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*ek1993
writes:I've been chatting to this guy online for many months now, and I'm really eager to meet him and get to know him more. Every time I ask him when he wants to meet up, he's very evasive and either ignores me or tells me he has too much on his plate at the minute, but when I ask him if he's not interested he stresses that he is and he definitely wants to meet me soon. I've been stuck in this cycle for about 3 months with him now, and as I don't use dating sites etc any more, it's starting to get a bit frustrating. We've spoken on the phone, he knows what I look like, I know what he looks like. My question, therefore, is what's the hold up?! Why won't this guy meet me? Is this him telling me he isn't interested with some weird reverse psychology? Reply to this Question
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reader, jc2008 +, writes (25 October 2014):
Watch Catfish the TV show on viva. I had this when I was 18 and it turned out to be a faker. I never did find out who they really were. Sorry to be harsh but give them two choices. Meet you or you block them. You can't go getting yourself in deep with someone who won't meet you. Watch Catfish to see what I mean.
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reader, jek1993 +, writes (25 October 2014):
jek1993 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for that Mark - great advice, and in fact very motivating/comforting to be reassured it's probably not something I've done! It is a shame, I was very much looking forward to having a go in that imaginary ferrari...
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reader, Mark1978 +, writes (25 October 2014):
 Sadly its likely to be a case of him having something to hide. Many people who use dating sites do have something to hide.
He is likely not to be what he claims to be - ie not quite the six foot two, slender, rakish, handsome guy of 30 with a full head of hair and Ferrari on the drive, and in reality an anorak wearing fifty five year old, with a beer gut, false teeth and dodgy comb over that tries unsuccessfully to hide both his age and lack of height. Perhaps he has been telling a few porkies as to what he does for a living or his life in general that he knows you will find out when you firs meet? Either way something is amiss.
Or he is married/in a relationship.
You could well be his means of escapism from his partner. Someone to chat to and stroke his ego.
Either way I would find someone else. Either you will still be dithering in another 3 months or you will be his bit on the side in real life as well as online.
Mark
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (25 October 2014):
 My guess is he's in a relationship.
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