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And i am proud that i never cheated my relationships. I'm kinda person who respect the love. In my opinion, good conversation holds the key in the relationship.
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Should I give us a chance to be friends? Did he even cared about me?
Q. I've meet this guy about 10 years ago, we used to work with eachother. He's 11 years older than I am. Few years back we started dating. Things were really good, until gradually he was start saying that age is a problem, and he feels that I wou...
A. 13 August 2009: good! you deserve a good & caring man.
Dont let this man ruin your future, you are still young, Nazeena!
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Commitment issues?
Q. I've been dating this guy only about 4 months now. We've only known each other for about 7 months. One week after we started dating he asked me to move in with him. I was reluctant to say yes but my lease expired in a couple of weeks and I was ...
A. 12 August 2009: he moved too fast, and you allowed it.
deciding to live together in 7 days only relationship is quiet risky.
He's just immature person, and keep on changing his mind..and i bet this gonna repeating cycle in your relationship.
How come a good ... (read in full...)
How do you stop a married guy from hitting on you??
Q. I am single and was on a business trip abroad. My business partner is a very kind helpful person and good fun to be with. He is happily married with a beautiful wife. Suddenly he is sending me very wrong signals. He came to the airport to drop me - ...
A. 12 August 2009: if it's only once or twice, just ignore it.
if he repeats those messages to you, just tell him that you are not interested
if he doesnt give up, tell him that you will report those sms to Human resource
If he doesnt stop, tell the HR..
^_^... (read in full...)
I can't imagine a life without oral ...
Q. i'm having a big problem with my fiance... he loves getting orals, even insists on it... but won't give me any. the main problem is that fondling and all the rest, including penetration give me orgasm, but not really powerful. my ex always gave me ...
A. 12 August 2009: i totally agree with pickles..
it has to be "give & take" :)... (read in full...)
He wants us to live together but NEVER to marry!
Q. I need advice so badly! I am 41 an he is 50. We have been dating 2 years and we both have had 2 divorces each and we both have kids. I have been divorced 6 years and he has been divoced 8 years. We get along great, we love each other we spend all ...
A. 12 August 2009:
whatever happen in his past..he shouldnt carry forward to his current relationship..that you are involved in. Today is today, today is not yesterday..today is he and you, not he and his ex. So, shouldn't he be overwhelming happy with you so he can ... (read in full...)
I lied to my fiancee about why my phone was off all weekend but he's not convinced. What can I do now?
Q. During the weekend i spent time with my ex boyfriend and i had switched of my phone. my fiancee tried calling but could not get through.When he asked why my phone was off i told him i had a lot on my mind and just did not feel like talking to him, ...
A. 12 August 2009: there are thousands women outside looking for the kind of man like your fiance.. still remember to call his gf on the weekend.
why cant u be so grateful for this luck?
Cut your sneaking out action with your ex. What goes around, comes ar... (read in full...)
I feel my wife wants me to compromise too much. thoughts please?
Q. We all know that marriage is about giving and compromising, but what should I do if the compromise I have to make is against the personal values i hold dear, and I have to give in to demands that don't make sense to me? My newly married wife and...
A. 12 August 2009: have you discussed with her before you buy your sister and other family the gifts? does she buy her parents or sisters or other family members the gifts just like you do?
You know, i guess the issue may be is not the gift but whether you respect ... (read in full...)
Did he do this just to play mind games with me?
Q. hey guys i really would appreciate some advice. just an update on this ok so my ex fiance got in touch via facebook 2 weeks ago and when i responded to his request i added a note which he never replied to . so imy mind worked overtime thinking...
A. 12 August 2009: well.. i think he just tries to keep the circle of friendship with you, and nothing's more than that.
I don't see he tries to play the mind game. My ex also in my friend list face book. He has a girlfriend..and they look very happy. I also som... (read in full...)
Girlfriend refuses to show bikini
Q. Hello, me and my girlfriend have been going out for a few years now. However now that college has come around, I am living in my dorm room. She told me that she was going to go swimming at the ocean today, and said she had a new bikini. I asked ...
