Should I stay in a sour relationship with a much older man for the sake of my son?
Q. my boyfriend is 53 and I 21 have been together for 2 years and we have a son together he is a very mean person, he never shows me any affection and and when i try to confont him about it he says wait and see. which is funny because its been this ...
A. 18 March 2010: Lesson from poker: never throw good money after bad.
Translation: if the relationship isn't working, staying for your son doesn't really make a whole lot of sense.... (read in full...)
Guys, ... why do you watch porn?
Q. A question for all you guys out there... Why do you watch porn even if your sex life is brilliant? why do you feel the need to watch some random girl when you have your girlfriend? Do you know how it makes normal, non-plastic women feel when the...
A. 18 March 2010: There have been a lot of good answers already. I think we watch it because it is easy and pleasurable, because men like watching women have sex, because it relieves pent up sexual needs (and younger men can easily have such needs, even if they have ... (read in full...)
Is it legal for cousins to have a baby together?
Q. Is it illeagal to have a babby with your first cousin in the united states?...
A. 18 March 2010: The Great Google pointed me to: http://www.ncsl.org/default.aspx?tabid=4266 Answer: Depends on the state. In many states it is legal. However, it is not a good idea. The gist of it is that you are likely to share genes, and some of them wi... (read in full...)
My ex is using the kids to prevent me from being with the woman I love
Q. What should I do? I met this young lady in which I fell in love with problem is we do not have any children together but I have children from a previous relation. Well the mother of my children moved my kids more than 11 hours away and the only way ...
A. 18 March 2010: Talk to a lawyer and see what your options are. You should have gotten an restriction on her leaving the area when you got divorced. ... (read in full...)
What do girls really mean when they say "size doesn't matter"?
Q. For just about the majority of my life, I've heard all about that "bigger is better" stuff. Well I'm pretty much 18 now and I'm convinced that I won't be growing down there anymore since it's been that way since I was 12. Mine is 4.5 inches lon...
A. 1 March 2010: From a guy: What they really mean is that its what you do that counts. If your technique is good, you will be able to satisfy women with 4.5" just fine. The average is maybe 5" anyhow -- believe me, the half inch isn't going to make you or break ... (read in full...)
My b/f says it's the baby or him
Q. Hi I am 14 wks pregnant and been in my relationship with my boyfriend for 8 years and we have a 5 year old son together. My boyfriend is not happy about this pregnancy and says he doesnt want anymore kids and is forcing me to choose between him and ...
A. 1 March 2010: I would choose the baby. Even if you decide you don't want the baby, I would strongly advise dumping your rather awful boyfriend.
What a creep.... (read in full...)
My bi-sexual, drug addict husband gave me an STD!
Q. Two years ago, my dr said I had trich, and that someone was messing around. I wasn't a happy camper. Then in Oct 09, my pap smear came back normal with the HPV virus also. I was devastated. My hubby hasn't been working since Dec 03. I suspected he ...
A. 1 March 2010: Sticking with him is risky, and got you an STD. Move on before the news is much worse.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend said he would have me sign a prenup. What do you think of this?
Q. My BF if self-employed and his business is booming. He's also very ambitious. He tells me a lot about his work and the other day was talking about a client of his whose wife 'cleaned up' when they got divorced. He's also got a friend who recently ...
A. 1 March 2010: I would have mixed feelings. Sure, I can see why he might feel he needs to protect himself. At the same time, I'd worry that prenuptial agreements reduce the incentive to make the marriage work out, and bespeak a certain unwillingness to commit.
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Dry humping... Is she pregnant?
Q. Can my gf be pregnant? today we dry humped but we were naked, we didn't have protection to go any further, we did it for a short time then we stopped, and i never ejaculated during this time. I'm just worried that maybe the pre-cum can get her ...
A. 1 March 2010: It's possible. Not very likely, but possible.
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I am gay, and eveytime my male friend kisses his girlfriend I die a little inside
Q. ok let me introduce my self my name is kevin i am 16 i am a boy and i am gay but no body knows that i fell for this guy damn it he's so hot we're in the same class we're best friends and just my luck he got a girl friend recently and whenever we go ...
A. 28 February 2010: I wouldn't tell him about your feelings for him, since he is straight and in a relationship with someone else. The likelihood is that it would just make him feel uncomfortable. It could make him avoid you altogether.
Telling him you are gay, on ... (read in full...)
I'm gay. Should I tell this boy how I feel about him?
