Guy turned a 180 and is now ignoring me..
Q. Sorry, this is long! I've just never been in this position. Okay so my friends introduced me to this guy about a month ago. We’re both 20. I guess he went to our high school freshman year, but I didn't remember ever seeing him. I guess like a month ...
A. 20 April 2011: It sounds like you're definitely in a rebound situation. I was in a similar situation with a guy who had just come out of a relationship of two-and-a-half years. When we started hanging out, everything was fun and new and we chatted constantly. But, ... (read in full...)
Husband found out about an encounter I had before we met and now wants to leave
Q. I had sex with my stepfather when i was 33 yrs old i was very drunk, i don't remember much, this was a year before i met my husband. After 10 years together he found out and wants to leave me. He said he can't handle the fact that this happened and ...
A. 20 April 2011: He's probably more hurt that you weren't up front about it from the start of your relationship. I would feel the exact same way if my fiance told me that he had slept with his step-mother at some point before meeting me. Especially if we had been ... (read in full...)
To everyone I'm the stuck up pretty girl with a perfect life, but really I'm a mess inside. Please help.
Q. Im a huge mess right now so please I just need some helpful advice...I feel overwhelmed with everything going on right now..I'm literally busy 24-7 to keep my parents satisfied..I get strait a's I take college classes don't party or do anything bad. ...
A. 20 April 2011: I wish I could say that it will pass, but if you've got issues with yourself now, they will only get worse unless you seek help. I was literally the perfect child growing up: straight A's, didn't drink, didn't do drugs, didn't have sex until age 20, ... (read in full...)
Soulmates or should we not be together?
Q. We have been together for about 10 months now. The feeling and chemistry is very strong right from the beginning. Deep down, we just know that 'we belong together' but we can't just work it out. We are good to bring out the best in us, and also the ...
A. 20 April 2011: Honestly, deep down, if you know that despite all of these fights and breakups that you two are really meant to be together, you wouldn't be on this site. Relationships are supposed to have their ups and downs; their fights and their make-ups; their ... (read in full...)
Is it unusual that I'm 18 and have never had sex?
Q. Is it really that unusual that I'm nearly 18, living in London (UK capital) and have never had sex or done anything close - never even kissed anyone? It doesn't bother me and I don't feel any pressure to do so; nor am I physically repulsiv...
A. 19 April 2011: It's not unusual, no. However, it is not common. I was 17 before I did anything sexual with anyone, and I was 20 when I lost my virginity to my now-fiance. Don't feel insecure about it at all, and stick to what feels right to you. You'll have plenty ... (read in full...)
My GF has severe trust issues, she starts to restrict me from whoever she considers a threat, and impulsively dumps me over these issues!!
Q. Me and my girlfriend have been going out for a year and a half, and were really great together. Recently she says she cant trust me, when i have never done anything to ever make her not trust me. About a month ago i went home for a few days and...
A. 16 April 2011: She sounds like a very immature and manipulative person. Yes, she is manipulating you and your emotions to get her way and to have you all to herself. It won't be long before she's threatening you with suicide and self-harm. By letting her get away ... (read in full...)
I am desperately unhappy because I cant measure up to my boyfriend's ex and I just want to get out of this relationship so that I do not have to be compared to her...
Q. I am so so jealous of my partners ex. I dont know where to start but it just seems like she was better in every way. She was very good looking, she had a kid, guys were always hitting on her. She is now doing a great job that pays well and she is ...
A. 6 April 2011: I've been to Hell and back with obsessing over my partner's ex who sounds to be a lot like your partner's ex. I'm getting a LOT better, and you can, too. You should really not be looking at the type of person she is now or the life she's living, ... (read in full...)
My G/f is unbelievably controlling/manipulative/insecure and I'm wondering if I can do anything to make her a little more secure...
Q. I know that my girlfriend of almost 1 and a half years is controlling/manipulative/insecure/etc...and that 99.9% of me knows that I'll inevitably break up with her, but I am the kind of person that wants to have no regrets and exhaust all measures ...
A. 6 April 2011: Okay, so I answered you previous post, but apparently you didn't get the answers you were looking for, or they just weren't clear for you. BREAK UP WITH HER. Insecurity is an ugly thing that stems from a person's view of themselves and their ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend gets turned on when I'm angry or upset!!
