't ...
A. 27 August 2009: well.. i think you'd better think over it again. You are 38 and she' 19..it can be many problems in it, though i believe many relationships with long age difference work out.
wheh I was 27, i had a boyfriend (now ex) 42 years old. That's true he ... (read in full...)
I'm having second thoughts about trying to conceive right now because my husband is sometimes cold with me and his daughter is going to move in! What should I do?
Q. I've been married for one year now... and my husband and I have been trying to get pregnant for the last 6 months and is not happening. He has a daughter with another woman, she is 10 yrs old and is coming to live with us. She is a 'good" girl but i ...
A. 27 August 2009: yes, i agree with you to take the pills until you really sure about your marriage.
Hold the pregnancy, until you are sure that your husband will treat you well.
good luck!... (read in full...)
My verbal abuse has caused my ex to become a different person, how can I fix this?
Q. In my past relationship, I verbally abused my wife. At the time I apparently never noticed what I was doing and I've finally come to terms with this over the past few months and I've been working on it tremendously. What really concerns me though... ...
A. 26 August 2009: you need to get her to consult to psychiatry.
They will assist her how to boost her self-confidence.
You also need to ask the psychiatry what parts you can do to help her.... (read in full...)
Is passion in a relationship just a fairytale?
Q. I've been dating my boyfriend for over 5 years. We only see each other on weekends because he has been building a house. He is a truthful, loyal, intelligent man. My problem is that he lacks passion. He doesn't really enjoy kissing and is ...
A. 26 August 2009: well..what i found, the romantic movie has been set for the audience to enjoy..LOL there must be up and down phase in the relationship. It's normal. The problems are vary..from sex, calls, texts, or even bills. Stay in love needs efforts..my q... (read in full...)
We live apart, are friends, he has a girlfriend, but I think he's interested, what do I do?
Q. Hi everyone, I recently went to visit a friend of mine who I haven't seen in a couple of years, and after spending the weekend together I realized that I have some pretty strong feelings for him. We have known each other for about 5 years or so, l...
A. 26 August 2009: yknow, man usually dont talk their relationship, unless there's a problem. I guess he just doesnt want to talk about his relationship with you.
I am sorry to let you know this, but i guess he wants you to be his best friend when he asked you to m... (read in full...)
We have dated others but were always having sex with each other!
Q. Hi I am 23 yrs old and I've been dating this guy for 5yrs on and off again. Well, in that time he have had other girlfriends and I have had other boyfriends, but we never stopped having sex with each other. We always been there for each other no ...
A. 26 August 2009: well, dear.. that's true if a man loves a woman, he will not want her but for himself..
in this case..if he said that he loves you, but you are not his girlfriend..
now..imagine it happen to me.. there's a man, he said he loves me so much..we hav... (read in full...)
I snooped around into my girlfriends accounts, and found that she had been talking to another guy in secret; and even met him!! How can I confront her about this?
Q. So... I've been with my GF for nearly two years. We've had a lot of fun, and our relationship has always been very fair and loving, despite some rough patches involving money (being out of work mainly). We've lived together for about half this ...
A. 24 August 2009: i think you cant really trust your gf right now. if that's just a friendship, there's no excuse she used a female co worker, and made a new YM account. she may not cheat you this time, but there may be a POTENTIAL to do so. Further, we all ... (read in full...)
Am I wrong for trying to push my boyfriends "best friend" out of his life?
Q. I hate my boyfriends "best friend" this girl cam out of nowhere in his life. And I can't stand her. Today I got another friend of mine to send her some very hateful messages. And I am glad I did. Hopefully she will get out of his life now. Wh...
A. 24 August 2009: just meet up with her personally, and tell her how you are sorry for that. Then arrange a hang out time, you, your boyfriend, and her..probably a movie or just a lunch. I bet things will be alright after that. good luck! :D... (read in full...)
Dated many guys and its always the same thing
Q. Hey I have separated from my husband over an year and I have been dated many guys and the more guys I met moreI realise I will end up alone, so I need your help to know ig the problem is with me or it is just the way things are. I am lost. I...
A. 24 August 2009: you wrote : "I have dated many guys and it is always same pattern" my suggestion, hold your chase a while..and do self-reflection..i mean, if you think that you always end up the relationship unpleasantly, and like a circle without ... (read in full...)
Does this relationship have a chance to last forever?
Q. I am a 31 year old mother of 3 young children. I met a 23 year old single guy at my work and started dating him 6 months ago even though I am still married. I was having issues with my marriage, I'm just not in love with my husband anymore, who by ...
