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*hatisthedealpickle
writes:I've known this guy for a few months and he called me out of the blue. I go over to his house, we hang out all night and day, and have sex 11 times, I repeat, 11 times!!! He goes on to tell me he thinks that this is the best sex he has ever had. I have to say that I may have felt the same way. Sex where your body tingles and you are staring at each other hard core. However, the next evening we talked on the phone and the mood was completely different. I can tell when a guy is backing off even in the tone of their voice. I know we had sex the first time we hung out alone together and I am sure that is what it is. But, men are rewarded for sexcapades and women are somehow slighted for the same. Everything was awkward after that. He has called and texted a couple of times, but hasn't attempted to see me again. I just don't want it to be a one time (11 time) thing regardless of how it all ends up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2009): Hi. The thing is that sex isn't everything, no matter how great it can be with someone, because there are more sides to a human being that just the sexual part, and people evaluate people on more than just the sexual aspect in their search for a long-term companion.I had the opportunity to work with this woman I had seen around the workplace before, and we hit it off in a very friendly, fun way, we fed off each other's sense of humour. One day I saw her walking home and offered her a drive, and she asked me to stay for dinner. Previous to that we'd flirted on the phone, teasing and tempting each other about who could blow the other's mind if we ever got together sexually, but it was all in jest. Anyway, we ended up spending the entire weekend making love countless times in countless ways. From the Friday evening until Monday morning when we drove in to work, we were pleasuring each other until we were falling asleep, or hungry, then picking up where we left off. It was completely mindblowing for both of us. We did the same the following weekend, and it was still amazing.But as I got to know her more, I realized that we were too different in our lifestyles for a relationship to work, so I completely cooled things off because I didn't want us to become more attached, and I didn't want to hurt her.Many years later, sex with her still stands out as having been the best ever, but I'm still sure that we would not have made a good couple in the long term.
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reader, whatisthedealpickle +, writes (14 August 2009):
whatisthedealpickle is verified as being by the original poster of the question Hey everyone! Thanks for the feedback! I love this site. Just to give you an update....the guy has continued to call and text. Apparently, he has been really sick and had to go to the doctor this week. When I talked to him, he did sound terrible. I have used this time to think about what I want. I would definitely like to see him again, and I think he is still interested. I told him that I would like to see him again and he agreed, but not until he feels better. Will keep you posted. Will let you know if we do see each other again. Would love to hear from any men on this topic!!!!
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reader, Renee okc +, writes (13 August 2009):
Maybe you gave it up to soon, either way so what pick up the phone and ask him why is acting funny and why isn't your relationship the same. He may have only been looking for sex, you also have to look at it like this, Maybe he is protecting the both of you from hard feelings in the future. More than likely he isn't ready for a relationship and he doesn't want to lead you on so he is trying to stay casual. Please remember great sex isn't the only thing you need in a relationship you need alot more and maybe he feel's you guy's aren't a great couple so I suggest you get with him and talk like adults instead of assuming anything he may have various reasons. I am sure you have also changed after your great night encounter be adult about this.
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reader, QuirkLady +, writes (13 August 2009):
 Maybe he was only looking for a one time hookup. Maybe he is worried he can't repeat that amazing performance again. (11 times? WOW). Maybe he was seeing someone, they broke up, he had sex with you to get over it but now they've hooked back up. Who knows?
Why don't you try reaching out to him and seeing if he'd like to have another wild night. You're an adult, go have some fun!
Good luck.
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reader, tamika1983 +, writes (13 August 2009):
Maybe there was only chemistry in the sex and not the conversation. In order for a guy usually the ones that don't like being with a girl just for sex wants more out of it like interesting conversations. Or maybe he just wants u to initiate it because he may think that it wasn't as good to u as it was to him. A guys pride is always in the way. The only way you'll know for sure is to ask him questions like how would u rate our chemistry in and out of bed or why haven't u wanted to see me again. The fact of the matter is all men love great sex and majority of the time they want to persue it but u also have to wonder if it was a one night stand or do he have someone and feeling guilty about what happened. You'll never know unless u ask questions.
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reader, Jolin  +, writes (13 August 2009):
 because you too early gave him the great sex.
i use to give piece by piece to a man..and i give it after i am being exclusive with him, and when i feel i am ready.
For couple first months, i just kiss..then next months, touching..and so on..
If you give him all in one time, what should he chase you more? he got you all.
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