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My boyfriend gets turned on when I'm angry or upset!!

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Question - (4 April 2011) 6 Answers - (Newest, 5 April 2011)
A female Canada age 36-40, anonymous writes:

My boyfriend gets turned on when Im angry or upset. Its most definitely not the only time he gets turned on (fortunately, because that would be one hell of a double edged sword!) but it surprises me, and makes me laugh a little nonetheless.

I mean the other day we're fully clothed, arguing, and he grabs my hand and directs it towards his penis, and its hard.

There's been many times where I've been fully naked, dressed up in cute lingerie and I dont get that response!

Is this normal? Does anyone else out there experience these argument hard ons? Hehe.

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A female reader, Jen1689 United States +, writes (5 April 2011):

Jen1689 agony auntRings a bell with the video for "Love the Way You Lie". Megan Fox and that dude are arguing aggressively and are even hitting each other and punching things, but then stop for a little makeout session. It makes no sense to me. If my fiance and I argue, we're both hurting and emotionally drained. I could never imagine wanting to have sex while we're arguing. We've definitely have makeup sex, which is nice. But while we're fighting, all I want is to make things right before any intimacy can be exchanged.

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A female reader, CindyCares Italy +, writes (4 April 2011):

CindyCares agony aunt Nothing unusual. There are tons of romantic comedies where the two protagonists fight and bicker and yell at each other, only to stop dead at some point and fall into passionate kissing.

I guess that anger generates a kind of energy that's similar to sexual energy.

Personally, I must say that I can't understand it. If I am mad at somebody, sex is the last thing on my mind and I just want them to stay the hell out of my sight till I am calm again. But that's just me, everybody is different.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2011):

No, definitely not. I suppose thats because Ive had rather unique negative experiences with shouting matches and the last thing it does is turn me on. Id be careful tho here as that turn on can maybe lead to something very aggressive or even abusive, either physicaly or emotionally.

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A female reader, Anonymous 123 Italy +, writes (4 April 2011):

Anonymous 123 agony auntOh!!! How lucky can you get?!! Actually you never really know what turns someone on....and if this does it for your BF, its great!! I wish my bf was like that! Im pretty short tempered and when I get mad at him, its pretty much ballistics all the way. We have quite a yelling match.

But what a wonderful way of ending fights :) I would have been happy as a lark if I had the same situation as yours!!;)

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2011):

giiiiirl you are not the only one! it's totally normal :)

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A reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2011):

I'm more like this and I think I turned my ex to the dark side (;

The arguments my ex and I had were so intense to the point that I got turned on and I'd be on top of him and just start kissing him.

I love him agressively pulling my hair when we'd have sex and I'd scratch him like crazy.

It's really the best sex ever. I prefer angry sex over sensual, but that's just my style.

I've never been with another guy like that.

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