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writes:Hi everyone,I recently went to visit a friend of mine who I haven't seen in a couple of years, and after spending the weekend together I realized that I have some pretty strong feelings for him. We have known each other for about 5 years or so, lived in the same city and now we both live in different cities (although still within 5 hours of each other) at different schools. I have a suspicion that he may also have feelings for me because we have stayed in touch through moving around, and he always says that I should move to the school where he is. I kind of let him know how I felt when he told me he was dating someone, I told him that I was a bit jealous because I always had a "thing" for him. (This was over a year ago). When I went to visit him, he invited me and didn't tell me until I got there and asked about her that his girlfriend was out of town for the whole weekend. (Kind of a strange coincidence?) I know this sounds bad, but nothing inappropriate happened. I don't think that was the intention at all, but I mean, there was definitely some flirting going on and then the next night after I got home he was texting me. He never says anything about his girlfriend to me either, even when I asked he didn't really say much about her. What is really going on here? Should I ask him if he feels the same about me? or is it wrong to do that since he is in a relationship?
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reader, khomba  +, writes (26 August 2009):
tell him about the good guy that u resently have met. that will give you a clear indication of wherther or not he want you.if he feels the same way as you do, he will be jeoulos if he does not get jeoulos then hard luck sis. all the best
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reader, Jolin  +, writes (26 August 2009):
 yknow, man usually dont talk their relationship, unless there's a problem. I guess he just doesnt want to talk about his relationship with you.
I am sorry to let you know this, but i guess he wants you to be his best friend when he asked you to move to where his school is. Perhaps he finds you as a cool & nice girl to hang out with.
I guess you'd better to be careful about your feeling..finding out that he doesnt feel the same as you do may be very hurt you..
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2009): He doesn't mention his girlfriend because either he's not happy in the relationship, doesn't feel the need to or doesn't want to hurt your feelings as he knows you like him as more than a friend. It's more than likely the first if there's been flirting and texting going on (unless he's a bit of a player, and wants you both). If you know you're not going cheat with him if he does feel the same, then you could ask. If he feels the same but isn't going to end the relationship then you need to be prepared for that, it may be harder for you to accept being friends, if you want to be still. If he does and wants to end things with his girlfriend, you need to back away until he does. If he doesn't like you, you need to accept that and move on, if you can't be friends with him.
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