A. 12 August 2009: nah.. nothing's to worry about..she just doesn't want to..
I also dislike taking pic of myself in bikini, but i love spending time in bikini with my boyfriend..LOL! :D... (read in full...)
I've been cheating on my wife because she won't blow me.
Q. Hi. my problem is i love blow jobs so so much but my wife doesn't like to give them (she says it hurts her mouth too much cos I'm quite big, which i don't think i am) i have even on a few occasions gone else where for them but would like to receive ...
A. 11 August 2009: actually if your problem is only a blow job thing, you dont have to cheat your wife. It looks like a shallow excuses to justify the cheating.
Yknow, if you think your problem is a blowjob..you actually can seek the solution through the sex toy.... (read in full...)
Does he just want to hook up for sex?
Q. Same problem with my ex. Except we're not talking now because I chosed not to. I want to get back together offcially. He said to be friends and hook up so that he can see if he wants to get back. I said friends is fine but no hook up. (B...
A. 11 August 2009: ouch!!! looks like you teach him a hard lesson!
Well.. wish you all the best! ^_^... (read in full...)
Does he just want to hook up for sex?
Q. Same problem with my ex. Except we're not talking now because I chosed not to. I want to get back together offcially. He said to be friends and hook up so that he can see if he wants to get back. I said friends is fine but no hook up. (B...
A. 11 August 2009: hehehe..well, if you really love him tell him :"here's the bargain : friends YES, hook up NO"
and see what he thinks... i think it's the art of negotiation. Yknow when there's still a feeling, keep him..but make sure, no hurt your feeling.... (read in full...)
Is there a way to cope with continuous rejection by guys?
Q. is there any answer to continuous rejection.guys don't like me no matter what i do .i need help please. can some one anwers my question its really up setting me i never had first boyfriend and let first kiss.guys just continuous hurt me and i...
A. 11 August 2009: honestly, your information is lack. What are the "dos" you think that make guys stay away from you?
are you too accomodative?
are you rude?
are you too sweet?
are you out-of-dated fasion?
are you too busy with work?
it's not clear. So, the... (read in full...)
He dumped me because apparently, I didn't communicate enough! Is this a good enough reason?
Q. I'm not quiet sure of what my question is but was hoping some people can shed some light on this scenario so i can understand things better to move on. recently a boyfriend of 3 1/2 months broke it off with me, out of the blue. it has been the best...
A. 11 August 2009: i guess the problem is only a misscommunication.
You said, that you FELT he has been avoiding you, so you FELT dissapointed. I catched the FELT word.
Yknow, girl.. he probably didnt avoid you. may be he just need some space to think his own prob... (read in full...)
Why would a man hide the fact that he has a girlfriend?
Q. When a man is dating or involved in a serious relationship, would'nt a man talk about the woman he was involved with, when he talks about what he did for the weekend or his vaction plans for the summer??? Or does a man with-hold that information ...
A. 11 August 2009:
Yknow, there are also many women hiding their relationship just to look available to men.
i think it depends on the personality instead of gender.
there are many men respecting their relationship.
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I feel as though marrying her was a huge mistake. Help!
Q. I'm a 39 yrs of age, a barber and married. I've done 5 years in prison. I moved to sc and met a young lady and as of this year married her. at times I feel as if that's been the biggest mistake of my life. she's very demanding, controlling, and ...
A. 11 August 2009: wow... it's like a smack down marriage that you are having now.. fiuuhhh!
Have you two asked the marriage counsellor to solve this problem? Yknow, sometimes involving the 3rd independent & professional person may help to save your marriage.
Hop... (read in full...)
How do you know he is "the one"?
Q. I think I am currently with the love of my life, but due to my young age I am wanting to hold off on marriage until I am atleast 20. I think he is "the one" but because of my young age, I do not want to jump into things too quickly and regret it ...