A. 21 August 2009: time will tell
though based on experiences, and guys i dealt with..when it comes to serious & long term committment, a young man (20s and 30s) prefer to a woman without children.
However, your guy may be an exception..who knows? time will te... (read in full...)
Why am I so vain in the beginning of relationships?
Q. In the beginning of relationships, after the initial attraction, I always try really hard to look really good in front of the guy. Like if we go on a date or if we are just hanging out, I always want to look good.. and I hate it! It's like a reflex ...
A. 21 August 2009: LOL! i dont think you need to put on lots of make up, girl..hahaha..just use the light and little make up.. guys like that :D cos it won't surprise them when they wake up in the morning, after the love making on last night LOL! :D... (read in full...)
Did he play me or what? He had g/f he never told me about
Q. I met a guy in a dating site. I am from the Philippines, he is from USA. We have lots of things in common… we agreed to no commitment with anyone, just stay as pals and someday meet in person. He kept telling me that he will not commit, he can’t ...
A. 20 August 2009: you can be anyone and ANYTHING online dating..
here's what will be happening..anybody can find 100 bf/gf in a day on online dating.. online dating is the simplest way to find bf/gf..
it's better to find bf/gf NOT from the online dating.... (read in full...)
His interest seems to have really dwindled, what does that mean?
Q. So I have been dating this guy for 3 weeks. At first he called,text, etc all the time. We went on a date almost every night and he has even told his family about me (he wanted to invite me to a family function...but we had only been on one date at ...
A. 20 August 2009: yes, but apparently you must slow down your move if you dont want him to pull away from you. Reduce your initiation to contact him..it makes him stuck with you ;) Good luck!... (read in full...)
Why does this hurt so badly?
Q. I have been with my current boyfriend for 3 years. I consider myself to have been very supportive towards him during this time as he suffers from a mental health disorder. He continually drinks himself stupid. When he does this he gets verbally ...
A. 19 August 2009: how can a man take care of you, if he cant take care of himself?
leave him.. 3 years is more than enough ... (read in full...)
How long should I wait, or am I just wasting my time?
Q. 16 years ago I met the man of my dreams. But we have never been any more than friends. I never did tell him how I felt about him. He eventually got married and his wife cheated and got pregnant by someone else. They divorced. Before this happened ...
A. 19 August 2009: wow... my boyfriend is a very shy guy as well..so i understand how you feel. Yknow, the shy guys need a longer time to start a relationship..they need to trust you first. First time i met this man was 2 years ago..we were on the same office. ... (read in full...)
We met three weeks ago, would he tell me if he was feeling love for me?
Q. I met this guy three weeks ago and I have really fallen for him. I know three weeks isn't a long time, but I feel like I'm definitely falling in love with him. This is what worries me--I don't know if he feels the same. He does call or text me ...
A. 19 August 2009: you are defintely in Crush!
yknow, when it comes to love..it's more than just call or text on daily basis, and date on the weekend.
I think when he has not talked about the LOVE, the FEELING stuff, your relationship hasnt come to love yet..bu... (read in full...)
Didn't like what I saw on my husband's facebook. Am I overreacting?
Q. Dear Aunts, I recently stalked my husbands facebook account (no I don't think its wrong!) and I found that the adage 'look hard enough and you will find what you're looking for' is annoyingly true. I found out that he was ading random (and ve...
A. 19 August 2009: well, i dont know dear..i think it's kinda a proud for a man when he has many female (beautiful/slutty) friends. my man does the same, my uncle with a very happy marriage does it as well. my male friends do the same.. and they just ADD! LOL!!!... (read in full...)
Will women be put off by man who's only had one sexual partner?
Q. Hi, Im wondering do women think its a turn off if aguy who is in his early 30s has had only one sexual partner in the past. It was a long term relationship that didnt work out and I now wonder if women will be put off by it? Thanks....
A. 18 August 2009: it doesnt matter to me :)
so my answer is NO... (read in full...)
Do I just move on? He doesn't want to lose me he says
Q. I am dating a guy who is 10 years younger than me. He's never been married he has no kids. I am divorced with three kids. I look amazing for my age, not that I'm old, but whenever I go out I get carded and everyone thinks I'm in my early 20's when ...
A. 18 August 2009: well..despite of the big love you have for him.
You must remember the age difference is 10 years.. he's nice, he's romantic, he calls you everyday, text you everyday, telling you beautiful, crazy sex for days etc etc... in my opinion, they are the ... (read in full...)
He seems insensitive - should I dump him?
Q. Hi - I have been with my boyfriend 3 years but I am worrying we are just not compatible because every now and then he says the most insensitive things. Just one example which plays on my mind and still upsets me was before Xmas my 92 year old ...