Q. im 15 and gay and so in love with this boy.but he says hes strait but in class he be looking at me and sometimes smiles.but he allways talking bout how he goes out with his girl.but when he fround out i was gay he acked different.sould i tell him ...
A. 28 February 2010: No, you shouldn't tell him -- all you would do is make him feel uncomfortable to no purpose, since he's straight. It would likely just make your life worse, not better.... (read in full...)
I have two men in my life, how do I choose which one?
Q. I am a 30 year old attractive and smart female. I was a former Ford model in teens and early 20’s, and after graduating college, I am currently a VP in pharmaceutical sales. How do I choose? Here’s some background on the men. Guy #1--We’ve ...
A. 28 February 2010: If you are struggling with this question, you aren't ready to choose.... (read in full...)
I am bisexual and I do not know how to tell my parents! Any advice?
Q. Hey, I'm bisexual and I dont know how to tell my parents. There's a part of me telling me not to tell them in case they don't agree with that type of thing. As far as I know most of my family are homophobics so I think if I told my parents, ...
A. 22 February 2010: I think you will need to tell them some day, but you might wait until you are in a serious relationship that you need for them to accept. The concrete nature of the relationship will make it harder for them to pretend it isn't real.... (read in full...)
I can't come out to my parents but staying in the closet is hurting my relationship
Q. dear aunts and uncles. this is a bit long and im sorry but im having a really difficult time at the moment and would really appreciate any help that you can give me. ive been in a relationship with my girlfriend for almost a year and a half now a...
A. 22 February 2010: Have courage and do the right thing: be honest with your parents about who you are. Even if it takes them some time to come to terms with it, it is the best thing in the long run. Your parents may struggle with expectations that have been ingrained, ... (read in full...)
I was raped by my ex boyfriend
Q. bout a month to 2 months ago i was at my babys dads house who i am not with we have been split for a while now well we were having sex and he asked me if he could put it in my ass i said no he said comeon y not i said no sorry i cant do that so we ...
A. 22 February 2010: As stated, I agree that it would be sexual assault, but my guess is that it will be hard to get prosecution because it's a messy case. But I am not a lawyer.
Agree with the advice you have received: stay away, he's trouble.... (read in full...)
Why do people think it is so horrible for sixteen year olds to have sex?
Q. I'm 16 and have been dating this boy for almost two years now. He's 19 and he was my first, but I wasn't his. I was just wondering why everyone seems to consider sex at my age so horrible? I have never once regretted my decision. Of course the first ...
A. 20 February 2010: Horrible is stretching it, but teenagers don't (statistically speaking, every individual case is different) make the greatest decisions. My guess is that the worry of most parents isn't that you will have sex, it is that you will get pregnant, get ... (read in full...)
I fear my behaviour is slutty, please help me feel better about myself!
Q. I need help. I'm 20 years old and I'm realizing now I'm turning into a slut:( I have a real hard time saying no to guys when it comes to sex or things like that. Its like I have no respect for myself. I know there are massive consequences for this ...
A. 20 February 2010: My advice is simple: Get counseling if you can. A professional is a lot more likely to help you work lasting change on something like this than advice from the internet.
The good news is that you are young, which makes it easier to change. ... (read in full...)
Am I too young to buy a sex toy? Should I?
Q. Thanks for your time i turned 15 a couple months ago and iv never had sex. But i want to try useing a dildo or a viberater. I dont know were to get one? and how old you have to be? plus i think its embarising to buy one at a store. My cousin got ...
A. 18 February 2010: They sell dildos on Amazon, but I have heard that the best vibrator is the Hitachi Magic Wand, and they sell that all over the place. It's not overtly sexual; you can pretend it's for your neck.
And you really should take your mom up on her offe... (read in full...)
I would like to care a lot less about the way I look
Q. I would like to care a lot less about the way I look. I feel badly self conscious if I go out anywhere thinking I look less than great. I don't judge other people by how they look but I always feel judged by how I look. Whenever I see a man on the ...
A. 16 February 2010: This is a longshot, but you might like The Four Agreements: http://www.amazon.com/Four-Agreements-Practical-Personal-Freedom/dp/1878424319
The author talks about magic, and other things that may be hard to swallow (were for me) but if you think of... (read in full...)
I need boys opinions on make up!
Q. Heya, this question is mainly aimed at boys :) is it true that boys prefer girls that wear no makeup than ones than wear quite a lot? or is it okay if we still wear a little but it looks natural? thanks...
A. 16 February 2010: Less is more. Most women use too much.... (read in full...)
Boyfriend says my work dress is too Sexy !