A. 11 August 2009: how do you know if my bf is the one?
you will just know that. time will tell. it's hard to describe, but you just know that.
When you naked your mind, go through to the deepest inside your heart..ask to yourself :"do i really want to live with th... (read in full...)
He never wants to go out anymore. How can I fix this?
Q. I've been in a relationship for just over a year now, and up until recently it's been going great. My boyfriend and I get on really well and we're friends as well as a couple. The only problem is that he's very lazy and never seems to want to do ...
A. 11 August 2009: you can talk to him without push him.
perhaps you can discuss in a relax situation, snuggling to him, and you say that you hope that you two can have a romantic dinner once a month in the quiet restaurant.
Perhaps, your man dislike being in the c... (read in full...)
Am I overanalyzing, or is he really just not that into me?
Q. you know the movie/book "he's just not that into you?" well I'm kinda thinking thats the case for my situation, but maybe I'm just overthinking/analyzing it after watching the film/reading quotes from the book. First off- I like that he's t...
A. 11 August 2009: well..actually, from the problem you wrote there. I saw your relationship with him is still tooo far from what we called "romance"
This is not something, 'he's not that into you', but i see that you have put too high expectation to yourself... (read in full...)
My abusive ex won't let go. Help!
Q. I need a little relationship advice! Ok so a while ago I broke up with my abusive boyfriend. I'm happy with my decision even though he hasn't accepted it yet. He is still contacting me asking for another chance. At other times he's angry and ...
A. 11 August 2009: i have been on that situation, by the way.. and it was very tough! i know how it feels.
Well..just for an overview..i like a guy in my previous office, and he likes me too. But on the same time, his bestfriend also like me, and tend to be poss... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is too shy to express her real feelings!
Q. hey everyone, im having problems with my gf. shes great and all but shes just too different and she kinda scared me. she acts really weird acting as if she tries to avoid her true feelings, when im trying to be serious she turns it into a joke, her ...
A. 10 August 2009: what you should do is talk to her about what you feel.
Yknow, very often the relationship fail just because the people involve don't have a good communication. They keep their problems inside..and these would accumulate and potentially will beco... (read in full...)
What's the big deal about letting a man ejaculate in a woman's mouth?
Q. Why is it that alot of people have a problem with the question of a woman giving oral sex and letting a man ejaculate in her mouth or her swallowing? I ask it and some feel the need to humiliate or belittle or call me a jerk or use the word "de...
A. 10 August 2009: well it's not a big deal if you discuss this topic with the women who think that it's not a big deal.
but when you might have brought this topic to the wrong women. That's why you receive negative feedback. I guess that's the case.... (read in full...)
Why is my ex bf making contact after five months?
Q. So I dated this guy I was totally crazy about for three or four months. We broke up because he "wouldn't commit" because he claimed he was too busy and felt like he shouldn't get involved in something serious because he will need to move to complete ...
A. 10 August 2009: i think the first question answer is NO. The 2nd question is possibly. He may have the feeling for you, after 5 months without you by his side. Or..he just miss you,..nothing's serious in it. Therefore, you still need to see what his purpo... (read in full...)
Reopening a huge can of history - would you contact him?
Q. Hello there. I really appreciate your listening as well as your advice. Its kind of a doozy. But I will keep it as short as possible. My bf and I broke up about 8 years ago. Mainly, because we were young and he was embarking on a career that wou...
A. 10 August 2009: well, if i were you i prefer to play safe. Since he's in the divorce process, i'd better stay away from it. He may be not stable this time, in terms of emotion. If i were you, even if he says that he still loves me, is interested at me..it's quie... (read in full...)
Does he just want to hook up for sex?
Q. Same problem with my ex. Except we're not talking now because I chosed not to. I want to get back together offcially. He said to be friends and hook up so that he can see if he wants to get back. I said friends is fine but no hook up. (B...
A. 10 August 2009: hehehehe... that's his trick to get you as his friend with benefits!
leave him, girl :D... (read in full...)
Doesn't express his feelings, should I say something?
