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writes:So, I'm going for a job interview in a couple of days. Nothing fancy, just an office job at a university near to where I was a student. I still have friends there, so thought it would be fun to return.Thing is, there's a guy that goes to the uni that I knew for while online from a dating site, and then facebook. Things faded between us and in the end he dated someone else, so I 'unfriended' him. I thought that would be a good idea.So what do I do if I bump into him? What if I get flustered? It's also a bit embarrassing that I am no longer Facebook friends with him. I'm a little bit of an awkward person, and if I bump into him I'll panic.Thankss :)
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reader, jc2008 +, writes (20 November 2013):
Hey, if it is more than 6 months ago that you broke off contact I doubt either of you will care and if you do see him you will both walk on by as if you were strangers. Don't worry about it.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (20 November 2013):
 It's simple you smile and say hi and keep moving... if he stops you you can say "i'm sorry i can't stop I'm almost late for an important appointment" then keep going.
you owe him no explanations or attention.
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reader, M Proops +, writes (20 November 2013):
I'm sure this situation happens all the time.Just be civil and polite in any exchange.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the help.
You're right. I have to look to the future and stop feeling low about it. I'll be sure to hold my head up high :)
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reader, shna  +, writes (19 November 2013):
 Just dont let it become aquard be polite and say hello
If you get caught in a sticky situation where you might have to socialise just be confident polite and make small talk it woll show him
You have moved on from your relationship and you are willing to act like an adult now about the situation !!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2013): Practice standing up for your decisions. You can't go into hiding when you chose to disconnect with someone. You're under 25; and likely to have to break it off with a lot more people over time. You can't go into exile, or become a hermit. You won't survive being gay; if you're socially awkward. You still have to save face.People take (or use) "unfriending" on Facebook like a stab in the heart. It's equivalent to deleting his phone number. You simply do not wish to socialize, see his updates, or communicate any longer. Done!If you happen to run into him in public, be gutsy. You already sent a message you're over him. Being awkward says just the opposite. You're admitting he got the upper-hand and kicked your legs out from under you. No way, dude! You hold your head high, and you stare right through him. Let your heart pound, your knees buckle; but let your face lie! He met someone else, big deal for him! It didn't phase you in the least, you'll do even better. Don't give him the satisfaction. If you let him see you fall apart, I will give you such slap!Your dignity is at stake here. No guy deserves the power to make you feel awkward; because he made another choice. You have a new job, and you're beginning a new chapter in your life. More opportunities will be flowing your way.Don't allow his rejection to blow itself out of proportion.People often don't realize what they've given up, and sometimes never really do better. They just find someone different. Whatever the case, it shouldn't continue to effect you. You have to grow a thicker skin to survive gay life, my boy. Rejection is as common as bad breath. Everyone will get it.Stand tall!
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reader, llifton +, writes (19 November 2013):
 Easier said than done to simply tell you not to panic, I know. If you have a tendency to panic and get flustered over most things then my advice probably won't help to change that lol. But I can help to put some things into perspective that might make you feel better.
When things don't work out in a relationship, deleting people from Facebook or social media sites is completely normal. I've deleted every single one of my exes from all social media sites. If we eventually became friends later we re-added each other. It's completely normal.
It doesn't sound like anything you had with this guy was of any real deep significance. It sounds like it was pretty casual. so don't give him that much leverage over you. just hold your head up high and know it is his loss that he's not with you! the more you act like you don't care if you bump into him the more it will probably burst his ego. Just play it cool and try not to let on that you're uncomfortable! :-) You'll be just fine.
Enjoy your new job.
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