Q. My boyfriend gets turned on when Im angry or upset. Its most definitely not the only time he gets turned on (fortunately, because that would be one hell of a double edged sword!) but it surprises me, and makes me laugh a little nonethel...
A. 5 April 2011: Rings a bell with the video for "Love the Way You Lie". Megan Fox and that dude are arguing aggressively and are even hitting each other and punching things, but then stop for a little makeout session. It makes no sense to me. If my fiance and I ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend is extremely insecure and controlling
Q. My girlfriend is extremely insecure and controlling. To her credit, she was absolutely honest with me up front about her "tendencies" but said during her 7 months of being single prior to dating me, she had softened up a bit. (Her ex-boyfriend of 2 ...
A. 5 April 2011: I hate to say it, but you've put yourself in this position. She told you BEFORE you got together with her that she had insecurities and control issues. And instead of saying, "You should really get those things sorted before we try this out," you ... (read in full...)
Tried to get my GF to "change" for me, but I'm still not attracted to her and there's no sexual tension
Q. I've been with my GF for 3 years now, but our relationship is missing sexual tension. I'll try to be as honest as possible. You will judge my behavior as selfish, and I will not object, but know that when I'm changing my GF to my tastes, I'm trying ...
A. 1 April 2011: Break up, break up, BREAK UP!! I don't know why you'd want to stay with this girl out of pity. That doesn't do anything for you or for her. Sure, she may be accepting of the fact that you don't "love her", but down the road, she'll realize that not ... (read in full...)
Has anyone ever kept the truth from their partner and it did not destroy the relationship??
Q. Is a relationship where you have lied, and cannot get yourself to tell the truth, a relationship worth staying in? Will the guilt of lying and of having betrayed someone you love get to be too much? Cannot confess a truth, but don't know if the ...
A. 28 March 2011: Honesty in a relationship is like the foundation of a house. A lie is like the crack in that foundation. No matter how much you try to pretend it's not there, the crack will continue to grow and spread until the foundation of the house is no longer ... (read in full...)
I am tortured by the relationship my boyfriend had with his first girlfriend.
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for a year, things were great he was the best of the best. The guy who respects woman, loves her with unconditional care, and is an absolute gentleman. He had only had one ex girlfriend who lasted for 7 mon...
A. 28 March 2011: Wow. I have issues with my fiance's past as well, but you show no signs of actually "loving" your boyfriend. My extremes were hard to compete with, I assure you. I was obsessive, uncontrollable, and an emotional mess. My every thought was consumed ... (read in full...)
Cheated on my ex with my current G/f and my ex cheated on me with my best friend whom she's dating now....yet we sneak and make out and are perfect for each other!!
Q. Okay so my life is complicated...this is going to get confusing..just a warning before you get started... Okay well first off about 2 years ago I cheated on my ex for my girlfriend im dating now (for 2 years)...well I still love my ex and my ex ...
A. 28 March 2011: Mentioning that doesn't make what you're doing right. You've been cheated on by and have cheated on both of these girls and you're wanting to continue a relationship with them? Why? So you can continue to be cheated on and you can continue to cheat ... (read in full...)
Cheated on my ex with my current G/f and my ex cheated on me with my best friend whom she's dating now....yet we sneak and make out and are perfect for each other!!
Q. Okay so my life is complicated...this is going to get confusing..just a warning before you get started... Okay well first off about 2 years ago I cheated on my ex for my girlfriend im dating now (for 2 years)...well I still love my ex and my ex ...
A. 27 March 2011: So let me get this straight... You cheated on your ex with your current girlfriend, but you're cheating on your current girlfriend with your ex? And you claim to love both of them? Wrong. You don't love either of them if you're willing to hurt them ... (read in full...)
He is not technically doing anything wrong, but I cant help but be hurt by his actions!
Q. I'm in the middle of a dilemma. I'm with my live in boyfriend of almost two years, and we have a great relationship. He recently told me that he's head over heels in love with me, and that he has decided that he wants to be with me forever. ...
