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writes:Is it really that unusual that I'm nearly 18, living in London (UK capital) and have never had sex or done anything close - never even kissed anyone?It doesn't bother me and I don't feel any pressure to do so; nor am I physically repulsive.I just wonder because up until yesterday I was under the impression that -although a lot of 15/16/17-year-olds are having sex- it was perfectly normal up until about 20 to not have done anything.However, I was talking to this guy (in a friendly way) who I believe is 22, who told me he only knew one other girl my age who had not had full sex, and even she had been in a sexual situation with two different people at the same time!I find this quite shocking; I have no problem with young people having sex/fetishes/threesomes/whatever but I didn't realise I was abnormal in not having done any of it!Is this true? Is it really strange to be totally inexperienced at 17 - nearly 18? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2011): I'm 18 and have not even had my first kiss. I was talking to a coworker one day who told me I'm beautiful and that a lot of guys probably go after me, but then I told her she was wrong. Then she blurted, "Are you a virgin?!"
I never thought I gave others the impression that I wasn't, lol. So, you're not the only one who's inexperienced. I think it's great that you've waited thus far. People have sex way too early in relationships or when they're drunk and end up regretting it.
Just ease your way into intimate relationships.
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reader, justjess +, writes (19 April 2011):
 I am almost 17 and haven't even kissed a guy, tbh I dont care if it's normal or not it's right for me so thats all that matters
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reader, Jen1689  +, writes (19 April 2011):
 It's not unusual, no. However, it is not common. I was 17 before I did anything sexual with anyone, and I was 20 when I lost my virginity to my now-fiance. Don't feel insecure about it at all, and stick to what feels right to you. You'll have plenty of time to experience all you need to with the right person/people, trust me =)
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reader, higgy +, writes (19 April 2011):
No it is perfectly normal and probably better to not do it yet. Its not good to rush into things latter on you will probably regret it if you do. I was 18 when I had my first kiss and I had just turned 20 when I lost my virginity... Take as much time as you want. You only get one first time!
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