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writes: I need help. I'm 20 years old and I'm realizing now I'm turning into a slut:( I have a real hard time saying no to guys when it comes to sex or things like that. Its like I have no respect for myself. I know there are massive consequences for this behavior but I don't know why I have no self control. I'm addicted to the attention. When a guy hits on me then its like then its ok to feel good about myself. I don't know if I'm a sex addict or whats going on. I was raised with good morals and have total faith in God, but its such an overwhelming feeling. I feel shame for my actions and I know if I continue I'm gonna get pregnant or never have a decent relationship! Please Help!!
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reader, HarryFlashman  +, writes (20 February 2010):
My advice is simple: Get counseling if you can. A professional is a lot more likely to help you work lasting change on something like this than advice from the internet.
The good news is that you are young, which makes it easier to change. But you need to take action to rebuild your self respect.
(I think your feelings about yourself are more important than how many you've had sex with.)
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2010): You are fulfilling a need to feel loved and liked by sleeping with these men. Perhaps if you realize that they are just masturbating into your body and tomorrow they will do so with someone else you can gain the proper perspective on their attention.
You can have your ego stroked without going to bed with them and then you have the added benefit of not being embarrassed by what you did. Find something that will make you feel really good about yourself, i.e. go to school and train for a really great career, learn to play an instrument, get a new haircut, get a new job, etc. Also, learn to love yourself...you will have to google this since I can't put in two sentences how to do this :) When you love and respect yourself, you will not feel the need to get acceptance from random men and will in fact feel indignant if they want to use your precious body for sex while disregarding the rest of you! Good luck, I wish you well.
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reader, Chantelle x  +, writes (20 February 2010):
 As much as sex is fantastic, having respect for yourself is most important. You arent the only one who is going through this, my friend was like you. She had a different bloke every weekend and was starting to get a real name for herself, as much as she was embarrassed the only option i told her she had was to go to the doctors and explain. I went with her for support and the doctor referred her to a special clinic where they really helped her. She is now settled down and really happy.
I would make an appointment with your GP, however embarassing you can get the help for this addiction and live your life a better way.
Hope this is a little helpful.
Good luck xx
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reader, leannebabe09 +, writes (20 February 2010):
Hi,
Dont worry every women loves attention of men. And some carnt control there self and just sleep around with them thinking they want them, but really they only want the sex.
And thats problerly what you are doing, many men are just idiots and only want women for sex and not for nothing else, they may say they will phone you back or want to see you agian, but they wont. So dont blame yourself!.
Try and go out with some friends and do a sporting activity such as baseball or something what you do in America. Go out and have family days with your mom etc.
Im sure alot of things will put your mind of sex and settle you down with a decent man and soon get married and have children when the time is right for you.
But you dont need to be sleeping around with everyman to make your self feel sexy and wanted.
I hope i have helped.
Just email me back if you need to speak to anyone
x
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