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writes:Okay so I thought I was straight until about 8 months ago.I was in a relationship with a girl we broke up cause she cheated. I got over it, sort of slept with a few girls and then one day I come across this guy on Facebook. For some reason I was instantly attracted. I sent him a message from a fake blank profile just too see if he would reply, told him I don't want to trick him or anything. Never got a reply so deleted it and tried to forget about him. It started with a dream of him (sex dream) so I openly followed him with my own account on Twitter and Instagram.I've commented to him, got a reply once, but he don't reply often to anyone. I did a little stalking just trying to find something to put me off him but all I found were a lot of things we have in common, which annoyingly has made this situation worse. I thought I was experiencing a delayed homosexuality but apart from the odd bit of gay porn I watch, picturing me and him guys don't do it for me. I tried a few things and it just felt wrong for me. Yet I still can't stop thinking about this guy, I got jealous when he had a new boyfriend now pleased they broke up. It feels like me and him are meant to be but I'm worried about so muchSaying something and him rejecting me (that'd hurt me at this stage) Meeting him and everything goes well how do I explain to family and friends I'm not gay or bi it's a special case?Meeting him being with him and it not working out?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2015): If you're a believer in love at first sight then maybe it is love at first sight for you maybe not for him. Have you given any real hints you are interested in him because maybe you give off a a straight vibe so he isn't going to respond to you. I know it's easy to find Mr or Mrs perfect online but there isn't any human connection. What if he is unclean or is really boring? unless you met him you don't know what he is like in person remember that. If you say you don't find other guys attractive but watch gay porn picturing him and you how far in your mind do you go with him? I think personally it's a hero fetish, because you say you've experimented but it felt wrong. It is either this is you're one true love in life (apologies I'm a romantic) or you just idealise him and are thinking deeper. Post again when it all becomes clear I'm intrigued to discover the ending
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reader, jc2008 +, writes (10 May 2015):
Hey, well my advice would be to ask yourself the following questions. Why am I attracted to this guy?, why am I occasionally looking at gay porn? Would I share my life with a guy if I could and what scares me about feeling this way? Do I want to be with this guy or be this guy? (E.g. Heroworshipping). Think about those things first and break down the problem in your head and then you will slowly start to see answers. I suspect there is a sexuality question there for you to answer but you need to be honest with yourself at this point, you maybe bi, a lot of people are so son't worry about it. You might be straight and envy this guys confidence for being different and open about it. Either way I'd love to know what happens in the end and I hope it all works out for you :+)
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reader, WhenCowsAttack  +, writes (10 May 2015):
Uhm you're kind of stalking this guy. If he wanted to interact with you or was interested in you he would respond. So knock it off.
I agree with the previous poster that there is nothing to tell your family, so quit worrying about that part, too.
You have an unhealthy obsession with this stranger. I personally think you need to take a deep breath, back away from the situation, and vow to leave him alone and clear your mind of it.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (10 May 2015):
 You are not in love... This is just a fantasy, you do not love this person, you dont know him. Good for you that you have avcepted a new side of yourself, but stop wasting time on some internet dream. Mert a guy in real life, then tell family and friends. As of now there is nothing to tell. Youre having a fantasy, thats all.
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