A. 24 March 2011: Definitely call him out on it. My ex-boyfriend used to do that kind of crap on MySpace ALL the time. I caught him doing it and mentioned how it bothered me, but he didn't stop. Soon, he had made a fake profile so that he could chat sexually with ... (read in full...)
I can't seem to make peace with his past......
Q. So me and my boyfriend have been dating for a little over a year now. I'm 19 and he is 21. The one consistent problem we have had is the fact that I can't seem to get over his past. He has told me he has slept with 7 girls and has also been engaged ...
A. 24 March 2011: First of all, you need to tell your boyfriend to calm down about the testing thing. It is a good idea for EVERY couple to get tested. I was a virgin when I met my fiance, but he wasn't. We BOTH got tested after deciding to have sex. It's the a safe ... (read in full...)
I feel inferior to his ex and his kisses don't turn me on. I love him but is right for me?
Q. My boyfriend and I get along great. We have the same values, same goals. He is my best friend. We have a great time together and I can see us raising a family one day. The sex is great. He is everything I have ever wanted. BUT... when we kiss THE...
A. 21 March 2011: What in the Hell is a spark? What does it feel like? Can you explain it? You say, "the type of kiss where you just know" he's your soulmate. I don't know about anyone else, but I feel that relationships everywhere would be in a lot of trouble if ... (read in full...)
Do people put too much weight on the institution of marriage, and too little value on the PERSON they marry?
Q. I sometimes worry when I see a young person "pushing" for marriage, and seeing marriage as the ultimate goal in a relationship, while worrying little about the "issues" that exist within the relationship and on building a healthy relationship and ...
A. 16 March 2011: Agreed, agreed, AGREED! I am currently engaged to be married. We have been together for two years and three months, and have been engaged for approximately seven months. At this point, I could take or leave marriage. The only reason it's even on our ... (read in full...)
How can women be so cruel as to keep guys who like them in the "friend zone"??
Q. Reflecting on the "friend zone" on a lonely Friday night, I am deeply troubled by a question about women: There are many women out there who know guys who like them romantically but they themselves are not attracted to them. Ok, this is fine. Th...
A. 13 March 2011: Precisely what I mentioned... Without giving my fiance a chance, I never would have known that we were so compatible intimately. Like I said, I had only ever been attracted to guys who didn't give a sh*t, so when I had a guy in front of me who was ... (read in full...)
How can women be so cruel as to keep guys who like them in the "friend zone"??
Q. Reflecting on the "friend zone" on a lonely Friday night, I am deeply troubled by a question about women: There are many women out there who know guys who like them romantically but they themselves are not attracted to them. Ok, this is fine. Th...
A. 12 March 2011: My fiance used to be placed in the friend zone. Honestly, at the time I didn't think it bothered him so much. I knew he liked me, but I also knew he enjoyed my company and I enjoyed his. We had a good time. We could talk and laugh and liked the same ... (read in full...)
It's not fair!! The woman who my fiance cheated with is happy with her own new family...while I am still suffering from his affair.
Q. I don't think its fair how the woman who played a part in my relationship stresses, gets to have her happy relationship. She now has a partner and child and is getting married. I have my child and home but harbour the anger towards her and my fianc...
A. 12 March 2011: Your anger towards her is irrational and misplaced. How do I know? I go through the same torment with my partner's ex. She has no direct part in my relationship other than the fact that she's a terrible person and treated my fiance VERY badly. She's ... (read in full...)
My relationship is causing me so much stress, that I can't think straight. ...
Q. Sorry up front for the long post. I have a lot on my mind and this is as short as I could possibly make it. I'm having trouble trusting my girlfriend lately and frankly, as things stand now, I have a strong urge to break up with her. We've been ...
A. 10 March 2011: Wow. This sounds IDENTICAL to what my fiance went through with his ex. They were on-and-off for about two years, and everytime she'd want him back and he wouldn't take her, she'd threaten suicide. She was big into partying, drugs, drinking, and ... (read in full...)
B/f keeps photos of his ex even though I have spoken to him about this 3 times already
Q. My partner keeps photos of his ex My partner and I have been dating now for 17 months and practically live together although we still have separate residences, i.e. he lives at my house, or I occasionally stay at his house. My concern is he ...
