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writes:There's a few 'teacher' questions on here already but I just wondered peoples opinions on my situation:)There's a young, female maths teacher at my school as she's basically everything I want to be in life, which sounds a bit weird. She's been so influential in my life, and I've always wanted to be a maths teacher as I tend to be quite good in it and I actually enjoy it. But I have so much admiration for this teacher, and I've gone to her when I've had some difficult times in my life though she doesn't realise that by just listening to me she's actually helped?? when I talk to her it literally makes my day, and sometimes I will go out of my way just to see her and talk to her. I'm on study leave now, and on my last day I gave her a card and she cried when she read it, and made me promise that I'd go and see her when I'm in for exams. I haven't seen her in a week but I miss her? Like I just want to go and see her! She doesn't realise that I look up to her so much, nor that she's actually helped me in my life. I want to clear up I don't believe it's a 'crush' as such, or anything along those lines because there's nothing sexual or anything like that! Is it normal to feel like this about a teacher?
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reader, jc2008 +, writes (21 May 2014):
Hey, what you describe there is a normal mentor\mentee relationship. I've been in the same situation as your teacher too. We like to hear from our mentees that we have helped them and it means a lot to us. In terms of friendships when you have left, well let her know via her work email how you are getting on but also be aware that she is still an education professional. Its also healthy to move on and meet new influences in your life through work or uni. Hope all goes well.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2014): You see something in her that a lot of others likely don't see, and naturally want to make her feel appreciated, considering how much she's helped you. I felt similar about a maths teacher actually when I was that age because I admired how she dealt with things, and helped me- getting me a GCSEs pass in maths was no mean feat Lol... However she was a middle aged woman, I had no strong emotional connection to her, though I did consider writing her a thank you letter, which I should have done :/ I think you're just a very sensitive, emotional person, and therefore from deeper connections with people... It's also probably hormones, brain chemistry as well, I know when I was 16/ 17 I used to have EXTREMELY intense, obsessive thoughts and feelings, which have toned down a bit, I'm 23. I don't think there's anything ABNORMAL about it.If you're confiding in her, she's more of a friend than a teacher. It's normal to care about someone quite deeply that helps you in difficult times. I don't see why not let her know how she's helped you, through a letter. You can stay in touch through letters when you leave and although it may be weird not seeing her every day, you'll get a couple of years older, and if you're still in contact, properly befriend her,meet up and stuff. Good luck and don't stress! :)
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