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writes:I need help... i lied to my girlfriend about this girl that i liked way before she came along and i just told her the truth and she says she hates me now and i need to fix this before valentines day, we've been going out for 10 months almost 11 and i dont have any clue on what to do, she doesn't even want to talk to me please help!! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2010): Tell her you are sorry in a letter. Make it well thought out but not too long. Keep it simple. Apologize. Explain why you lied but you know how wrong it is, and if you mean it, promise to never lie to her again. Ever. Because you know how much it hurt her. Then tell her you love her and would love to spend valentines with her no matter what she decides in the end; and let her know you will be more than ready to talk when she is but that you are going to respect her wishes and give her the space she needs.Then actually do it. It'll be hard but make sure she gets the letter and don't call/text/or write at all until she contacts you.If it's past valentines day, too bad. You can always have a make up valentine day! Do not contact her at all. This might be the hardest thing to do but all you can do is tough it out.If you are needy and keep after her it will only kill whatever feelings she has left for you.
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reader, HarryFlashman +, writes (13 February 2010):
Figure out why you lied, tell her the truth and hope she forgives you. If she does, great! If not, at least you tried and can hold your head up.
Key lesson in dealing with other people: You have no control over how they will feel or behave. All you can do is acquit yourself in a way you can feel good about.
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reader, popeye78  +, writes (13 February 2010):
Hey, she is hurt mainly because you lied. Girls like honesty, trust me from experience. She now needs time to think things through. PLEASE if you do one thing give it to her, trust me on this. Show that you care about her and are thinking of her but give her space. This will show her that you respect her. Once she calms down and thinks things through she will be ready to talk and then you can give her your side of the story.. forget about a big valentines day but dont ignore the day altogether, alknowledge in a small way that you want her to be your valentine.. she will definatly be expecting somthing but dont over do it. I know you maybe feeling lots of pain now becuase you care but she is the one you hurt, YOU MUST REMEMBER THIS! control your emotions as best you can, at the moment they are your own worst enemy.. I hope things go well, good luck.
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