A. 18 August 2009: if i were you, i will confront him first before i dump him. for example, when he said :"Well I could fly back for Xmas at considerable expense to myself" if i were you, i will tell him, that he doesn't have to come if he thinks the expenses... (read in full...)
He's intelligent but judgemental, and resents my independent thinking
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together more than two years. He is willing to do almost anything for me, pick up bits of shopping, help me out if I'm not feeling well, looks after my cat when I'm on vacation, etc. I try to assist him in many ways...
A. 18 August 2009: i think, when it comes to a boyfriend stuff..you can't be that hard, girl..
i am also an argumentative person..but in the OFFICE
to the man i love, well NO
If you frankly said to your boyfriend that you would check the story ..that means you... (read in full...)
Why won't he even remove his ex's from the social networking site?
Q. My fiance and I have know each other for nearly ten years. We've been in a relationship for nearly five. Before me he only had three serious relationships. One we filed a restraining order against, and has no bearing here. The other two were bad ...
A. 18 August 2009: then..why dont u add your ex, and see how your fiance react? :) Nope you are not over-react..i think he doesnt see the grounds you feel it..but I can understand how you feel, cos I am a woman. So, if i were you, i will do what he did. Add the exe... (read in full...)
Will this regret ever fade away?
Q. I’m 28 and newly married. I love my wife and the life that I have with her except that I am riddled with regret over missed opportunities. I can’t go a minute without wishing I had sowed my oats before getting married. I never had the desire t...
A. 18 August 2009: "She screwed, he sacrificed, she lied, and now she benefits and he pays. It's that simple. " WOW!!! have read carefully dude?? which part on the question said she lied???? while i read the question, this man said: " I found this out af... (read in full...)
I just don’t get why I would still want someone who could be so mean!
Q. Can any guys out there help me? How can guys be so nice, loving and affectionate to someone they don’t even care about!!?? I was friends with a guy for a few years. We would hang out but never really did anything even though he always wanted to! ...
A. 18 August 2009: Ok, your additional info get me more clear :) ok.. i tell you what..when you ask :"How could my best friend do this to me..?!?" I can tell.. YES, he could. Men..can do that. I have been there.. suffering on bed for 10 days, went crazy for mont... (read in full...)
I'm 15 and addicted to porn
Q. Hi i'm a 15 year old girl and i am addicted to porn! i dont know what to do! everytime i am alone or someone is downstairs i always turn to porn! i always masturbate while doing it. i am really afraid that i will grow up to be one of those bad nas...
A. 14 August 2009: everybody does it, girl :)
someday you will get bored of it..so just relax! i was addicted too before :D... (read in full...)
Will this regret ever fade away?
Q. I’m 28 and newly married. I love my wife and the life that I have with her except that I am riddled with regret over missed opportunities. I can’t go a minute without wishing I had sowed my oats before getting married. I never had the desire t...
A. 14 August 2009: well man, it's kinda ironic to read your problem. Sorry to say this.
But can you explain what actually the purpose of marriage in your point of view? is it because of sex?? if it is, your reason will never be a strong based to keep your marr... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend's penis too big? It will be my first time and I'm scared of the pain!
Q. I am a 19 virgin and ready to lost my virginity to my bf. When we want to have sex last night and found that his penis is too big. I don't think he able to fit inside me without hurting me a lot. I ask him to measure it for me and is 8.5" long and ...
A. 13 August 2009: it's definetely very big!
if you two want to penetrate, he'd better do it half first instead of full. If you feel ok, i guess 8.5" is just fine... (read in full...)
It feels like my BF is humiliating me sometimes
Q. I spent a fortune to be on holiday with my boyfriend and the kids. We were not on holiday together as such but spent sometime that I found beautiful and I really enjoyed his presence. It was the first time in over a year we became intimate. We ...
A. 13 August 2009: wow...if my boyfriend ask me "how many times are you going to ask that question' i will reply :"as many as times i want to.." Just confront him.. i think what happen to you is only a part of adjustment period of couple. He needs to understan... (read in full...)
How can we resolve the real issue instead of constantly bickering?
Q. I am in a relationship with a guy for the past 11 months. I love him very much and he loves me too. But he have a lot of issues with each other. We argue a lot and make up really soon too. But I think, we do not really address the problems we have. ...
A. 13 August 2009: okay..i noted this
"Now he argues saying, he finds it weird that I agreed so quick and even kissed him back that night given that I was just recovering from a serious heartbreak."
if he argues again.. just ask him:" so , now what do you thin... (read in full...)
I feel like he's playing me, should I let him go?
