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writes:Ok, what do you in following situation. If you went on a couple of dates with someone, you fancied them but you weren't sure how they felt as there were mixed signals and there were times were you felt they wanted to kiss you but didnt do anything. You find a new boyfriend and remain friends with original date. Then one day you find out the day after liking a status update, they unfriend you but keep all the friends you introduced them to? I emailed him saying "Hey man, I was about to send you a message to wish you best and say if you ever come to London, we should hang. But I noticed i'm not on your friends list. I was just worried I did something to upset you or maybe it was a mistake? Obviously we don't know each other that well but I did really enjoy hanging out with you. Anyway have a good day regardless." they re-add you and immediately say " Hey, thanks a lot for thinking of me. I'm not upset and we should definitely hang out. Did you find a new job? How was your goodbye party?". I don't know why I'm getting bent out of shape but I find it all totally confusing and contradictory, no explanation was offered as to what happened? Am I being desperate? Should I just move on. So very confusing...
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (4 August 2014):
 Whatyou did wrong was getting involved with FB in the first place. Everyday there is yet another reason to avoid FB. It gives people vauge and falacious senses of reality and so when reality comes along and bites them in the hind quarters they go,"OMG! what happened.
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reader, jc2008 +, writes (4 August 2014):
they refriended you and then engaged in a conversation. I'd say that they either had one of those "facebook clear outs" and got a bit trigger happy with the mouse or its just an accident. If they don't want to talk to you, they would have ignored you. So this is a guy you once dated right? perhaps you still have some feelings for him. I'd work on why you feel like that.
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reader, xTheAlmightyDuckx +, writes (4 August 2014):
 Okay, sorry but I found this post a bit hard to follow, so let me just confirm what you are saying. So basically you were dating a guy, but then you got a new boyfriend but remained friends with your date. (are you still with this new boyfriend?) Then one day after you/him liked a facebook update you realized this old date of yours had unfriended you, yet kept everyone you introduced to him. You then sent him a message asking what was up and all that, and he then re-added you saying nothing was up and its all good. If I have got this wrong please correct me. However if that is what you meant then it kinda sounds pretty obvious as to what may of happened. This old date of yours may of unfriended you due to you having a new boyfriend, as he may now of thought that your interests towards him had gone. He may of also unfriended you because he may of been worried that your boyfriend could of not liked you have an old date on your facebook. After all some partners don't like there partners being friends with exes, dates, etc. This old date was probably looking to build a romantic relationship with you, and as you got a boyfriend, he may of unfriended you because he didn't think being friends was an option. However since you messaged him asking what had happened, he could of suddenly got a spark of hope, hoping you still have an interest in him, or he could see that you obviously value him as a friend or that you are fine with the both of you still talking despite you now having a boyfriend. If you do have a boyfriend and you aren't sure whether you have moved on from this old date of yours maybe you need to take a break from your current boyfriend and decide whether or not you are willing to be in a relationship with him or whether you aren't ready for a relationship yet due to having connections with your old date. However if you have since broke up with your boyfriend, and feel you might be ready to get back into the dating game, then why not give him a message, or ask him out on another date, its up to you after all. Good Luck x
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