Q. Hi everyone .. A problem about the clothing I wear to work. My boyfriend says that the clothese I wear to work are too sexy and too revealing . BUT THEY ARE NOT! I do like tight body hugging dress / suits which suit my figure, but Im very care...
A. 16 February 2010: This may be controlling behavior, but: Having worked in several office environments, wearing sexy clothes to work can indeed have negative consequences for women. It will tend to make others take you less seriously. Maybe that's unfair, but in all ... (read in full...)
He's Pakistani, I'm White - Mum doesn't approve, Help!
Q. The Title basicaly says all. I am just a teen girl, and my boyfriend has Pakistani Grandparents, and Parents, but his family have been living in the UK since before his parents were born. So his skin colour isn't the same as mine basicaly and my ...
A. 16 February 2010: People are not very rational; we all hold absurd prejudices that make little sense. If we are lucky, we don't hold prejudices that hurt others. Which is a long way of saying: your mother is wrong to look down on people because of their ethnic group, ... (read in full...)
Advice needed. 15, pregnant and don't know what to do... please help!
Q. Im 15 I Am pregnant and dont know what to do.. Please help me? If your gunna judge than dont say anything....
A. 16 February 2010: Agree with FA. My advice is to get some support -- normally, that's your family, but without more details, it's hard to hazard more.... (read in full...)
Why do guys only see me as sex object?
Q. Im 20 and i've never had a guy on valentines day. I'm always single and lonely on v days:( All guys thinks Im cute and sexy and they only come to me cos of sex. Been single for 14 months now (no sex) and all the guys that have come my way just...
A. 15 February 2010: This is a very hard question to answer with so little information. It might be that you are hanging out with the wrong guys.... (read in full...)
We have a baby, I'm pregnant again and we have age difference problems... Should I stay or should I go?
Q. I am 28, my partner is 17 years older than me. We've been living together for 7 years now, relationship was always up and down, but generally alright. I have never cheated on him and don't have anybody in mind now) Now we have a 2 y.o daughter and...
A. 15 February 2010: Have you considered couples counseling? That is often a useful step. It may cement your feeling that you want to leave, or give you hope that you can work it out.... (read in full...)
21 years old and really struggling with my sexuality!
Q. Hi. sorry this is quite long but i really need some help. I'm 21 years old and really struggling with my sexuality. I have a BIG dilemma. about 2 years ago i had a 6 month relationship with the most amazing guy ive ever met. i loved everything...
A. 15 February 2010: I don't think you are ready to get back with your EX. It sounds like you might be more attracted to girls than guys. Particularly since you have lied to your EX and he doesn't know that you have been in relationships with girls, if you were to leave ... (read in full...)
Will sleeping with him make things better between us?
Q. I started talking to my sister's boyfriend's best mate which ive only just started talking to, and he said he liked me and i liked him. i went over his place and and we hung out for about 4 or 5 days and then he was saying he was bored. and i was ...
A. 15 February 2010: Sleeping with people does not repair relationships. Boy, would that be a simple answer! Doesn't work though. Whatever was going on, personality-wise, will still be going on... plus the extra pressure of a sexual relationship. You will end up feeling ... (read in full...)
He's married, but I love him!!!
Q. He's married, but I love him.... I don't really know what to expect back from everyone but I just need an impersonal sounding board. My frinds all say the same thing, he's married, he cheated on his wife so you can't trust him. But here's the deal...
A. 15 February 2010: There isn't any way to look positively at cheating on a pregnant wife. He's lying to someone with whom he made a serious commitment. She BROUGHT A CHILD INTO THIS WORLD FOR HIM, and all he can think about is his own needs. He's a skunk. And you are ... (read in full...)
He doesn't want to take away my virginity...
Q. why would a guy who wants sex with me so bad initially, all of a sudden think that he wouldnt want to take away my virginity for he's afraid I'd regret one day, in case that he's not going to be my boyfriend? i told him once, love-making's sp...
A. 15 February 2010: My take: He's not at all in love with you. Like most guys, that doesn't prevent him from wanting sex -- but he's not a jerk and wouldn't want to hurt you. Since you told him your virginity is special, he doesn't want you to lose it with him. In ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to have blood in your pre cum?
Q. hi, a medical issue that i would like to share with you all and need some advice. ok as my girlfriend needs me to take a blood test, she came with me and i gave a blood sample for test for normal blood sugar, urine sugar, jaundice and also she insi...
A. 14 February 2010: Blood in pre-cum is not normal at all -- get that checked out ASAP! It could be lots of things, but rather than listening to speculation on the internet GO FIND A DOCTOR.... (read in full...)