Q. Should I stop dating this guy? Here's my story, I am single parent of three. I own my own house, have a career, and make a good amount of money. The guy I'm dating has no kids, and makes way less than I do. He currently is staying with me due to g...
A. 13 August 2009: every house has its own rule. If his attitude bothers you, you have to tell him your rule.
i think he's not playing on you..but i guess it's only about his attitude. So, just tell him about the rule in your house.... (read in full...)
I just don’t get why I would still want someone who could be so mean!
Q. Can any guys out there help me? How can guys be so nice, loving and affectionate to someone they don’t even care about!!?? I was friends with a guy for a few years. We would hang out but never really did anything even though he always wanted to! ...
A. 13 August 2009: my friend, no woman in this world - i believe- can drive a man what to do. You said you couldnt appreciate his small talk on messanger...well, to women, it might look cheap - i agree, because i am a woman. I know how a woman feel. But for men, wel... (read in full...)
I just don’t get why I would still want someone who could be so mean!
Q. Can any guys out there help me? How can guys be so nice, loving and affectionate to someone they don’t even care about!!?? I was friends with a guy for a few years. We would hang out but never really did anything even though he always wanted to! ...
A. 13 August 2009: you are so confusing..sorry to tell you this truth.
You miss him, but when he approach you..you're kinda make a space.
You are upset since he didnt reply your text & email, but when he tried to talk to you again through online chat..you ar... (read in full...)
Should I give us a chance to be friends? Did he even cared about me?
Q. I've meet this guy about 10 years ago, we used to work with eachother. He's 11 years older than I am. Few years back we started dating. Things were really good, until gradually he was start saying that age is a problem, and he feels that I wou...
A. 13 August 2009: good! you deserve a good & caring man.
Dont let this man ruin your future, you are still young, Nazeena!
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Apart from watching , what else could he be doing on a porn site? And what does BDSM stand for?
Q. Why would a seemingly 'Godfearing' guy resort to using an adult dating porno website to meet women??? He is not ugly( about a 5) is EXTREMELY successful, can get almost ANY woman he wants to date him - and he goes on an awful lot of dates - driv...
A. 13 August 2009: you must ask him for the answer..hehehe..
okay, now here's my guess;
1. he doesnt want a committment..porn website means no string attached. just imagine if he find a woman in the praying community (you said he's seemingly Godfearing guy), he wil... (read in full...)
If a guy says he only wants to 'CHILL' with you and nothing else..what does this mean??
Q. If a guy says he only wants to 'CHILL' with you and nothing else..what does this mean?? I REALLY like this guy and was hoping for a relationship but he says he only wants to "chill for now"....
A. 13 August 2009: currently, he wants to keep the situation with you as it is... (read in full...)
I really like him, but he's sending mixed signals and I don't know how to deal with it!
Q. I really like this guy but I am not really sure how he feels about me? he would say all the right stuff and get me all excited about having a relationship with him then he would withdraw it all by saying something to take it all back i.e he would ...
A. 13 August 2009: First thing to do:
forget about the bad things he said
and..
Forget about the good things he said as well
Then answer this : has he asked you to be his girlfriend??
if NOT, just dont take seriously whatever he said. He's just a friend... (read in full...)
Why does unbelievable sex not drive a man to pursue it again and again?
Q. I've known this guy for a few months and he called me out of the blue. I go over to his house, we hang out all night and day, and have sex 11 times, I repeat, 11 times!!! He goes on to tell me he thinks that this is the best sex he has ever had. ...
A. 13 August 2009: because you too early gave him the great sex.
i use to give piece by piece to a man..and i give it after i am being exclusive with him, and when i feel i am ready.
For couple first months, i just kiss..then next months, touching..and so on..
I... (read in full...)
Commitment issues?
Q. I've been dating this guy only about 4 months now. We've only known each other for about 7 months. One week after we started dating he asked me to move in with him. I was reluctant to say yes but my lease expired in a couple of weeks and I was ...
A. 12 August 2009: he moved too fast, and you allowed it.
deciding to live together in 7 days only relationship is quiet risky.
He's just immature person, and keep on changing his mind..and i bet this gonna repeating cycle in your relationship.
How come a good ... (read in full...)
Should I give us a chance to be friends? Did he even cared about me?
Q. I've meet this guy about 10 years ago, we used to work with eachother. He's 11 years older than I am. Few years back we started dating. Things were really good, until gradually he was start saying that age is a problem, and he feels that I wou...
A. 7 August 2009: well..you really have a tough relationship with this guy. I am surprised you can hang on for 10 years with him.
Actually, the answer of your problem is answering the question :"how much do you love yourself?"
Never be afraid to move on..you dese... (read in full...)
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