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writes:I have recently meet a boy a couple months ago and I really like him. The moment we started taking we instantly clicked and I feel like I've know him my whole life, I've never meet anyone like him and I feel as though I could tell him anything. The problem? He's 2 years younger than me and at the age I'm at, it's not socially acceptable. People are already making fun of us and all sorts of rumours are spreading. I have never had any boyfriends and I don't know whether I can go though the future ridicule, I really really like this guy and I don't know what to do. :( Reply to this Question
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (25 October 2014):
 Sorry, but you just have to give this boy up. At your age, the only appropriate thing is to date someone your own age. Even a boys a year younger will be considered too young for you, probably. Even when he's 16, and you 18, the difference will be too big. You'd have to wait until he was 18 too. So, wait 6 years, and see if you still like him then.
When I was 14 I had my first big love for a boy who was 18. It was one sided, he barely knew of my existence, but I was head over heels for this guy! I was in love with him for over a year! But there was no way I could make a move, he was too old, and everyone I talked to told me I'd AT LEAST have to wait until I was "of age", even though sex was the last thing on my mind. People just need to be "of age", both of them, in order for age differences to work out. I say "of age" with "" because what "of age" means depends so much on your culture and laws in your country. In Norway you are allowed to have sex at 16, and can drink and drive from 18. So 18+ and people would have nothing to say about it. But one of two being underneath the "of age" age, and it's a problem.
Sorry. Wipe your tears and focus on some other guy, and your feelings for this one will eventually fade away. Or wait, until you are both "of age", if you really like him that much. But staying friends would probably be best.
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reader, Forge  +, writes (25 October 2014):
 Don't try to date him. It'll just be a waste of time for both of you, and set you guys up for emotional distress in the future.I say this a lot, but until you have a car, money, and a job, dating is a waste of both of your time.Don't date him at all, not because of his age or any of that, but because it's just not worth it. There's no value, no reward, but to feel loved, When honestly, neither of you know what "real love" is.I know it sounds dumb, and you're probably angry at this point, but I'm saying it because I'm only a year older than you, so I know how it goes.I figured it out early on, I suggest you try to do the same. Dating him isn't a good idea, especially if people are starting rumors and it isn't socially accepted.-Førg€
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reader, jc2008  +, writes (25 October 2014):
12 and 14. Yeah that's not good. I'm happy for you in that you get on really well with him and i'm sure hes sincere and kind to you. But you are in reality a big sister figure. He isn't even a teenager yet and may or may not have started puberty whereas you are further on in your development. If I were you I'd walk away now before you get any more rumors etc.
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