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male
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26-29,
anonymous
writes:So yesterday I was just having a normal online chat/convo with a friend I haven't yet met but no off and talk to a bit and the convo turned to sex - with watch others for money, as a joke. But then soon turned into details of what we would do and then he suddenly changes and asking if I was Bi/Gay. I said no. Then he said it was just a joke right, and of course as I am not out yet. I agreed but it's been playing on my mind and just wanted some other opinionsThanks H
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2014): A) Just because you know it's his picture and you've seen him around doesn't mean he ISN'T a sexual predator. Sexual predators come in all shapes, sizes, ages and genders. They can be younger than their targets. What they have in common is the desire and ability to manipulate people into giving them sexual gratification.
B) Just because you don't go to school doesn't mean you're not being set up to be humiliated. If this guy lives in your area (you said you've seen him around) he may well know people that you know. It's not just school-kids who get outed in this way.
Even if he's not a predator or a malicious pratical joker, he does sound like a bit of a perve. In my experience, any online buddy who brings up the subject of sex is actually testing the waters to see if you are susceptible to their advances. So I doubt it was a joke
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male
reader, jc2008 +, writes (2 August 2014):
What do you want from this guy? Friendship or do you fancy him? Once you work that out you can go from there.
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reader, Mark1978 +, writes (2 August 2014):
 I would stay well clear of this guy. The things he says are a clear indication that he is dodgy.
Whether you have seen his pics or seen him about doesnt change the fact that something is not right. Stay well clear.
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reader, Mark1978 +, writes (2 August 2014):
I would stay well clear of this guy. The things he says are a clear indication that he is dodgy.
Whether you have seen his pics or seen him about doesnt change the fact that something is not right. Stay well clear.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2014): Sorry I'm 17 not at school and snapchat is a picture sending app so I know it's him and I've seen him around just never properly met Sorry for the confusion but some good advice but please could you help me with another opinion with this info to thanksH (Op)
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female
reader, Honeypie  +, writes (1 August 2014):
 Hmm I think it sounds highly suspect.
1. you have no real idea who he is (JUST who he claims to be) He could be a girl from your school getting ammo for school start so she has some great gossip/ rumor fodder.
Now you might say, I don't think anyone would go to such an extend just to do that.... Well, I can tell you, yes some teenage girls (and boy) WILL. The whole " you are not out yet" just reeks of someone trying to get you to admit to something.
2. Making friends is a good thing, but STICK to "friendly" subjects when it's someone you meet online. Don't get caught up in sexual discussions. RESERVE those for REAL friends or partners.
3. Again, you don't KNOW this person and YOU are "hearing" warning bells. Something is telling you that there is something OFF with this person/conversation. TRUST your gut, girl. That is the best way to stay safe.
4. And who makes "jokes" about watching people having sex for money? seems odd.
I'd cut the contact here. Because of the weirdo vibe.
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reader, Dionee'  +, writes (1 August 2014):
 Yeah this guy sounds odd. Conversation like that is a red flag. I also think that meeting this person would be a huge mistake as he doesn't seem to be who he is pretending to be. Take that conversation as a slip up of a possibly dangerous predator. Discontinue contact with this person OP. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2014): I think this guy sounds like an online sexual predator. Don't meet him. Block him.
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