A. 10 March 2011: Wow. If I were in your position, I would have ended things LONG before now if I had found out he still had photos of his ex. Not only does he still have them, but you've told him THREE times now to get rid of them, and yet their still there. I would ... (read in full...)
Is love for real?? What did you feel the first time you fell in love?
Q. I wonder if love is real. I mean is it? Seems that we all just end up in bad relationships with people that dont care.. I was wondering what other people felt the first time they fell in love with someone special?...
A. 9 March 2011: The first time I felt I had fallen in love with my fiance was intense. Actually, it was a little funny as to why I felt it. We had only been going out for two weeks, and were laying in my bed cuddling and watching home movies of me when I was ... (read in full...)
I feel like a ghost and my life has been swallowed up by being married, living my wife's dream
Q. I am in my mid-40's, successful, have a pretty wife, 3 kids - but it feels like I am living someone else's dream, not mine. It seems to me that many, perhaps most, of the men in my situation, at least whom I know are in the same boat. We are living ...
A. 9 March 2011: Have you discussed any of these feelings with your wife? After all, marriage is supposed to make you two closer, not drive you apart. As the role of the husband and father, you are typically seen as the provider for the family. But this is not to ... (read in full...)
My relationship is causing me so much stress, that I can't think straight. ...
Q. Sorry up front for the long post. I have a lot on my mind and this is as short as I could possibly make it. I'm having trouble trusting my girlfriend lately and frankly, as things stand now, I have a strong urge to break up with her. We've been ...
A. 8 March 2011: Hmm... It seems that your girlfriend is living the single life vicariously through her single friend, while still holding onto the idea of a serious relationship should she want one. Obviously threatening to break up with her isn't the trick. You've ... (read in full...)
Can someone please explain long term, online relationships to me, I just don't get it???
Q. Hi, I am fairly new to this site but am really enjoying sharing my years of experience and advise with others. And I see a lot of questions here from the readers asking various questions about how they should handle a problem(s) in their relation...
A. 7 March 2011: I've been part of a long-distance, long-term relationship before. I was seventeen at the start of it, and we were in long-distance for nine months before I moved states upon states away to be with him. Needless to say, things fell apart for us ... (read in full...)
Getting into the head of a cheater
Q. Ok well I have a question for anyone who has ever cheated to share the reason for cheating! What made you cheat and why? Was it worth what came to be of the situation? Did you love the person you cheated on? Why use your working late? Di...
A. 6 March 2011: I've never cheated, but I've been cheated on numerous times. They were all very meaningless relationships, so I didn't read too much into it or question why. I've known plenty of people to get cheated on, or who have cheated themselves. What were ... (read in full...)
How do I make amends after I betrayed the love of my life?
Q. Below is a very short insight into the world I shared with Peyton. The tone of this insight is rather dark and negative. But as that is the feeling of this time we are going through, even if it’s not together, I thought I would express that even ...
A. 3 March 2011: Your story saddens me. While I would like to see you get her back, as it sounds like you genuinely and truly do love her, I do have to wonder why you felt the need to keep this Rachel girl a secret from Peyton. Especially having a separate phone all ... (read in full...)
Do I throw away 6 years for someone who rejected me?
Q. Hi, I'm in a relationship of 6 years with my first girlfriend. The problem is I'm still hooked on a girl I've been in love with for over 10 years. She also happens to be a really close friend. When I met my current girlfriend, I was living...
A. 2 March 2011: It seems to me as though you are cheating both yourself and your girlfriend of being happy. Sure, your girlfriend is in love with you and would do anything for you, but you're completely using her. You do not love her, at least not to the capacity ... (read in full...)
I thought we had a connection..and I have a girlfriend already..
Q. Hello people Just need your opinion. I have only worked at my new place for 5 weeks, it's a big retail store. In the last few weeks I have been speaking and really flirting with a girl there. She works in a different part of the store from...
A. 28 February 2011: Isn't the real issue that you have a girlfriend and you're worried about the fact that a girl you've been flirting with doesn't seem interested? Why do you care? Your question should be whether you really care about your relationship with your ... (read in full...)
How can such a terrible person be doing okay while I'm so unhappy and insecure?
