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writes:I enjoy getting oral and it fills so good, sometimes it gets so intense that i pull away and can't handle the sensation. How can I become more relaxed. Why am I way to sensetive.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2023): If my boyfriend ever used his tongue straight onto my clitoris it would be too sensitive for me to enjoy. I couldn't take the intense sensation either. If he however, used his tongue on top of the hood that covers the clitoris, and massaged it that way it was perfect. Maybe this would work for you.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (30 January 2023):
 YCNBS is 100% on the mark!
Your lover (male OR female) is going too hard at it. You two need to learn how to communicate and YOU need to tell him/her the go gentler and slower.
The clitoris has TWICE as many nerve endings as the tip of the penis. There are roughly 8,000 whereas the penis only has 4,000, So Yeah it's going to be WAY more sensitive.
"Teach him how you like it, then you can both reap the rewards."
Exactly! Men are not born KNOWING how to please a woman. And each woman likes different things. Also, MANY MANY women fake it rather than INSTRUCT their lover, which in turn means the poor guy thinks he is doing amazingly while fumbling around and causing more pain or discomfort than pleasure. IT IS YOUR job to HELP your partner pleasure YOU.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2023): If the sex you're having is leaving something to be desired, the good news is that figuring out what's missing can actually be really fun. it can be a great way to bond and ensure the sex you're having good sex. It may feel awkward in the beginning, but finding a way to communicate your desires is the first step on the road to having a satisfying sex life. Here are some tips-
It’s your responsibility to tell a person you’re having sex with what you want. Tell him specifically what you want at each moment. “I might want to have sex. Why don’t you kiss my neck and try to turn me on?” “Let’s stop for a minute so we can pull back and you won’t come so fast.” Do this every time unless he starts (and keeps) doing what makes you feel good every time.
Feel free to show them what you want, rather than just telling.
Your first mistake is not wanting to be explicit. Be forward, guys like that.
You can't expect him to decipher some convoluted combination of subtle hints. He might but not until long after you're both frustrated.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious  +, writes (28 January 2023):
 You cannot turn down your sensitivity but your lover can learn to be more sensitive. I am going to assume you are in a relationship with a man. The mistake men often make is to think "harder is better" whereas we ladies know, when it comes to oral sex, lighter and gentler is often better.
You two need to communicate. He is not clairvoyant. Everyone is different in what works for them. Perhaps he had a partner previously who liked it hard and heavy. Teach him how you like it, then you can both reap the rewards. There is nothing wrong with giving guidance DURING sex either. Gentle hints like "ooh, that feels good" or "just a little lighter" will guide him to what works for you and, in time, he should be able to do it without too much input from you.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious +, writes (28 January 2023):
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