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writes:I think I'm having a mid life crisis or something. I'm 30, cohabiting with my long term boyfriend (nearly 6 years). Just about to move into our first house purchased together. I hate my job. I'm on medication for depression and anxiety (the latter of which is practically crippling). I'm drinking way too much. Smoke way too much weed. Have no real sex drive, yet form unnatural near obsessions about other men. WTF is wrong with me?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (25 April 2018):
 You have not hit mid life yet I hope, I assume you have just hit a bad patch. Lets talk about your work, if you hate it then why not try and find another job? The medication you are on is probably causing you not to have a sex drive, it is a very common side effect. Drinking and using weed is not going to help. Have you considered going to counselling and maybe seeking help from AA? There is nothing wrong with you, you are just going through a bad time at the moment and perhaps you need professional help.
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reader, goldie22 +, writes (25 April 2018):
Ah honey it sounds like you are having a really rough time. Firstly well done for recognising that there is a problem as thats the first step to healing. Go to the gp and tell them you need a complete meds review and check up. Tell them exactly how you feel. Look up online support groups. Force yourself to take baby steps each day a little at a time. Ive suffered anxiety myself and its dreadful i found mindfulness really helped me
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2018): Yes you can have an adulting crisis! Sounds like you are self medicating. Figure out what comes before the maladaptive behaviors and find something to replace the bad habits.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2018): Thirty is not mid life. At thirty you're still young.
You're obviously in a very bad place mentally. Something is throwing you off kilter, making you unhappy. It's likely you have no sex drive because of your drinking, smoking and pill popping. I think you should get both a physical and mental health check up. See what the findings are and go from there. You might also think about seeing a therapist.
Best of luck.
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