Q. My mind is in a fog. I've written on this site countless times hoping for different answers. Hoping one of which might somehow help me. Hoping that someone has been where I've been and can give me hope and help me to better understand what my issue ...
A. 26 February 2011: Thank you to all of you who took the time to respond to my post. I understand that none of you would be able to give me the answer that will cure me and take me away from my own personal Hell. For those of you who say I should seek help (most ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend cheated and now says he can't get over her!
Q. My boyfriend of three years cheated on me for two months. We agreed to stay together after I found out on the condition that he is not to have any contact with her again. Since then, he's broken up with me four times, telling me that he can't get ...
A. 23 February 2011: This guy cheated on you AND has broken up with you four times claiming that he's in love with another girl and can't get over her? There are so many things wrong with this picture. Why is HE dumping YOU? You should have dumped his ass the minute you ... (read in full...)
If I break up with her what does she have?
Q. I am 21 years old, and have been with my girlfriend for almost 4 years now. Lately, we've been fighting and arguing almost every day. The fights we have are always about stupid and pointless things. I very rarely get upset about things, but it seems ...
A. 14 February 2011: You can't stay with someone because you are afraid for what will become of them afterward. That's very unhealthy, and if you do stay with her, you will resent her more and more as time passes. She will need to be on her own somehow. Because she ... (read in full...)
Why does he always mention his ex? Also, can I really trust him?
Q. So my boyfriend and I have been dating for about a little over a month, but he and I have been "together" (friends with benefits) for 5 months. I like him, I kinda love him, but I'm not sure if I'm ready to say it to him yet. The problem is that ...
A. 10 February 2011: My partner did the exact same thing, when I began dating him. We would be hanging out and she would come up literally out of nowhere, but they were usually stories that related to our current situation. Or he would mention how much better I was th... (read in full...)
Dating someone older but there's no sex involved!
Q. Im 13 and i'm dating a 19 year old.. my mum knows about it but i don't know whether its illegal. I'm VERY mature for my age and normally go for older guys, but he's the oldest i have ever been with. Were not in a sexual relationship. I've told him ...
A. 10 February 2011: Let me get this straight... You haven't even entered highschool yet and you're dating a guy who's already graduated? Bad idea. For many reasons. For one, you two are at VERY different stages in your life. I know that it seems like right now you two ... (read in full...)
I am obssed about my boyfriend's ex's
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 1 years now, I love him so much and i can see he loves me too. we plan to get marry this year december. But I can't stop thinking about his ex girlfriend. This thinking drives me crazy! His ex's were very pre...
A. 8 February 2011: I'm someone who's suffered from the same thing you are. I still do in some ways. But I'm not going to compare the two instances because my reasons for being insecure with my partner's ex are vastly different from yours.
I can, however, share my... (read in full...)
Since when is being gay/lesbian cool?
Q. This is not exactly a relationship question but I was hoping that I could get views on this issue here. Okay, so my question to all you gays and lesbians out there is: Since when is being gay/lesbian cool? I'm sorry, I am a lesbian myself, bu...
A. 4 February 2011: I can somewhat understand your frustration. I myself am straight, but many, many girls I know are claiming to be "bi" and hook up with both girls and guys. One girl in particular has dated a guy who she admitted she was bi to. She then told me that ... (read in full...)
I know in my heart that I deserve better. But I love him.
Q. I really don't know where to start. this is a long story so please brace yourself. Im really confused and honestly don't know what to do. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years now. Hes my first bf (Im 18 and were the same age). I want to expla...
A. 4 February 2011: Not meaning to be cruel or anything, but I honestly don't think you love this guy. I know you may think you do now, but once you are able to find true and honest love, you will look back on this relationship and laugh. When you can look at a person ... (read in full...)
People, have you been hurt terribly, but found love again after the hurt??
Q. I'm writing about my story about how I can't let the past go and how it has crippled my life and the way I live. My story begins when I met a girl at 26 years old she was 24. I just have fallen very much in love with her and she betrayed me and it ...
A. 1 February 2011: Your post rings a lot of bells for me, mainly because I'm with someone who's been where you've been, and I am a person who's been where you've been. My fiance and I both have drastically different stories, but we've both found each other and have ... (read in full...)
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