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*eather016
writes:why would a guy who wants sex with me so bad initially, all of a sudden think that he wouldnt want to take away my virginity for he's afraid I'd regret one day, in case that he's not going to be my boyfriend? i told him once, love-making's special to me and i would only want to lose my virginity to someone whom i really love and thus rejected his initial quest to have sex. i asked him to, whether he wanted to just simply lose his virginity to anyone or to lose it to someone special. and to be frank, if he doesnt want to take my virginity away because of that latter reason, i'd feel so terrible of myself! so what now, i m not special to him? =(just when I'm ready now, because i am in love with him already although he's not in love with me, he doesnt want me to lose it to him. why is that so? and why would a guy give such an excuse like "i m afraid i m not going to be with you in future". i questioned whether he never sees me as a potential gf and he said that "we cant predict the future"? to be honest, i laughed it off, at first.could you please offer your opinions on this? thank you heaps! Reply to this Question
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reader, HarryFlashman  +, writes (15 February 2010):
My take: He's not at all in love with you. Like most guys, that doesn't prevent him from wanting sex -- but he's not a jerk and wouldn't want to hurt you. Since you told him your virginity is special, he doesn't want you to lose it with him. In other words, he's a good guy, just not in love with you.
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reader, Neboraic  +, writes (15 February 2010):
Tell him that girls regret losing their virginity to someone who wasnt special, it doesnt matter if they dont stay together forever. It sounds very close to the - no sex before marriage idea, which most girls dont follow. Tell him, one thing thats worse than not staying with the person you lose your virginity to, is someone special saying no. Also tell him its an issue that can end a relationship before its time and that he should respect your decision.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2010): He's telling you he doesn't want anything long term and it will just be sex and no relationship. You can either listen to his words or ignore them.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (14 February 2010):
Sounds like he knows what he wants and that's just simple sex. No girlfriend, just sex.
However, that doesn't mean he's horrible enough to use a girl who's in love with him and take her virginity.
If you want a boyfriend then you need to get over this guy and find someone else.
He's doing you a favour by being honest.
Good Luck!! xx
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