Q. Okay, so I've known this guy for about 10 months. I started dating him about a month after we met... things were good for about 3 months and then he broke up with me saying that i wasnt "his type" and he just wanted to be single, which was fine with ...
A. 7 August 2009: hmmm...these are the facts:
1. You are not his girlfriend, and he's not your boyfriend.
2. You want him to be your boyfriend, but he doesn't want to accomodate your want..
So, at that point, it's very clear that you should act like a friend in... (read in full...)
Why do his feelings always seem to change for me every other day?
Q. 36 with 41 year old man he says I am the cause of him being unhappy. I have tried everything I can to make him happy. His big thing is that I don't see things his way that I never agree with him. He says I don't bring anything to the table. That I h...
A. 7 August 2009: relationship should be a give and take..
Yes, you love him so much
Yes, he says something nice
Yes, he make plans for a future and others
etc...
No, if your man blame you for his unhappiness
No, if your man said that you had no goals
No, i... (read in full...)
Does this guy have a thing for me or is it just my imagination?
Q. OK, I am really confused. About more than a month ago, I started this new waitress job at a new restaurant. I worked with this guy who got hired, along with his brother. I will call this guy Neon. I will call his brother Sam. Anyway, I wa...
A. 7 August 2009: he's kind a "slow motion" guy..if i can name it..hehehehe..:D
well, he likes you..but he doesnt want to rush the friendship into the exclusive relationship. Now the question is :" are you willing to wait?"
If you are willing to wait for him, ju... (read in full...)
Should I give us a chance to be friends? Did he even cared about me?
Q. I've meet this guy about 10 years ago, we used to work with eachother. He's 11 years older than I am. Few years back we started dating. Things were really good, until gradually he was start saying that age is a problem, and he feels that I wou...
A. 7 August 2009: well..you really have a tough relationship with this guy. I am surprised you can hang on for 10 years with him.
Actually, the answer of your problem is answering the question :"how much do you love yourself?"
Never be afraid to move on..you dese... (read in full...)
Am I moving to fast in this friendhship?
Q. I'm a very shy guy and don't have many friends and have only dated one girl in my life. We were together for about a year but she ended it and it tore me up but as time has gone by I've gotten over it (2 months now). Anyway a friend of mine s...
A. 7 August 2009: well..rush never be the best option.
I think, since you just knew her, and you said that you dont really know each other yet..coffee is a better option. hmmm...
how about coffee, then going for a small picnic in the park or book store..t... (read in full...)
He checks his email, but doesn't reply to me.
Q. I've been seeing this guy, not exclusively (though neither of us has been seeing anyone else, we're just trying not to pressure what we have) for almost a year now. About 5 months ago, I moved 1000 miles away for work and we flew back and forth ...
A. 7 August 2009: well...dont get mad too quick, dear ;)
first of all, you said that your relationship hasn't been exclusive yet. So, yknow...you can't put too much expectation on him.
Or.. may be he just didn't know what to say about your problems
Or.. m... (read in full...)
A poop question..
Q. This is wierd and I hope somebody knows what it is that is happening!. For the passed 2week myself and my girlfriend have had this strange happening when we go to the the toilet. When ever we go to the toilet to "poop", we have both noticed tha...
A. 7 August 2009: well...try to eat more vegetables, papaya, to ease your poo..hmm, i guess consume the green tea can help as well.
if it doesnt work, please see the doctor
hope both of you get well soon! :)... (read in full...)
I'm 30 and I need to grow up, I've lost the love of my life!
Q. God ive f*****g ruined my life.or any chance of getting my girlfriend back. I tell u she is the best thing thats happened to me and i screwed it up. B4 i met her i slept around with lots of girls i mean nearly 100. I had nothing really ive got two ...
A. 6 August 2009: I think she loves you very much, but yknow everyone has the limit.. i guess, the first thing to do is dealing with your maturity problems. You must work hard to erase your bad habit and bad attitude. Then, show her that you already change, and have... (read in full...)
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