I was wondering why a guy would leave someone like me for someone like this?
Q. Guys, I need your opinion here. I am (what people say is) an attractive, tall slim brunette. I have only been with the one guy in my life and I put everything into our relationship. I was open, honest, trusting, always cheerful and fun to be ar...
A. 14 February 2010: I think you may have answered your own question: she's different. Maybe he was bored. (This happens -- no matter how fabulous you are, guys can become numb to the great girl they have and long for something different. Totally crazy but that's the ... (read in full...)
Is this spotting, or was something hurt during sex? I'm starting to worry!
Q. Hi everyone, I need advice please. I'm 18 and I lost my virginity to my boyfriend about 2 months ago. Very soon after, I went for my first visit to the gynecologist. My tests turned out fine and I was put on birth control. I have had quite a f...
A. 13 February 2010: If it keeps happening, _go to the doctor_. People on the internet are not a good substitute for getting it checked out by a medical professional.... (read in full...)
I sometimes, whilst masturbating, fantasize over men stripping me, does this make me gay?
Q. hi I sometimes, whilst masturbating, fantasize over men stripping me, does this make me gay? i mean its not that i have anything against gays or bisexuals, but i dont really want to be one! i still do fantazize over women, but when i fantasize...
A. 13 February 2010: No, it doesn't make you gay, or even bisexual. Lots of folks fantasize about things they would dislike if they were to happen in real life. Fantasy is... fantasy. For some, it incorporates things that push the bounds _because_ they push the bounds, ... (read in full...)
I lied to her and now she won't talk to me. How can I make this right again?
Q. I need help... i lied to my girlfriend about this girl that i liked way before she came along and i just told her the truth and she says she hates me now and i need to fix this before valentines day, we've been going out for 10 months almost 11 and ...
A. 13 February 2010: Figure out why you lied, tell her the truth and hope she forgives you. If she does, great! If not, at least you tried and can hold your head up.
Key lesson in dealing with other people: You have no control over how they will feel or behave. ... (read in full...)
I don't know why I don't feel like everyone else my age seems to?
Q. Ok so, I have no desire to have sex or do anything sexual at all. I’m in those years where I should be horny and thinking about sexual things but I don’t at all, I don’t even masturbate(Nor do I want to). And on the rare occasions that I do get ...
A. 12 February 2010: Well, could be that you are just a late bloomer. Some are.
Or, it could be that you are not highly sexed. See http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Asexual
Either way, don't worry about it. Being different is not bad (even though all the cliques, etc... (read in full...)
I love her and she's worked so hard to get her life together, but can I get over her past?
Q. Should I stay with my ex-girlfriend? I am 24 and she is 27. I love her and am miserable without her but her but her past bothers me. Before she was with me she had sex with at least 15 people (I've been with 7) and even had threesomes. She was ...
A. 12 February 2010: You know, sport, that's a very hard question to answer, because only you know what matters to you. Sounds to me as though you love her but she's a risky proposition in various ways. Only you can decide whether the upside outweighs the risk. A lot ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to miss a period after ovulating?
Q. Me and my boyfriend haven't had sex, but i've read on the internet that you can get pregnant without having sex but it's a lot less likely. My period is late but I know I ovulated. I was also under a lot of stress just after i ovulated and I know ...
A. 12 February 2010: You can't get pregnant without getting sperm in the vagina. I suppose that could happen without direct penetration, although it seems pretty unlikely. But if he didn't ejaculate while you were around, it's impossible.
If you are really freaked ... (read in full...)
My sisters breasts are bigger than mine, will he choose her over me?
Q. Hi, I am with a man, and I love him and he loves me deeply. But he is very, very sexual. He watches porn all the time and he basically has one of the highest sex drives knows to man. Well, I have this insecurity. I have really small brea...
A. 12 February 2010: Even if he likes big breasts, don't assume that his love for you comes down to a checklist of body parts. It just doesn't work that way. Love is a package deal.
In other words, don't sweat it. You are likely making mountains out of molehill... (read in full...)
Do guys care as much about weight as girls imagine them to?
Q. Do guys care as much about weight as girls imagine them to? Or do girls simply create this belief that most guys like slim girls? I'm in a fairly new relationship and i'm really happy with my boyfriend but i'm extremely insecure and am completel...
A. 11 February 2010: They care -- guys are exposed to the same ideals as everyone else -- but not as much as most women think. Women who are 10 or even 20 lbs over weight generally still look fine to the guys who love them. 150lbs is another story...
Perso... (read in full...)
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